First Party - What to expect?

My wife and I have been married 25 monogymous years. Lately we have started to experiment more and have registered for our first swinger party in early August, by mutual interest. To be honest, we don't know what to expect. Originally we thought these were just socials where you could meet other couples and make arrangements to get together afterwards or some other time. Now we get the impression that there is all-out sex going on everywhere. First question: what goes on and what should we expect? We want to feel comfortable with another couple before agreeing to be intimate.

Second, my wife is drop-dead gorgeous while I'm average looking and a few pounds overweight. I suspect that the men will all be after her but the women won't be so interested in me. I like sexy women and don't want to come home disappointed.

[Stratecpl]

Pogi,

It all depends on whether it's an "off-premises" club or an "on-premises" club. If it's an off-premises club, then there will be necking, petting, some kissing and maybe some exposing going on. Lots of dancing, drinks, food, etc.... in general, a great time, had by all. Any and all arrangements for swinging will be made there but not performed there. You have to make those arrangements yourself.

Now, if it's an on-premises club, hold onto your hat!! LOL There will be open sex everywhere, group encounters, etc.... Also a great time, had by all, but just about anything you'd like to be involved in will be happening.

In our experiences, most of the men and women are all a few pounds "more comfortable," so to speak! LOL Don't worry, you'll fit right in like a glove!! But the ladies always seem to score lots more hits than we guys do. That's natural, they are better looking than we are, anyways!!

I don't think you will go home disappointed, just don't be too shy. Ask ladies for dances. Offer them a drink or something. If all else fails, just ask them if they're interested in SEX!!

Above all, remember: No Jealousy! If your wife sees that you're not faring too well, she will probably come to your assistance. Just communicate with your wife. That's very important!! Good luck, enjoy yourselves!!

Ron, Husband of Stratecpl

That's cool Ron, thanks for the info.! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/smile.gif

We're thinking about checking out the Sierra Club in Lansing next Saturday. The theme for that evening is "Hawaiian Night"! That event would be interesting to check out, especially since I'm part-Hawaiian.

Hubby already talked with the club staff by phone, asking questions and getting more info., etc., and by emails also. Just doing a little "homework" ahead of time... http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif

And next month's theme is "Leather & Lace", now THAT'S another good one to check out too! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[JustAskJulie]

Basically what Stratecpl said.. if you are just interested in a social gathering where you can meet people and make friends and make arrangements to play later .. then look for an off-premise club/ social/ dance (whatever they call it). If you aren't sure which kind of club the clubs you are looking at are.. ask the club hosts beforehand.

If you do want the sexual free-for-all of sorts.. as in sex taking place at the location then look for an on-premise club.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[LostInFlorida]

Pogi,

We have run into the same situation......
Last night we were meeting a couple from a town that was 45 minutes from us......they lived there.So we drove there and sat in the club......the man was ok. the woman was snobbish to say the least. I am not that great looking though people say i am. But most people are intimidated by my husband, he is 6'1. He is a really nice guy if people would only thake the time to find that out.
Anyway, within 10 or 15 minutes, she AND her husband had to go to the bathroom...strange, together i thought. Then she did the old cellphone thing. turns out, they were supposed to meet another couple at another bar. Even though we had already had plans for the 4 of us.
we told him it was ok if they need to go, but he said we could come too. So we went. Then we were ignored completely.
Turns out the husband IM us and said there was nothing there for her ( his wife ), no apology no nothing.......Mind you she doesnt have any looks herself, but it offended me that she would say that. By the way, the feeling was mutual for my hubby too. This was our first time to meet just as 2 couples....we ended up staying until 12:00 am, with no answer and not knowing what was going to happen....so we said bye.
What made me so mad is they could have told us hours ago, instead of hanging around for 5 hours to find out no. Least they could have had enough manners to tell us earlier.

I am depressed some and am thinking of
giving up on this....


Female half of Lost ( aka Cobralady1 )

[Flori_DAMAN]

Originally posted by LostInFlorida:
Pogi,

I am depressed some and am thinking of
giving up on this....


Female half of Lost ( aka Cobralady1 )

You could eliminate that type of problem by agreeing with your husband before hand that first meetings are just to meet people. Plan on spending an hour or two to get to know them then go home and talk about both of your reactions and feelings.

If you are both interested then get back with them,, it sounds in this case like you were not really compatable with the other wife. Also tell your potential playmates that you never swing on the first meeting then stick to it (unless of course there is a real chemistry http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/smile.gif ).....John

[LostInFlorida]

I guess i forgot to mention that we had met before at a party.We had talked quite a bit by the internet. They seemd like nice people, least he was. And she was the one that had called and talked to me on the phone about the arrangements...
anyway, i think it worked out for the best.
We prefer that we know the people who we are going to be with, not just strangers.
I realize that this doesn't happen all the time. But we are still looking.....
i enjoy all of your comments on here, you all are so nice. Thanks for hearing me rattle off.
Cobralady1

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IM NEW AT THIS SO WHAT SHOULD I EXPECT AT MY FIRST SWINGER PARTY?

[JustAskJulie]

That will depend on the club and type of club you choose to visit. Every club is different.

You can find a basic run down of the types of clubs and what to expect at <a href="http://www.swingersboard.com/info/clubtypes.html" target="_blank">http://www.swingersboard.com/info/clubtypes.html</a>

However, keep in mind that that is just an overview and each club is different. If you have a particular club in mind that you are thinking of visiting you might want to repost your question based on that club, and you will probably get more specific answers.

Julie <a href="http://www.swingersboard.com" target="_blank">http://www.swingersboard.com</a>

<small>[ 04-20-2002, 12:33 PM: Message edited by: JustAskJulie ]</small>