This isn't the norm, right?!

[dcwsgirl]

I'm really interested in hearing the perspective of those here.


We went to our 4th lifestyle party this weekend. We were invited to this one at the previous party -and we were really excited to go. Great people.

While there, a man I had <ahem> spent some time with last weekend, was going out of his way to try to make dcw & I uncomfortable. We were talking to someone and I sensed something seriously wrong when I looked at my husband..then turned to look at what had him so upset. dcw and I watched the smug bastard stand in the hallway and describe to a friend of his exactly what he did with me the previous weekend. He made a giant show of showing how he bent me over, etc etc. He was beyond rude and disrespectful of both of us .....and he managed to make me feel like a whore. It was pretty awful. We acted like we didn't see a thing. I was proud of dcw. He made no move to go rip the guy's face off. He just looked at me and told me that if the asswipe came near me to put him down like the dog he is. I love that man. Anyway....we stuck around for awhile, determined to not let him get the best of us.

Awhile later we left and we went to a club that we usually go dancing at. I did some real serious thinking about everything and to be honest with you all - I got angry. Really angry. I mean, I'll be the first to admit I'm at one with my inner tramp - however I play by my rules and make my choices and I allowed this little fuckwit to make me feel bad about me. Ummm, no.

We went back.

We got there, ran into the host, met up with a couple of friends and started to party in our room. Loud mouth had the audacity to show up at our room door, rubbing his hands together and making the comment, "Ohhh play time!" as he tried to enter our room. dcw told him a firm "No."...and the guy says, "Well then can I just watch?" - dcw didn't get the opportunity to respond because our party host was standing by the door with dcw and told LoudMouth "He said no. Go now." and gently pushed him back out the door and closed the door in his face.

Ahhh

dcw & the party host got the opportunity to have a long chat and the host wanted to know why we bailed. dcw was straight-forward with him and told him exactly why we left. LoudMouth doesn't seem to have a problem telling tales out of school and it's *not* okay. The host was fabulous. He really was and he was very supportive.

Long story short - it was a close call, but between dcw (my super hero) & our party host - they made sure I understood that *my* actions were not the issue. I had already made peace with the situation in my own head- but I won't lie and say that them making sure I got it was overboard. I needed to hear it.

Please tell me this sort of garbage isn't the norm. I know it's not - but tell me anyway. LOL


~dcwsgirl

Sounds like scum to me!!

That is kind of why we are leary of meeting people close to our area.

[JustAskJulie]

I won't lie and say he's the only one out there. I've even encountered single women who have no idea what discretion is. Luckily tho, they are all pretty rare and the likilihood is that this will be the only one you run into.

[VegasLee]

Most are not like the guy you ran into but in all fairness, we have heard the same from single women, men and other couples trying to tell us about their "parties" with others.

Personally we do not care. We are more interested in our own fun with people.

Don't ever let someone like that get to you, I would never allow someone that type of power of me.

[dcwsgirl]

Thanks.

Don't ever let someone like that get to you, I would never allow someone that type of power of me.

Vegas Lee - That's EXACTLY why we went back.

Screw him.

Or not.

[Brit_Pair]

I don't know about taking this guy's face off . . . I think your husband showed remarkable restraint by not removing his head at the 1st vertebrae.

Kudos to you both for refusing to allow the idiot to ruin your party.

[hmr]

Fortunately we have not run in to these types of knuckledraggers before.I'm sure they are around because I've seen them in the real world, but, fortunately not in the swing clubs or parties we have attended.

Thankfully you had a host who understood how to handle it the proper way. Now, should he be banned for a while?Food for thought.

Mr. hmr

[yawanna]

No this isn't the norm but sometimes there is a guy or a couple who think they need to boast about past encounters - which is seen by most as the total indiscretion that it is - to be considered as potential playmates to others.

I feel for you as nothing has ever so embarrassed me as someone I played with bragging about it later. And that's what this guy was doing, bragging. He was also letting everyone know that he can't be trusted and he has no concept of discretion or respect. And he then tried to barge in on a group in a room? flamethrow

I agree....this guy shouldn't be invited anywhere ever again by anyone.

[Botcpl]

Ninety per cent of the population is made of people who respect other human beings; it's the other ten per cent you need to watch out for.

Personally, I think the SOB should be keelhauled.

You, your husband and your host showed a lot of class, the other fellow: third class.

[EternallySingle]

People who make an ass out of themselves are the people who get all the press. Good thing you were able to keep things in perspective and not let him bother you for long.

[OhioCouple]

I can't say anything more than anyone else has said on here. I think it is wonderful that not only your host, but YOU were able to put this in perspective. That, in my opionon is how it should be.

High fives to your host and high fives to Mr. DCW for not unleashing himself..(not sure if Mr. O would have been able to because we haven't experienced that) and to you both for going back and giving the host the opportunity to right the situation.

[fun_pairTX]

What you had was a run in with a classless individual. They seem to pop up every now and then, and their banter always seems like an effort to bolster their ego. That kind of talk would guarantee that someone would NEVER play with us.

[SexhoundDog]

dcwsgirl,
you indeed showed remarkable restraint. What an unbelievable story of no class! I don't think I can remember any guys being that big an asshole in high school! How this clod ever got into any party or club is beyond me. I've got to hope that you are his first (and last) playmate ever.

I've never heard of such disrespect, and I'm not a violent guy at all, but I'm afraid I'd have invited him to "play" out in the parking lot, good 'ol boy style. I'm guessing the only reason mr. dcws didn't is because he didn't want to ruin your time or bring any more unwanted attention to you.

I'm glad you didn't let the numb nuts get to you. And what I REALLY like is your comment about "I'm at one with my inner tramp." I find that highly sexy and refreshing! You go, Girl!!

[Spoomonkey]

dcwsgirl

You just never know out there. botcpl is right - most of the folks are great folks, just as interested in dicretion as you are...

But there are those few who just don't seem to get it. I applaude your husband and the party host. And, of course, you. These kind of things are learning experiences - bad ones, sure, but valuable.

He's the one who is going to miss out. We had a single guy blow it with us and it was kind of a shame. Mrs Spoomonkey really liked him and had hopes of all sorts of experimental play... But just like your "friendly neighborhood jackass" he had to go and become a dick. Our "friend" has never been to the club since and I have a feeling that a lot of couples are well aware of his indicretion. I doubt he'll be welcome to play - though the club owner would gladly take his money until he figures out that he has made himself a pariah.

This stuff happens. But we are always sorry when it does. You guys are obviously a class act.

Spoomonkey

[jcbicouple]

Dito to all of the above. Not sure we could have restrained from a "good ol' boy" talk either! But glad you did. Someone (anyone) that wants to talk about details of an experience (especially if they're giving names!) to us gets a "sorry, not interested", and we're sure that guy is going to get a lot of those! What a fricken moron! Don't ever let asses like that get you down.