How the weekend turned out. UGH!

[Cerberus]

Well lets see..........Friday night the big night. Had all plans made with friends etc.

8:00PM Everybody no shows. Her best MMF friend no shows. Our vanilla but open minded friend no shows.....he wanted to come over and have a smoke with us.

I had planned for us to mess around until about ten then meet another couple who was interested in joining us this evening, So we went to our fav. local bar and met them. A very cute older couple....now i say older because they are both 40+ I am 41 and my bride is 25.. so i consider myself younger..........He is playing around with the Mrs around the pool table playing tag ass etc. His Mrs is LOL becoming jealous ( i dont blame her and understand) We talked a bit and i told her if i was 45 and had a chance to hook up with a 25 year old like her id be all over it also..........

So we head back home... I took his Mrs in my car and my Mrs went with him.

We get back home and my Mrs says he was all over her LOL

OK so we get home talk .....have a real good talk and His Mrs. Gets nekkid and it seems like it is on...................UNTIL


His Mrs Gets sick Im not talking upset tummy Im talking full on puking etc......OH MY.

No swap no nothing Just him and his mrs in the guest bathroom puking up a storm..................

We invited them to stay the night in the guest room and we went to sleep..........




SO nothing happened. at all but we had fun and lots of it.

We tried to hook up with another couple.


SO next day the Mrs is well lets try to hook with that couple you have been chatting with on MSN... ok i say.

This couple is an interesting Mixed couple.........I set up a time to for them to come over and lets have an interview.. I made sure they understood NOTHING was going to happen but just a nice visit to get to know each other.

He is Turkish 31 and muslim Does not drink or smoke
She is Honduran 22 and very OMG HOT so I think.

The Mrs notes thay are the most NORMAL people we have met but also have very interesting rules.

1. full swap only in seperate room (she doesnt like seeing him with another)
2. NO oral at all for any reason on anybody for anything
3. she doesnt even want tobe close enough to hear him.


Red flags with my Mrs. she said she wouldnt like that at first because if she says no and im not there to protect her she wouldnt feel comfy.

Then she asks me what I think of her.. I tell her.......ooops LOL she say i think your getting the better part of the deal.............I laugh.she says yeah i can see you like her... I say I would hit it several times.........for the first time my Mrs say Im jealous I dont know why but im jealous...ok thats cool......

Well we tell them again nothing is going to happen and the Mrs and i need to talk......they leave graciously and we talk.


I think the Mrs is out for two reasons:

Seperate room deal ( I am way fine with that cause her comfort comes first)
She is jealous of the young lady ( i dont know why) maybe because this young lady looks like one of those hot ass resort dancers I dunno)


OK so that was Saturday night...........



We do play a bit on Saturday day.....we had an ad that a single guy had responded too and she talked with him several times.. he comes over and we mess around a bit. we take turns pleasing her and he left.......the guy had a better online personality then in person.



ALL IN ALL the weekend left us a bit blue ballish (to use her terms)


Our unicorn has hooked up with a guy and she said prolly wont see her tell after the holidays... I understand.......

My wifes best friend (very hot bi girl) is hooking back up with her estranged husband.. they have been seperated for 6 months..now they are seeking counseling........


Here I am today Tired and typing

[socolais]

Yeah, some weekends are better than others, but they can all have their fun moments. Separate rooms (or cars) does require some trust in everyone else - we can go either way on that one. But no oral??? We haven't played "no oral" in so long, I may have forgotten how.

The two rules other folks sometimes mention that make me wonder, why are they here. No kissing and No oral, hell that's the fun part....

And I love your "puking up a storm" comment sort of like calling Ralph on the ole porcelain cell phone.....

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Cerberus

We talked a bit and i told her if i was 45 and had a chance to hook up with a 25 year old like her id be all over it also..........

Way to make her feel better...

For the record, my wife is 51 and she doesn't have to worry about being upstaged by a younger woman. Personally, I'd be reluctant to swing with a woman who is that insecure.

Spoomonkey

[Cerberus]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Personally, I'd be reluctant to swing with a woman who is that insecure.

Spoomonkey

Yup thank goodness we didnt.....she would watch him flirt I could tell...for all i know the sickness could have been to keep him from doing it.......

[JP51]

Looks to me that you guys we lucky, in that they got sick prior to play time....

now as for the other couple., no kissing, no oral, humm... seems to me you ducked another one... count your blessings and move on...

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by Cerberus

Yup thank goodness we didnt.....she would watch him flirt I could tell...for all i know the sickness could have been to keep him from doing it.......

I seriously doubt that. When you were at the bar, how much was she drinking? If she wasn't comfortable with him being all over your wife in that setting, then she may have been slamming back drinks to try to calm herself, to keep from ripping him a new one, or just to keep her mouth/hands busy. But then again, when we meet in 'vanilla' settings we don't generally get all touchy feely with our potential playmates and her hubby acting that way may not have been what she was expecting.

