Can't wait for Saturday

[NCfuncouple98]

Hubbie and I are taking our male friend to the club with us Saturday. A month ago we had our first MMF together, but we do have kids, so it's difficult to find time to try again.

And just so you know, he was a vanilla friend. (I know, I know. Maybe should've been reading these boards first!) But it's been working out well so far, we are all very open in discussing the lifestyle. We have shared with him these boards, and he now has a profile setup on our local club's online site.

He wants to check it all out. He has no desires for any steady relationships right now, so he may end up turning into a swinger after all!

So with no kids, at the club, we should have a great time together! Can't wait! I'll be sure to come back with details.....

[ncmd_couple]

Ya'll have a great time!

S

[MrkLin]

Of course you realize we'll all be waiting for a full report....

We have a single male playmate who lives about 5-miles down the road from us. He's a good guy, and a great friend with or without the swinging. He's also a perfect gentleman who never assumes anything. I'll admit that I was nervous about him moving so close to us, but he never just drops by on us. He knows that Lin and I have lives, and he never intrudes. In fact, he's so busy with his career and hobbies, it's sometimes hard to get him to sit still long enough to come over for an evening of fun. He always needs at least 2 weeks notice.

Having friends like that is great, isn't it...?

[fun4Ds]

We sure hope you have a great time and everyone hits it off well.

[LFM2]

Have a great time!! Like MrkLin said, we'll be expecting a full report!

[NCfuncouple98]

Mr. NC has just finally looked at these boards. He can't believe I've sent 33 posts and he hasn't read them. So he's off work Monday and Tuesday, and will show him how he can see all the posts to play catch-up.

So he's excited to find the board with me - I've told him about it - he just works so much he hasn't had time to go through it yet.

We will give both sides of tomorrow night and give you details!

[JustAskJulie]

How did things go? You can't leave us hanging like this!!! lol.

[applevenus]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

How did things go? You can't leave us hanging like this!!! lol.

+1

reading about other people's experiences is as close as I'm going to get

I love the details

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by applevenus

+1

reading about other people's experiences is as close as I'm going to get

I love the details

Never say, "Never," my good man...

[NCfuncouple98]

Ok, so how many details should I give?

This is Mrs. NC - would like Mr NC to give his opinion too, so you'll get both sides.

There was a small amount of drama with our single man, (Who I'll refer to as SM) but I'll save those for another thread, because we did have a good time......

We got there around 8:30 or so, went to the back bar, where you can smoke, and is clothing optional.

We had a few drinks, talked, laughed, watched the scenery for a while. A guy came over and introduced himself, and he and his wife sat with us for a while. Funny, attractive couple.

Unfortunately for me, I snuck off to go freshen up, and discovered, um, how do I say delicately? Let's just say I was 5 days freakin early! I was devastated!!!! There's another post going right now about "Great Expectations". Well, here's a good reason NOT to be over-excited about your evening, because you just never know!

Anyway, Mr. NC doesn't care, but I did let SM know in case he wanted to go off on his own.

We did go upstairs, found a room, and did have a great time with it! Ok, there's just something about the attention of 2 men at one time that is so hot! The 3 of us then took a shower, freshened up, and went back downstairs. We were just laughing and having a blast.

So back at the bar..... The bartenders (BYOB, but they pour the mixers), like to bartend in the nude after a few drinks. SM was flirting with her - I encouraged it, wanted to make sure he DOES NOT think he's attached to us. We then watched her lay down on the bar, and my view was somewhat blocked, but there was liquor being poured on her and multiple mouths cleaning it up. Another girl then climbed up on the bar and they certainly had a good time together. Many single men also went up and kissed, caressed, etc., but the only ones allowed south were females. First time I've ever seen anything like it not on a tv screen.

Now I did find this very erotic, but both my husband and I just stayed back - we were not interested in participating, but enjoyed the show.

There were several females throughout the night giving SM the eye, so the 3 of us went back upstairs, and one particular girl gave him permisison to begin touching her..... Single men are not allowed upstairs in the club unless in the company of a woman, so Mr. NC told me to take him into the group room, and see if any of those females were serious and let him have his fun. Then he went downstairs.

