trying the club scene again

[Ed & Bunny]

Well tonight we are going to try an onsite club again. I hope it is much better than the last disaster. Not sure if I posted about it, but everything went wrong. We went in with too high of expectations, then we had to deal with some rude people, and last it seemed that the club was filled with wannabee's who found a place to dance half dressed and be able to close the doors on a room and screw.

So we are going to a different place. From the site it looks like it has a crowd more our style, and its rooms do not have doors. Most importantly though, we are only expecting action from ourselves. If something else happens, its a bonus.

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by Ed & Bunny

... and last it seemed that the club was filled with wannabee's who found a place to dance half dressed and be able to close the doors on a room and screw.

Good luck as to your planned outing.

I am one of those that would take a room with a door over an open play area. I am not really an exhibitionist, and rarely do that. So I guess I'd be considered by you a wannabe that likes to dance half-naked and then go to a room and "screw". I guess I'm curious as to your comment as to how one is a "wannabe" if they aren't exhibitionists and there are clubs (at least in my area) that do respect that choice and put doors on some of their rooms.

Yes, I am aware there are some that show up with absolutely no intention of swinging because they don't swing, but I know I'm not the only one that takes their playtime to a room with a door more often than not.

[good times]

Good luck, hope you have a better experience this time. Going with no expectations is the best plan. We have been going to clubs a few times a month for over five years and that is what we always do. We always tell people to go with no expectations but be ready for anything.

[swingcouple69]

I do hope that the both of you have a wonderful evening this eveing! As long as you can enjoy each other and a good night out, nothing is a loss.

Although, I am a little curious as to your thoughts of the other club that you've attended. I thought, and we all know what happens we we assume (lol), that the purpose of an on premise club was to go and enjoy yourselves with other like minded people. As well as the ability to relax and take your shirts off or "dance half naked" since you can't do that at "vanilla" clubs without getting tossed out. Also, I don't think I'd be very comfortable playing in a club that the rooms have no doors. But the again, everyone has their own preferences.

At the club that we attend, we have only attended one so far, there are open rooms, rooms with doors, "spectator rooms" with glass windows, a video room and couples only rooms. As well as a dance floor with a pole on it, a dinning area and a hot tub area. I like it because there is something for everyone, so to speak.

Was it that there were half naked people dancing and doors on the rooms the only things that you disliked or were there other things?

I think I may start a thread asking about club expectations!

[LikeMinds321]

Sounds like there is a BIG story to tell about your last club experience...

and there will be another to tell after tonight.


Please come back tomorrow and give us all something to discuss. Hope you have a better time tonight.

LM

[Ed & Bunny]

Time for a big reply here.

RPU3, We know everyone has their comfort levels and respect that. I dont even have a problem with there being some doors. But the club we went to last had about 16 rooms and at one time all the doors were closed, and the most we ever saw open was 2. And while watching who was going in we saw mostly single couples. It also had alot to do with the whole atmosphere in the club and the crowd. Talking with some others tonight they gave the exact same opinions of the place, so we know now it wasnt just a that night occurance. Maybe I was a bit harsh in the way I stated my opinions. We just now know it wasnt the place for us. It is geared for more of a wilder club type crowd.

Good times, we did make a big mistake in going the last time with expectations, and it didcause some of our disatisfaction with the whole night. We wont make that mistake again.

Swingcouple69, the half naked dancing really didnt bother us. We are nudists and have been to many naked dances. It was mostly the attitude of the crowd and all the closed doors. Plus the big downfall was when the husband of our host couple who gave us our tour approached us afterwards. We sat down with him and his wife to start talking. All seemed well until some other friends of theirs arrived. The wife then turned her chair away from us and started talking to them and proceded to ignore us. No "why dont you two go mingle" or anything like that. Just blew us off. It really sucked because we both found them very attractive and would have been willing to let something happen.Otherwise it was a very nice place. It was well set up and very clean. Very nice dance floor, great kitchen, pool tables, hot tub.....If it wasnt for the type of crowd we would be happy to go back.

