How do you find house parties?

[Spoomonkey]

We are just curious - how do you find/get invited to house parties? We had never even heard of them except through this board until a couple we were playing with mentioned briefly having us go with them to one that they regularly attend. Nothing more was said about it, and I didn't want to push, but what is "house party" all about and how do they work?

Spoomonkey

[VegasLee]

I am not sure about where you live but there is a few of us in Vegas that have regular house parties.

We have a circle of friends that come to ours and the ladies also invite nice single guys to them. (The ladies in our group like a 2 to 1 or 3 to 1 ratio of women to men.)

There is all different types of parties. Ours is just pretty much hardcore play parties. That is what they are known for.

One of our friends has summer ones out around his pool. They bar-b-q, hang out, swim and are mostly social in nature. He does have one room set up as a play room that people can venture off into if they so desire.

As with out party, we always advise that every party is not for everyone. Some like a more get to know you social aspect, others like our core group want more hardcore parties, some like just a nudist type party where they are social but everyone is naked.

There is a place for all of them and each fun to the people that enjoy them.

[OhioCouple]

We can only draw from having attended one house party, so I'll lend that info based on our experience.

We found out about the house party through an ad site that we 'used' to belong to. It was in their profile that they hold monthly house parties. We wrote to them and have since been on their mailing list. (about two years now)

Our experience, IMO, was excellent and I would much prefer to go there than to a club. The drive is a bit far, but much more to my liking. I've no clue where you are located in Ohio, but if you would like more details, PM me and I'll be happy to give you additional information. They do not mind referals and welcome any and all.

I think house parties rock!!

[pairbond]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

We are just curious - how do you find/get invited to house parties? We had never even heard of them except through this board until a couple we were playing with mentioned briefly having us go with them to one that they regularly attend. Nothing more was said about it, and I didn't want to push, but what is "house party" all about and how do they work?

Spoomonkey

Spoo, unlike other posters here we do NOT attend any "regular" house parties or "advertised" house parties. We were fortunate that the 1st couple we played with had been swinging for several years and had enough swinging friends that they liked to host a couple of private house parties a year for their own invited guests, including the 1st house party we ever attended - a Halloween Costume Swingers' Party for 18 couples. As relative "newbies," we went with great anxiety and intrepidation, thinking we might be raw meat thrown to the wolves! It turns out, although we didn't know this until some months later, many of the couples at the party were virtually as inexperienced at swinging as we were, and were just as anxious.

I managed to muddle through the evening when a lady in a witch costume announced when I danced with her that I was her "homework assignment." It seems our host had asked her to "take care of the shy guy!" So before my anxiety rose to the panic level, we were upstairs before I knew it, clothes (costumes) came off, she started "doing stuff" to me, and all kinds of wonderful things happened before I could get too scared!

Mrs. Pairbond, on the other hand, had no such anxieties. Somewhere around 1 a.m. she appeared in the living room where guests who hadn't left yet were sitting and talking. She had 2 guys in tow, leading each one by her hand on their dicks! Each of them had a hand up her loose shirt with a grip on a breast, and she announced to everyone "I'm ready for #4 and #5," and all three of them went upstairs! Damn! I am SO envious of women's ability to keep having fun!

Anyway, my point is that we love private house parties of invited guests, at least when we are already friends with the host & hostess, trust their judgement in who would be appropriate guests to fit together as a good mix, and know at least one or two of the other couples present. After we got to know enough couples, we began to host a couple of private parties each year, too, although we limit our parties to roughly 10 couples.

Parties offer some opportunities you would otherwise miss out on. It's a great way to meet some new couples all in the same evening. Also, since most of the time when we meet a new couple one of us is interested and the other isn't, there are lots of folks out there we don't get together with as 2 couples to play. At parties, though, Mrs. Pairbond can play with a guy she likes whose wife and I didn't click, and vice versa. We call those people "party candy," because parties are the only time we get to enjoy those people.

We are far, far less comfortable with the idea of going to an advertised house party, where obviously the host/hostess don't know the couples who will attend, and we probably wouldn't know any of them. There are just too many degrees of "kink" in swingers, and we prefer to know that we are not venturing into something beyond our current comfort zone. We prefer to meet couples one at a time, or through our friends' parties where we already know a good share if not most of the couples who will be there.