We learned quite a bit about our communication (or lack of) on this one. I guess I assumed on this one "anything goes", and when SM ended up turned down flat by this same girl that he was just kissing, I actually felt sorry for him, so we went into the group room anyway, and I gave him a blowjob.

Mr. NC figured something was up, (haha), so he came back to the group room and watched for a bit, til I invited him over. We then headed back to a private room, invited SM, but he found another hot chic sitting on a couch, so we left him there and had fun together!

And after the fun & excitement, here's what we learned out of our weekend:
1. You can't over-communicate. Mr. NC was not thrilled about the whole group room play without him, and I assumed that it was ok. He wasn't mad, just didn't care for it. So we are both clear that we "always play together". Although he did find it funny that I thought of it as a "sympathy BJ" - because I just felt sorry for him! I really wasn't even that into it.

2. Don't let your expectations be too high, for any event. Even though we did still have fun, it was not everything I personally had fantasized about.

3. We wish we hadn't taken SM. The couple that we met, we really hit it off with, and they with us. They wanted us to go to the main floor and dance, but I personally would've felt guilty bringing SM and leaving him alone?

So, I did send a message to the other couple the next day, just letting them know how much we enjoyed their conversation, and would like to chat soon, and they agreed. That is the first couple we've met that caused Mr. NC to actually break out of his shell. He's very, very shy at first, and he really liked her! (as did I!).

So far, our swinging has been limited to MFM with 2 different men, and I wasn't sure about anything else. But finally meeting a couple that we both clicked with clinched it. We are ready to take that step. And this may not be the right couple, but at least we know where we are at in our swinging adventures, and what we are looking for and willing.

So on another post, I'll tell u about the drama of SM, who we think is getting a bit too attached to me. Have to find a way to delicately let that one down... But he is one of our best friends, so it's not going to be easy....

[lustylearning]

Wow! You guys really did learn a lot. It's so good that you talked through things!! I wish I could have seen the bartender

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by NCfuncouple98

So back at the bar..... The bartenders (BYOB, but they pour the mixers), like to bartend in the nude after a few drinks.

{snip}

We then watched her lay down on the bar, and my view was somewhat blocked, but there was liquor being poured on her and multiple mouths cleaning it up. Another girl then climbed up on the bar and they certainly had a good time together. Many single men also went up and kissed, caressed, etc., but the only ones allowed south were females. First time I've ever seen anything like it not on a tv screen.

Damn! I never get invited to the good parties...

Wait - that's why we host them!

I'm so glad you two had what appears to be a great time! And to think you were nervous...

Psssssttttt - why not e-mail that other couple and ask them if they want to meet you there next weekend...?

[LFM2]

I think you've learned some pretty valuable lessons and none that were too devastating to your relationship nor to the evening.

My husband and I learned early on to never attend an event with expectations. Whatever happens, happens. We also don't do separate room play. With anybody at anytime. We know others who are into separate room play, and that's OK, it's just for us. Thirdly, we wouldn't even have thought about taking a SM to a party. I mean we probably would, but we just haven't. I'm sure we'd feel the same way you guys did and would want him to be sure he had a good time and not let him feel left out in case we hooked up with another couple. What a tough thing to do -- especially when you wanna go play!!

In all, it sounds like a pretty good time was had by all... As for the bartender on the bar... I woulda loved to see that!! Dang... I miss all the good stuff!

[JustAskJulie]

Sounds like overall you had a great time. And you'll find that you will continue to learn with each new event/action. We always find that the next morning on the way home (or that night) we end up doing a lot of talking about what went on and what we'd change (if we wanted to change anything) about our own actions/reactions. It sounds like you guys have done the same.

[NCfuncouple98]

Originally Posted by MrkLin

- why not e-mail that other couple and ask them if they want to meet you there next weekend...?

Update. We did e-mail them and chatted for a while last night. Looks like we'll see them at the New Year's Party!