We may be invited to a party...what if we don't all click?

[couplewanting50]

We may be invited to a party, a house party, with seven or eight other couples, and hosted by a couple we have met and do enjoy greatly. We have had some really marvelous, separate room play with them.

My question is this. We have never met the other couples. It seems that it is possible that you might not click with the others, not saying they would be bad people, just that the magic of desire may not be present. So, how does one handle that if it ends up that the only couple you are drawn to is the host couple?

Has anyone ever found themselves in such a situation?

[socolais]

Birds of a feather......

I think it's likely you'll meet suitable playmates and even if you decide to not play with anyone, it can be a fun time

[larry818]

When we were younger by about 20 years, we would constantly get invited to what we called "troll parties" given by a friend of ours. There was no one there that we were attracted to, but we went every time because it was fun just to socialise. It seems that probably more than half the partieas we ever attended we didn't click with another couple sexually, but we had fun anyway.

[BiloxiCouple]

You are going for the fun of it for yourselves. Not others, although you may invite them in. Swinging is as simple as enjoying each other or others, your choice.

You just don't do it, if not interested. You don't have to be negative about it unless they don't understand "no". Sometimes you have to politely remove a hand and a no thank you. Take a step or two away and not show interest.
Turn your head if they are going to kiss you on the lips so they get a cheek instead. There are subtle ways like that. Or you may be more blunt. Up to you and the situation.

[lookingfornow]

We had very similar concerns the first time we were invited to a house party. What if we don't like the some of the people? What if some of the people don't like us? Would people be uncomfortable if we were choosey with whom we played?

In spite of our fear, we decided that we would give it a try. Best decision of our swinging life. To this day, that first party provides some of our hotest memories.

Truth is, we didn't click with everyone that attended. But, that was completely OK. We clicked with a number of the people and they with us. We were not insulted by the couples who were not interested in us. The couple that we were not interested in (there was only one) left us alone. It was pretty obvious during the social part of the evening that they weren't our cup of tea and that we weren't theirs. During the social part of the evening you should have time to make connections with enough couples to have a good time and to make obvious your lack of connection with anyone with whom you do not want to play.

We did go into the evening with a very open mind. We agreed in advance that we would try to have a good time. We probably were not as "picky" about our play choices as we might otherwise have been. But, you know, once the clothes started coming off, whatever reservations we had about playing just sort of evaporated.

The first house party is probably scary for most everyone. But, you won't know whether it is something that you can enjoy until you try it. And, if it is something that you can enjoy, you really should give it a try.

[iapr]

You go to other LS parties and events and you encounter people you do not want to have sex with there right? Well this is really no different, just a different location.

There is a lot of truth the "birds of a feather" analogy. If you really enjoy the host and they really like you there is a good chance that if they know the other couples there is a good chance that many of you will share some common interests and traits.


Now some people do host parties and invite people they would like to meet and use it as a chance to meet new people. If that is the case then there is a higher chance of there being some more people you don't hit it off with.
I think it is a little tacky to ask a host for a quest list but I do think it is fair to ask them if they know everyone they have invited or if they are inviting a variety of people that they have met and have not met.

In the end though you always have the option of not doing anything that you do want. Everyone there will be just as concerned about chemistry and comfort as you and just because it is a house party there is no reason to fear it any more than any other LS event. If you don't want to have sex with someone..don't. If you do then just make an offer and either accept their yes or their no thank you.