There are several different "groups" of couples in our metro area that party differently. One group locks the door at 10 p.m. and turns off the lights, and everybody gets naked in a pile on the floor together. That's not our style, but it may interest a lot of other people. Another group has rules that you play only "as a couple WITH a couple," i.e., you and your spouse go play with another married couple. Our group freelances at parties, i.e., you and your spouse just go upstairs and play with someone whenever the mood strikes, and you don't have to be (and usually aren't) together. It's only the freelancing that enables us to enjoy that "party candy."

So if you are invited to a party, be sure to ask the host/hostess good questions about party protocol, what's expected of the guests, what you should bring with you, etc. The two of you should discuss and agree on any limits you want to adhere to, how to politely decline an invitation to play with someone that doesn't interest you, and what to do when you encounter someone you DO want to play with. Do you need to play as 2 couples? Do you need to check with each other for an "OK" before going upstairs? How will you go about checking with each other? Or is it OK just for each of you to do your own thing and then relate your experiences to each other after the party?

So parties can vary considerably. Be sure to find out exactly what you will be encountering. In the end, we decided that the BEST way (for us) to enjoy a party is to host it ourselves and invite only couples that we personally would be happy to play with, and with an eye to a mix of couples we believe would enjoy each other, too.

Parties are not all the same. Caveat emptor! - - pairbond

[fun_pairTX]

Our house parties are uncomplicated. We don't host regularly due to my schedule but when we get the time we usually have 6-8 couples over, the drinks and food start flowing about 7 and the clothes are usually all on the floor by about 8:30 or so.

[pairbond]

Originally Posted by fun_pairTX

the drinks and food start flowing about 7 and the clothes are usually all on the floor by about 8:30 or so.

That's another difference between party styles that newbies should know about. Some parties expect you to be nude most of the evening. At our group's parties, except for some sexy attire on the ladies and maybe a bit of kissing & fondling on the main floor of the house, you would hardly know this wasn't any old cocktail party. When a couple or more go upstairs to play, the clothes come off in the bedroom, and the clothes (or a change of clothes) go back on again before people come back downstairs.

Again, it points out how important it is to ask your host & hostess what you should expect at their party if you don't know already from past experience.

[BodyScape02]

I have to admit being very curious about house parties. In my mind I like to picture and entertaining evening of sexy friends socializing and frolicking all night. The idea of a costume or themed party is especially interesting to me. We’ve attended a number of “artist” parties, where a group of local artists gather. They are a blast and also interesting to attend on many different levels. It would be really cool to experience a combination of the two! LOL Of course, I am sure this is just a fantasy…I doubt there is anything like that around Pittsburgh!

We have spoken to a few couples about their experiences at local house parties and they have told us some scary stories. Apparently, they went into the situation not really knowing who the people where or who would even be there. Once there they where there they found themselves the focus of some unwanted attention by people they were in no way attracted to. Being that they were not in a club but in a home, they felt they were sort of under a different set of pressures to hook up that made them very uncomfortable.

We guess we’d like to go to one someday, just to see what it’s like, but are wary of experiencing what these other people have. Conversely, we also joke about hosting one someday as we have a perfect home for play! It’s just that we’ve no idea how to go about it and all…

[NNJBoomers]

Excellent explanations of the various house party scenarios, pairbond!

Our preference is a party hosted by friends who invite some friends we already know and some new friends we will meet at the party.

Make new friends but keep the old.
One is silver and the other is gold.

Mrs Boomer

[SluttyWife]

Dear Spoomonkey,

House parties are private gatherings held at someone's house. They are not typical to the on-premise swing club experience...(well at least not in my part of the swinging world ) which may be why you had not heard of them. (??)

However...it's actually quite easy to get invited to one cos there's a pretty good chance that a couple at your favourite off-premise club might already know someone who does host them. House parties are quite nice actually, much more like hanging out with friends at home...but the key to the best house party is almost always that...they are comprised of *friends* primarily. After all the hosts don't typically allow strangers off the street.

If you can't find any I'd recommend hosting one yourself sometime. Just invite a few couples you know well and already enjoy playing with and ask them to invite couples they can vouch for.

There's a great article on hosting erotic events on Sexuality.org..btw...
If this might interest you hit me up on PM, k? Or I could post it here
if ya like.


;-*