Couples who don't play at a swing club

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by ktown

We have been going to our local club for years and clubs around the world and we don't swap at all but we are into watching and being watched which no body has ever had a problem with that and we have met some good people.The sights and sounds of the clubs are some of our best memories.

Do you tell people you are not swingers or do you say 'goodnight' and shake hands at the end of the night?

We were polite and nice and understanding the times we ran into this, but it doesn't mean we were not disapointed and felt we did not get the most out of our trip to the club.

Few people would call you on this, we are too polite too, but don't fool yourself into thinking that new couple talking to you just wants to for your stimulating dialog.

[ktown]

We let people know when we start talking to them what we are about so they have a choice to stay and talk or look someplace else and even when we have been in a non-English speaking country people have never had a problem. We have met people at the dinner had good conversations about every day things and swinging and then see them playing later with a smile on their face.

[imsnowman]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Do you tell people you are not swingers or do you say 'goodnight' and shake hands at the end of the night?

We were polite and nice and understanding the times we ran into this, but it doesn't mean we were not disapointed and felt we did not get the most out of our trip to the club.

Few people would call you on this, we are too polite too, but don't fool yourself into thinking that new couple talking to you just wants to for your stimulating dialog.

Sounds like it might be helpful for you to be upfront at the beginning of your conversations. Make sure the other folks know what you are available for and make sure you find out what they are available for early in the conversation.

It doesn't have to be the old "Hey, you wanna fuck?" question but since yall seem to be well-spoken I'm sure you can figure out something a little more subtle. Then you know whether to spend more time with them.

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by Chicup

We go to a swingers club we want to find SWINGERS. If you are new and unsure thats fine, if you don't find anyone there attractive, thats fine, if you decide you are not in the mood tonight thats fine, but when you have NO intention of ever playing you are wasting our very limited time.

But how often does that happen, really? Going to any swing club isn't cheap, and just by the fact that a couple is there it shows that they've made a certain "leap of faith." It's hard to imagine that they would go through all that if the lifestyle didn't hold some appeal or fascination for them.

I'm sure that at any swing club, there are couples who are, and will always be, "posers." But I would bet that there are far more newbies and "tentative swingers" who could benefit from your experience at getting into the lifestyle.