Lonely Husband's Club

[Vespertine]

BINGO

I think you're right, Ted.

We girls are silly creatures.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by TNT

HA! Finally a question I have the answer to. The women change because they have more outfits than they have nights out to wear them in. Teresa has year old dresses that have never been worn due to the fact that panhandle Floridians would burn her at the stake if she went out in them. Social time is time to show them off.
Ted

I say just go to the club more . . . makes for a good excuse, "Gee, honey I have 52 outfits I can't wear in public . . .we'll have to go to the club at least every other week or one Friday and Saturday night"



Mrs Spoomonkey

I have a different take on this, so I will offer it.


Mrs naughty and I are strictly MFMers.

So when we are at clubs, or whatever, mrs naughty goes and flirts about. Meeting, kissing and just being generaly naughty.

I do not have a problem with this at all, in fact I LOVE it!! facelick

The way I look at it is when WE play together it is a mrs Naughty sandwhich. When we played with other couples it felt like WE weren't playing together even if we were in the same room.

Now Granted, she doesn't go off to another room with a single guy by herself when we are at a club . If she meets someone she likes she will introduce him to me.
If we are hanging out with someone we have already played with and she wants to take him to the other room to tear one off, I say By all means!!! But be sure an MFM is in her future before nights end! facelick

My whole fantasy that got us into swinging in the first place was to double mrs naughty's pleasure with a stunt cock.

When we did the "Couple thing" it took away from the expereince in a BIG way.
We came to a point where we really weren't having as much fun as we use to.

It was adding couples into the mix that was taking away from our fun.

Of course that puts out of the "Norm" for swinging couples but that is where we fit in and where we both get the most satisfaction.

Now, I am sure there are women out there who are dragging their husbands along the swinging road so they can get what they want, and screw what their husbands think.

But we are living proof that is not always the case.

As a matter of fact I am always the one egging Mrs naughty on for that next MFM. They are just AWESOME!! facelick

So, Next time you are at a club and you see a husband playing pool or just hanging out shooting the shit with others while his wife flirts about, it doesn't necessarily mean they have issues.

It just may be their thang.

I know it's ours.

[intuition897]

As open and honest and - well - blunt as we all claim to be, there are a few things we are reluctant to admit. For example, male homophobia (let's tackle that one in another post...), 'no pressure', and reverse sexism. 'The men get things going, the women keep things going' they say. While that is often true, and women in the vanilla world often get the short end of the stick, here in Swingersville it's the men who end up being put at a distinct disadvantage. For a woman who feels she's been done wrong by men in general, it's a prime opportunity for her to repay her poor male partner for the past wrongs done by him and his kind, whether real or imagined. This is certainly not always the case, and more of an exception to the rule. But just because we all like to live by a different set of social rules doesn't mean we don't fall victim to weaknesses of character or the tragic flaws that define us as human. Swinging has certainly had a positive impact on our marriage, but it has by no means perfected it!

I guess all I'm saying is that in a club, it's an environment that is very woman-oriented. She is given absolute freedom and veto-power. However, while we profess that it's about absolutely equal partnership, the power scale tips ever so slightly in the woman's favour. Enough so that if the woman says "No way!", it's the end of the conversation. No questions asked. But if it's the man putting limits on play... Well suddenly that opens up a whole new can of worms doesn't it?

[TNT]

Originally Posted by Mrs Spoomonkey

I say just go to the club more . . . makes for a good excuse, "Gee, honey I have 52 outfits I can't wear in public . . .we'll have to go to the club at least every other week or one Friday and Saturday night"



Mrs Spoomonkey

That would work Mrs. Spoo if there were any clubs close enough for us to attend every Friday and Saturday night. Unfortunately, the closest club is over two hours away so we have to make do with Socials, which only happen once a month.

Of course it would also help if Ted would stop buying me all those damn dresses...I seriously can make every social and the occasional club visit and never wear the same dress twice in a year's time.

Teresa

P.S. Don't tell him I said that ...I really like him buying me new dresses.

[CB_n_Red]

We've seen the same at the club we go to - ladies wandering off while theie men sit around in the social area. I can't say I have ever seen it lead to problems or fights though. Everyone seems happy with it. One time Red did the same with one guy who particularly attracted her attention that night, though that isn't how we usually do things though. It certainly wasn't a problem. We like to stay flexible

CB

[jcbicouple]

Originally Posted by intuition897

I guess all I'm saying is that in a club, it's an environment that is very woman-oriented. She is given absolute freedom and veto-power. However, while we profess that it's about absolutely equal partnership, the power scale tips ever so slightly in the woman's favour. Enough so that if the woman says "No way!", it's the end of the conversation. No questions asked. But if it's the man putting limits on play... Well suddenly that opens up a whole new can of worms doesn't it?

