This isn't the norm, right?!

[BD2]

Thumbs up to both of you for getting through this so eloquently! All of you deserve praise in my book!
Hubby and I are heading to our first club this weekend and at least I have a good idea of what is and is not acceptable. I'm happy to hear that "the jerk" is not the norm, or at least I hope not where we are going.
This possible scenerio has been a big holdback for me in going to a club or party. I can only hope if the same experience were to happen that we would handle it in the same manner. Being new to this lifestyle makes us (especially me) a little gun shy.
If anyone has any other advice, feel free to share - we're always willing to listen! (The forums have really helped too !)

Mrs. BD2

[Botcpl]

I'm kind of wondering where this guy's S.O. was and what she was doing all this time?

Usually girls keep their guys in check.

[dcwsgirl]

Wow. Somehow I knew posting here was a good idea. I'm really glad I did! Thank you for sharing your experiences & support with us. Really!

As for where his girl was? She was floating around, although I've seen this guy at 2 of the other parties we went to and with a different lady at one of them. They're not married - and we all know the old saying, "You are who you hang out with." I definitely get the impression this applies to these two.

It's my understanding that they've been members of the club for some time now, but after Saturday night's party, it's also my understanding that a lot of the couples know their game/deal, and the phrase "trouble" was used to describe them more than once. It'll be interesting to see how things pan out.

I guess I wasn't really prepared to encounter an asshole so quickly, and yes, he really did embarrass me. Now that I've got my first lifestyle asshole under my belt, should there be another one to come - I've got his number.

Thanks again everyone!!

~dcwsgirl

[texasfans2003]

dcwsgirl,

ya'll handled the situation marveously. Especially being so new. The only thing I can recommend is if anything and I mean anything remotely close to that ever happens again, you two should immediately go to the host. The host would likely ask questions to confirm the facts and politely or not depending on the reaction, ask the parties to leave immediately. Discretion is expected in this lifestyle and there is no room for anyone who cannot be discrete.

Most hosts will not invite incompatible individuals/couples to the same party. It just makes good sense. However, this slobs' actions would guarantee that he would not be invited to any parties ever again. He can go masturbate in front of a mirror for the rest of his life, but that's the closest he would get to swinging again.

Cudos to you and Mr. Dcws and your host for handling it so very well. I can certainly understand both of your feelings but people like that don''t even have a clue that they were doing anything wrong and you would bring yourselves down to their lowly level had you allowed yourselves to vent however warranted.


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