[Ed & Bunny]

Ok now for tonight, or is it now considered last night?
Either way. Tonight was so much better. We had a great time. Friday nights at TMC are sort of a hang out night. They dont have a DJ that night but do have music playing. We were made to feel welcome right away. We got the usual tour, main area with bar, lockers, showers, hot tub, and play areas. Afterwards we were introduced to some of the other couples there. ( Our understanding is that this is something that should be done for newcomers at most clubs, but wasnt done at the last one.) We got a good conversation going and then got into playing a foreplay type game. Not sure who was having more fun, those of us playing or those watching. Afterwards we spent some time in the hot tub then came out and chatted some more. We topped the night off by going upstairs and making a bit of noise. Oh all right, we screwed our brains out. We had a good enough time that we paid for the entire holiday wekend. If it wasnt for our dog at home we prob would have slept there. Cant wait to go back tonight when they have a larger crowd and a DJ with dancing.

[swingcouple69]

Thats great! It sounds like you have found the right place for the two of you! I'm sorry that your first club wasn't a good fit. But it sounds like you had a great time. You'll have to come back tomorrow morning (lol) and let us know how tonight goes as well!

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by rpu3

I am one of those that would take a room with a door over an open play area. I am not really an exhibitionist, and rarely do that. So I guess I'd be considered by you a wannabe that likes to dance half-naked and then go to a room and "screw".

We are the same way. We prefer doors with locks and privacy with those we are playing with.

We've always defined swinging by what we want out of it - not what other people at the club are hoping for. If people go to a club hoping to see us have sex, they are going to be SOL.

Some people have an "orgy pile-up porn shoot" mentality. That doesn't interest us in the least. Though I doubt I would call them "wannabes" just because they don't satisfy my expectations.

Spoomonkey

[BradAndJanet]

Originally Posted by Ed & Bunny

Ok now for tonight, or is it now considered last night?
Either way. Tonight was so much better. We had a great time. Friday nights at TMC are sort of a hang out night. They dont have a DJ that night but do have music playing. We were made to feel welcome right away. We got the usual tour, main area with bar, lockers, showers, hot tub, and play areas. Afterwards we were introduced to some of the other couples there. ( Our understanding is that this is something that should be done for newcomers at most clubs, but wasnt done at the last one.) We got a good conversation going and then got into playing a foreplay type game. Not sure who was having more fun, those of us playing or those watching. Afterwards we spent some time in the hot tub then came out and chatted some more. We topped the night off by going upstairs and making a bit of noise. Oh all right, we screwed our brains out. We had a good enough time that we paid for the entire holiday wekend. If it wasnt for our dog at home we prob would have slept there. Cant wait to go back tonight when they have a larger crowd and a DJ with dancing.

Excellent! I'm so pleased for you.

-B

[LikeMinds321]

Ed and Bunny ~

Swinging will take you on a roller coaster of emotions and feelings. To handle the "ride" we decided early on not to get discouraged with things we came across that we didn't like. I've seen many people become jaded because they couldn't get past their disappointments and kept too close a tab on the negatives of swinging rather than the positives.

You are at a great point now to decide how you will move forward; you've experienced some things that displeased you and other things - like last night - that made your night fabulous! Focus on the good and you'll be happy swingers.

Glad you had a great time last night!

LM

[Ed & Bunny]

Originally Posted by swingcouple69

Thats great! It sounds like you have found the right place for the two of you! I'm sorry that your first club wasn't a good fit. But it sounds like you had a great time. You'll have to come back tomorrow morning (lol) and let us know how tonight goes as well!

Oh yes we found the right place for us. Last night was even better. It was a full house and we didnt end up playing alone. let us just say it made for great memories and of thoughts of great times to come.

[Sico_tiko]

Wish u good luck in finding a new Nice place that u enjoy, i pity u for what u were in in the last ones

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by Ed & Bunny

Oh yes we found the right place for us. Last night was even better. It was a full house and we didnt end up playing alone. let us just say it made for great memories and of thoughts of great times to come.

Glad to hear that! I'm wishing our club had a hot tub. Sounds like that place is pretty well set-up.