What's the Biggest Drama...

[daisy girl]

you've ever experienced while swinging and what did it teach you? For us, we have learned to trust our instincts and pay attention to warning signs.

[JustAskJulie]

The biggest drama I recall experiencing was in my very early years of swinging. We were at a house party and I was having sex with the host when his wife came out and started screaming at him because he wasn't using a condom. I didn't know it was their rule so it wasn't my issue, but I felt like it was and her reaction was such that it made me not want to go back to their parties for several months. When we finally did i was quite nervous but in the end she acted like nothing happened and I chose to "not go there again" with or without condoms. I guess that what I learned is that other people's issues aren't mine and I shouldn't let someone else's reaction affect my actions.

[BiloxiCouple]

I can't really think of anything at the moment. Can anyone refresh my memory?

[blanca]

The biggest drama is when one person in a large group forgets that he/she is not there just to make up numbers but is there to ensure that the person they are inter acting with receives as much as gives. This has happened and puts a major dampener on the evening

Our biggest drama in the ls by far has to be when we met with another couple who was a soft swap which was fine for us we thought we would give it a try. However, the wife seemed more into me than MrVan (which typically is not a problem) however, she was completely not getting involved with MrVan. We made several comments about this and she would state there was no problem.

So we gave this couple one more try and during our play session things were going well. At the time of the situation we were with our respective spouses, and she started crying. It broke the mood for us both and apparently there were issues there. We decided to leave and was really polite about us all just stopping for the evening. The husband walked us out of the bedroom, turned off the lights in the house and blew out the candles and then headed back to the bedroom w/out walking us out. We had to let ourselves out of their house and neither one of them said goodbye to us.

That was the most drama we have had! And I hope we do not have too many situations like this.

MrsVan

[Edison Carter]

Susan here -- I was having a foursome weekend and due to a great deal of persuasion from my friend Michael, allowed a new couple to attend,making it a sixsome. The couple is Kevin and Karen

A little history about Kevin and Karen. They've been married for five years and wanted to try a threesome and bashfully invited Michael, a longtime friend, to join them. Michael said that he while it sounded fun, he had a better idea. He suggested that if they're truly interested in exploring a fantasy sex life, that they may want to try our weekend event. They also liked the idea of a long weekend and not just a couple of hours. We got to know them over a couple dinners The last dinner we discussed what they're hoping for sexually so everyone is on the same page with expectations.

Everything went well, until Kevin was playing in one room and walked to the living room to see Tom and Michael totally working Karen over, much to her joy. He didn't get angry, we had prepped them both to expect some emotions to come their way, but he was distraught and came to me trying to figure out what to do.

Well, his wife had finished her romp, I led them both by the hand to my bedroom. We discussed what was going on and then I told them, "I want you to stay in here and fuck this out of your systems and don't come out until you do." Well, it worked, because they came out and everything was fine and they fucked like crazy the rest of the weekend.

[Pepper & Drew]

We were one of four couples playing in little clusters in one big room. We knew one couple really well, the other 2 couples we'd met that day. One of the clusters was a cute little blonde woman we'll call Wilma and a guy we'll call Barney. Barney's wife, Betty, detangles herself from whatever she was previously doing, and goes to sit by Barney, who apparently is having a great time. Betty's trying to get her husband's attention, and Barney apparently pushes her away. Betty leaves the room, and finds someone else to play tonsil hockey with. Barney gets dressed, leaves, finds her playing tonsil hockey and lots of finger pointing and choice words ensue. Turns out they were on the verge of divorce, and decided to start swinging.

Jeez, why can't the crazy ones wear signs?

Oh, and did I mention we were at Hedo at the time and this was our second day? We, along with the other 2 couples from the room, had to skirt them all week.

Pepper

[daisy girl]

Originally Posted by MrsVan

Our biggest drama in the ls by far has to be when we met with another couple who was a soft swap which was fine for us we thought we would give it a try. However, the wife seemed more into me than MrVan (which typically is not a problem) however, she was completely not getting involved with MrVan. We made several comments about this and she would state there was no problem.

So we gave this couple one more try and during our play session things were going well. At the time of the situation we were with our respective spouses, and she started crying. It broke the mood for us both and apparently there were issues there. We decided to leave and was really polite about us all just stopping for the evening. The husband walked us out of the bedroom, turned off the lights in the house and blew out the candles and then headed back to the bedroom w/out walking us out. We had to let ourselves out of their house and neither one of them said goodbye to us.

That was the most drama we have had! And I hope we do not have too many situations like this.

MrsVan

Wow!! That sounds like hell. The crying thing is a really big turn off...especially since swinging is suppose to be about fun.

[daisy girl]

Originally Posted by Pepper & Drew

Jeez, why can't the crazy ones wear signs?

Pepper

Sing it Pepper!!! That would solve everything. Luckily, we have grown wiser from our experiences.

BTW...too bad you don't live near us

[TNT]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

I can't really think of anything at the moment. Can anyone refresh my memory?