And I agree with Spoo, your comment about a 45 year old practically drooling over someone 20 years his junior is something you say to the guys....not to that 45 year old's 40-something wife. Not an ego booster or a soothing kind of statement. The save there would have been complimenting her, not highlighting your much younger wife's perceived hotness and how could any middle aged man in his right mind not want to hit it?...she may have even been slightly insulted.

As for the friends that were supposed to show up on Friday night...what happened there? Pity the whole weekend seemed to be a bust, but sometimes the stars don't line up.

Maria

[lovinher]

Originally Posted by cerberus

I had planned for us to mess around until about ten then meet another couple who was interested in joining us this evening, So we went to our fav. local bar and met them. A very cute older couple....now i say older because they are both 40+ I am 41 and my bride is 25.. so i consider myself younger..........He is playing around with the Mrs around the pool table playing tag ass etc. His Mrs is LOL becoming jealous ( i dont blame her and understand) We talked a bit and i told her if i was 45 and had a chance to hook up with a 25 year old like her id be all over it also..........

Sorry dude, but what the hell were you thinking? If you are 41 and your wife is 25 there might be a point where you are in her positition. Who knows, maybe you already are.

[Cerberus]

Lets not make this pitty time for anybody or me. The conversation was more of understanding her POV and that sometimes guys act this way. SHe looked at me understandingly. and agreed.

After all guys its about each of us watching each other enjoy life and love........If my wife hooks up with a young oily bohunk I am happy for her and enjoy

When she sees me hooking up with her young friends she is happy for me......


Calling me out for not having pitty is just wrong......the idea of swinging to me is letting my SO enjoy.........

The lady I was talking to understood this and was getting ready to enjoy me..while i maybe 41 i dont look it and I have a helluva lotta fun.........

I think it better her see it for what it is then anything else.....


Besides that she knew our ages before we ever met and saw our pics.........

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by Cerberus

We talked a bit and i told her if i was 45 and had a chance to hook up with a 25 year old like her id be all over it also..........

LOL, when I read that I honestly said WOW. Now, I'm 35 and pretty darned confident; however, if you would have said this to me that would probably have been near the end of the evening. That honestly was a very rude and insensitive comment to make to a woman in her 40s. I would have been quite rude and insensitive in my reply I'm sure.

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by Cerberus

Besides that she knew our ages before we ever met and saw our pics.........

It has nothing to do with seeing pics and knowing your ages....and everything to do with her hubby possibly acting out of line b/c he's over-excited and her not necessarily wanting to put a damper on his enthusiasm by telling him to knock it off. Then add in the other's guy's (your) comments that could be construed as 'yeah, all men act like dogs when confronted with a hot young thing'. I would have been feeling pretty low about that time.

Did you ever hear back from them? Was she drinking too much and that what contributed to her illness that evening? What about your no shows on Friday?


Maria

[lovinher]

Originally Posted by Cerberus

Lets not make this pitty time for anybody or me. The conversation was more of understanding her POV and that sometimes guys act this way. SHe looked at me understandingly. and agreed.

After all guys its about each of us watching each other enjoy life and love........If my wife hooks up with a young oily bohunk I am happy for her and enjoy

When she sees me hooking up with her young friends she is happy for me......


Calling me out for not having pitty is just wrong......the idea of swinging to me is letting my SO enjoy.........

The lady I was talking to understood this and was getting ready to enjoy me..while i maybe 41 i dont look it and I have a helluva lotta fun.........

I think it better her see it for what it is then anything else.....


Besides that she knew our ages before we ever met and saw our pics.........

All in fun guy. Nobody called you out.
That's what smileys are for. Relax.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Cerberus

Calling me out for not having pitty is just wrong......

Interesting choice of words...

I didn't think you lacked pity. Pity is something you feel for an abused animal or a stupid person trying to work an ATM.

I'm suggesting, instead, that you lacked class. To suggest that a man would automatically go for a 25-year-old over a woman in her 40s is silly. Personally, I am attracted to an attractive woman, regardless of when her birth certificate was carved out of stone...

"Of course your husband is after her. She's 25 and you're... Well, errr... Old."

Those are the kind of words that should precede court-ordered enrollment in charm school.

Spoomonkey

[crazycatz]

Very well put Spoomoney, couldn't agree more.
You (the OP) acted like a dick....and you made it seem that automatically age is a factor in attractiveness...it's not. Your job is to make the woman you are playing with feel attractive...not the opposite.
If that was me I would have given you a right bollicking then and there!

[lovinher]

SLAM!!

Guess I was wrong.

I doubt his foot in mouth comment was intentional. I think he's just clueless as to how somebody would take a comment like that.

He might find out soon enough.

[tribbles]

I am 41 and my bride is 25.. so i consider myself younger

So if I hang out with a play partner of 22, can I be younger too? I know...I'll get to know a barely 18 and maybe I'll be too young to drink!


I admit you don't sound like a mature >40 male to me