Lonely Husband's Club

[Spoomonkey]

I've been noticing something new at the club lately - husbands who come to the club, drink, play pool, hang out, whatever - while their wive's sneak upstairs to play with other women, single men or whatever strikes their fancy. More often than not, the husband is in a foul mood while this is going on...

I know that for some couples this is cool - and the husbands don't really care. But most of the husbands do seem to care. In fact, they seem downright aggitated.

One wife we knew would sneak upstairs with single men while her husband basically had his back turned... He'd notice she was gone and go barging into play rooms until he found her... And a fight would ensue...

Not hot...

The other couples we've seen seem to be in agreement with it, but at the same time, the husband looks rejected when the wife is off doing her thing.

We're more comfortable in the club environment now, so we see more than we used to. We're more aware, I guess, and this "phenomenon" is a bit surprising to us. It seems awfully common... In fact, the more I think of it, the more examples of it that I can come up with.

Is this inevitable "dark side" of the old saying "the husband gets them in, the wife keeps them in"? Is this a pandora's box that some couples open; one that is ultimately not a very healthy thing? Does swinging start out for the couple - only to end up being about one partner's kink?

For us - we will only and always play together... Or not at all...

The funny thing is - some of these couples we've played with... And when we talked to them the first time, they each one (without exception) agreed with us that they only play together. But - the next time we see them, wifey is sneaking upstairs by herself with a playmate.

How common is this? Do you guys see it at your clubs or is this something unique here in Columbus?

Spoomonkey

[looking2swing]

Dito I also think that kind of behavior is unacceptable. It falls more into the cheating category than swinging for us.

[DnHtxCPL]

I Dito that!

[LikeMinds321]

Spoo -

We have been to two different off-premise clubs, once each. And even with that little experience with clubs, we felt this phenomenon present. Maybe it is one reason we haven't felt really comfy with the club scene.

The women move around, dance, prance, smile, flirt. Most husbands stay seated, or stand in place, unless they are brave enough to ask a woman to dance.

The couple we went to the club to meet had almost nothing to do with each other at the club--even though they sat next to each other at the table with us.

We saw little evidence of couples being affectionate with each other or playing together with others.

Most everyone seemed to be bouncing around with different people, one-on-one, packed into the same hotel suite.

This isn't true for everyone, I'm sure, but it seemed the norm the times we attended our local clubs.

LM

[good times]

It seems way more common at the clubs we go to than I would have ever thought. I don't know why it happens but I agree with you that it seems like it is pretty common.

We are the same as you guys, no play unless we both play.

Most of these couples seem like they thrive on drama or something. At the very least they seem to have issues that make them unatractive to us.

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by good times

Most of these couples seem like they thrive on drama or something.

They must if they continue to come back and do it all over again the next week.

We haven't been to the clubs yet, I'll be curious to see how they're down here.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by looking2swing

Dito I also think that kind of behavior is unacceptable. It falls more into the cheating category than swinging for us.

It certainly does especially if the husband is walking around wondering where his wife went. It's one thing to agree to play separate, those couples usually disappear about the same time and are playing but in separate rooms. But to leave your spouse (husband or wife) with no clue as to where you are or who your with your not swinging your cheating.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Mrs Spoomonkey

It certainly does especially if the husband is walking around wondering where his wife went.

Agreed...

But - here's my thing - one guy specifically (and you know who I mean, Mrs Spoo) is a really nice guy who rarely gets to play... His wife is more into other women (which is fine) and, unfortuantely, that leaves him looking glum and playing pool by himself.

He knows what she is doing, but he gets the short end. He tries to put on a smile and act positive, but you can tell it really bothers him... I don't know... I like the guy, so I feel pretty bad for him.

I wonder if it is a case of husbands biting off more than they can chew...

You know?

One day they're trying to "convince" their reluctant wife, the next they're all sitting at the bar together, alone, drinking beer, watching porn and waiting for wifey to get done so he can go home...

If that happened to me, I'd definitely be wondering why I ever brought it up in the first place.

Spoomonkey

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

If that happened to me, I'd definitely be wondering why I ever brought it up in the first place.

Good thing is . . . . it will never happen to you

Mrs Spoomonkey

[TNT]

You're sweet Mrs. Spoo. I have noticed the same thing with some couples. Some people may even think the same thing about us because I prefer to just sit and talk to a few people while Teresa likes to flit about like a butterfly and meet everyone there. She drops by for a kiss and a cuddle, maybe a dance and she's gone again. However, I'm not frowning or lonely. I hate it when people bring their drama into my funtime and don't like to see someone not enjoying themselves. Too many people don't need to be in this lifestyle yet insist on showing up. I don't know the answer.

Ted

[good times]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

But - here's my thing - one guy specifically (and you know who I mean, Mrs Spoo) is a really nice guy who rarely gets to play... His wife is more into other women (which is fine) and, unfortuantely, that leaves him looking glum and playing pool by himself.

He knows what she is doing, but he gets the short end. He tries to put on a smile and act positive, but you can tell it really bothers him... I don't know... I like the guy, so I feel pretty bad for him.

Wow, I think I know this couple, or one just like them. I always feel sad for the guy too.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by good times

Wow, I think I know this couple, or one just like them. I always feel sad for the guy too.

Man - he travels a lot...

Must be a trucker...

Spoomonkey

[freakykitten]

I know what you are talking about Spoomonkey, we have seen it happen more than once! I really feel bad for the guys.

My big question is though, What is the deal with the women changing their outfits throughout the night? Is there some secret meaning to this? I have noticed this at 104 more than any other club we have visited.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by freakykitten

I know what you are talking about Spoomonkey, we have seen it happen more than once! I really feel bad for the guys.

My big question is though, What is the deal with the women changing their outfits throughout the night? Is there some secret meaning to this? I have noticed this at 104 more than any other club we have visited.

Hmmmm, maybe that's the only way they can get attention. Ouch! That was mean . . sorry Seriously we have noticed that too. I really have no idea why they do that. We haven't been to too many other clubs to compare it but it does seem to happen a lot at 104.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[TNT]

HA! Finally a question I have the answer to. The women change because they have more outfits than they have nights out to wear them in. Teresa has year old dresses that have never been worn due to the fact that panhandle Floridians would burn her at the stake if she went out in them. Social time is time to show them off.

Ted