We've only been to one club, although we've been many times. We haven't witnessed this "power scale" to any significant degree. We certainly aren't a part of it! We've been in situations in which one of us was uncomfortable, unattracted, or just didn't want to continue for various reasons. Saying no, or stop, meant just that. It didn't mean maybe, it didn't mean let's talk about it, it didn't mean when you are finished, it meant stop, and we stopped. Hasn't ever mattered if it was Mr. or Mrs. JC saying stop, or no. The end result is the same. We would think that any individual (male or female) that doesn't have the love and respect for their spouse to stop or not do something when asked, shouldn't be involved in swinging.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by jcbicouple

We would think that any individual (male or female) that doesn't have the love and respect for their spouse to stop or not do something when asked, shouldn't be involved in swinging.

Dito

I also want to point out that I'm not talking about "social butterflies". I am talking about couples who seem to be there just for her - even when he is pretty miserable. That's what I mean.

Spoomonkey

[TNT]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Dito

I also want to point out that I'm not talking about "social butterflies".

Thank goodness...I was afraid that the Spoomonkey would start thinking bad about me

Teresa

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by TNT

Thank goodness...I was afraid that the Spoomonkey would start thinking bad about me

Teresa

I don't think badly about you - I have bad thoughts

Spoomonkey

[TNT]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

I don't think badly about you - I have bad thoughts

Spoomonkey

OH MY Words I have been dying to hear

Teresa

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by jcbicouple

We've only been to one club, although we've been many times. We haven't witnessed this "power scale" to any significant degree. We certainly aren't a part of it! We've been in situations in which one of us was uncomfortable, unattracted, or just didn't want to continue for various reasons. Saying no, or stop, meant just that. It didn't mean maybe, it didn't mean let's talk about it, it didn't mean when you are finished, it meant stop, and we stopped. Hasn't ever mattered if it was Mr. or Mrs. JC saying stop, or no. The end result is the same. We would think that any individual (male or female) that doesn't have the love and respect for their spouse to stop or not do something when asked, shouldn't be involved in swinging.

Notice I mentioned the scales tipped "ever so slightly" in the woman's favour. For the record, we heartily agree that there should be equality, and it's a rule we live by. I can't imagine either of us disappearing on the other...especially deliberately trying to be sneaky about it! Why should we, when we're both free to do as we please without the deception?

I was just pointing out that as free and liberal as we all profess to be, the reality is people are just people. There is no swingers Utopia. I was trying to emphasize the unfairness of the situation. We've only been to a few clubs ourselves, and none on premises, but the concept is the same. We've seen some obviously misplaced couples walk through the club doors, immediately break contact with one another and not speak a word to each other the whole night. Maybe this is ok for some folks, but certainly not for us. We do this as a shared activity, not to get away from each other. We've also seen couples that were mismatched, where one was much more attractive than the other, or where one was plainly not enjoying the evening as much as the other. This just ruins the fun for everyone. Why do they even bother?

[HotMoCpl]

I the male half here. I'd like to take a shot at this one.

I'd be willing to bet my bottom dollar that in more situations then not, this is "the scorned" woman. They either agree with hubby to swing or get him into it, then its about "pay back" due to something he may have done in the past....like cheating on her.

Very possible. It just a sneaky way of doing it.

Cheers.

[HeAndDblD]

Perhaps it's the water in North Texas, but like the naughtys, MFM's are our preference. When she is flitting and flirting, that's part of the hunt and I'm not lonely or morose sitting at the bar, I'm aroused and privately contemplating the possibilities. If she is indulging in a little one-on-one, it's merely priming the pump for later and she's doing it with my knowledge and encouragement.

We have discovered that finding a compatible couple is just too difficult and we are not into taking one for the flag. We are a mis-matched pair and while both men and women are attracted to her beauty and personality, I'm not the type of guy who lights fires quickly. She doesn't go for pretty boys, so finding a matching couple is a lost cause.

We have experienced a few FMF playtimes, but they are not our favorite. While it's the dream of every man, nature has not prepared the male body to perform to the degree expected, so even with FF activity, there is something lacking. The MFM combination is perfect for her pleasure and despite being totally straight, I enjoy it also.

Hey HeAndD,

Maybe we should start a support group or even better, open our own club!!