Well Billy, there was that one time that you...oh wait, this is drama, not laugh your ass off hilarious


We haven't really had any drama but we've witnessed it...We have a single female friend that is rather new to swinging.

We had set up a night of play with us, her and a single male friend of ours...things went well that night and on the drive home (she had ridden with Ted and I) she was checking her voice mail and all of a sudden said..."Oh My God, listen to this" ...it was the girlfriend of a man she had played with. She had no idea this man was attached as he had told her he wasn't. This woman had gotten into her boyfriends e-mail/cell phone, something and found our friends number and called her and told her to leave her boyfriend alone.

Our friend was almost in tears upon hearing what this woman had said. She felt she had done something wrong and that it was all her fault. Had she known he was attached, she wouldn't have played with him. Ted and I talked to her about it, explained it was not her fault and that unfortunately it was something that she was going to have to watch out for with single men.

We hate that this happened to her. A good time she had was ruined by one phone call and replaced by feelings of guilt on her part.


Teresa

[screaminggood]

We were at a house party that was bi-girls and mates only. I spent a lot of time with a new, nice girl, but nothing more than kissing and petting in the pool was happening. When I was in by the dance floor, another woman started dancing with me and going farther. She tried to pull me off to go with her and her s.o. (not a problem except I needed to pick up my own spouse on the way to the bedroom). The first girl came over and got all upset about it. The next day I had a long email about how she was so hurt and wanted a long-term, cuddly relationship---I didn't even know her before that night! Never did either of the girls that night....was a waste of a good house party! And worse, it's made my hubby scared of "lifestyle relationships." He's fearful of the drama if we repeat too often with the same playmates.

[two4youinswva]

We've not experienced too much drama in our 4 years of playing. When we see it, or the potential for it, we run like Forrest Gump.

The one thing that comes to mind was the time we were at a club event, and the lady of a couple we know tried to start kissing me. She was drunk, and they had a "no kissing" rule that she was about to break. Her husband saw her, came over, grabbed her arm, and off they went with him being obviously pissed off (at her, not me, thankfully). I believe she got an earful of Pissed of Husband Rant.

He apologized to me later in the night. I think he was more pissed off because she was very drunk.

I guess a little alcohol can ease the nerves, but a lot of alcohol will fuck up the entire night, and possibly even more.

[havefuninsun]

Our drama has been minor, thank goodness. And, what we've experienced was unexpected. The weirdest one was a husband who stopped play suddenly and told Mr. Fun and I that we needed to get dressed and leave. We just looked at each other like WTF happened?? Later, he said he wife started to feel uneasy, but from our seats, it looked like she was having a grand time. We think the husband started feeling bad. The irony was that he claimed to be a very experienced swinger, and his wife the "delicate little flower." -- she was definitely not that innocent, and seemed to get into the situation with luster and with ease ... needless to say, we haven't seen these folks again.

[des1re06]

Our biggest drama so far -

We met a "couple" for dancing at a club (vanilla but swinger friendly). He was attractive and we proceed to talk and have a good time dancing. Hubby had no interest in her at all, but made the best of it by small talk.

After awhile, we noticed she was getting pretty drunk. Well, she was almost there when we arrived, so no surprise.

She started having chest pain! So, they left.

Come to find out later that they were not married to each other, but to other people. They totally misrepresented themselves.

I guess our story is kinda lame, but it's the only one we've had.

Mrs. D

[Hot Raleigh Cpl]

The most annoying was a weekend we'd planned in Charleston SC (great town!).

When traveling, we like to pre-arrange adventures, so we don't wind up with "dry" weekends. We'd been in touch with some playmates -- several single guys, and one couple who claimed to be experienced swingers and wanted an adventure for their anniversary.

The couple's emails sounded enthusiastic... at least the ones written by the husband. But L and I have a rule: we don't believe the husband -- or their interest in playing -- is real until we hear from the wife. Her emails had the right words, but the vibe was lukewarm. We were skeptical, but made a date anyway.

The appointed time came and went without them calling. We've been stood up before, so we were disappointed but not surprised. Two hours later, they called. The husband says we at Chinese for our anniversay dinner and it took a long time, are you still ready? We said, let us talk to the wife. She told us she was tired, she'd eaten too big a meal, blah blah. We could hear the husband in the background telling her to tell us they'd be right over. She hemmed and hawed, so we gave her an out. Told her that since she was tired and over full, we figured she probably wouldn't enjoy the experience, and we should just plan to play some other time. Cussed ourselves for letting oursevles get sucked when we knew better. Oh, well.

We had dinner, spent a few sweaty hours tearing each other up thinking about the next day's adventures, then went to sleep.

About 4am, the phone rang. The husband of the couple. "My wife's finally asleep. Can I come over now?"

We were soooo P.O.ed! We told him off, hung up, and turned the phone off. We were so steamed, though, that we couldn't go back to sleep.

Just reinforced our belief that unless the woman is hot for the adventure, it ain't gonna happen.

L and I are fortunate to have encountered very little drama in the years we've played. Most of it has come from couples; very little with single men.

S and L, Hot Raleigh Cpl