Single female adventuring out to swingers club

babycakes3216900 · 01-10-2002, 03:55 PM

I would like some feedback on attending swingers forum as a single soft swinger. Might bring a partner or might go solo. Would it be in bad taste to just go enjoy the atmosphere, dancing, hot tubbing, acquaintences etc. without exchangeing or getting physically involved. Asking an honest question here not sure where I stand.

danc694u · 01-10-2002, 04:02 PM

I can't speak for everyone here. But, I would be highly disappointed to spend most of the night with someone, only to watch them walk away when things got really heated.

Of course, if it was stated up front. There would be no problem IMO. We're open to playing with soft-swingers. But, we like to know it up front. Not after the fact.

That way, we can decide to play with said soft-swinger(s), or move onto a full swap couple. It just depends on what we're looking for that night.

David -- the male half

babycakes3216900 · 01-10-2002, 04:17 PM

Definitely would make it clear, before hand thats what most of this is about being honest, up front and clear of intentions and actions thanks for feedback...bc And yes moods and emotions change.

Indycpl · 01-11-2002, 07:50 AM

I have to say.... I have been to a club three times, with my husband, but like you... to enjoy the sexy atmosphere, meet people and just feel uninhibited. You are under no obligation to play at any swingers function. Just make it clear as people are mingling with you... You will be fine.

lycioos · 01-12-2002, 04:20 PM

I think the indicpyl brought up a good point. They have had success at clubs, but they have also gone as a couple. There is securtiy in two, not to mention alot more fun. I would reccomend taking a trusted friend with you until you get your feet wet and begin to feel more comfortable.

Puma · 01-14-2002, 01:49 AM

Hey Babycakes, I dont know if you are looking for someone to go to these places with, but I would be willing to talk with you. I live in Florida also.Maybe we can talk and get acquainted, worst case scenario , you made another friend

-Puma-

youngswingers · 01-14-2002, 08:39 PM

Babycakes, it is definitely a lot easier to be a women in this situation than a man. We softswing exclusively and we haven't been in very many situations where the girls, at least don't play together. Even in softswing there is an expectation of participation. You may disappoint some people but forget them, it is all about you!

stucazzu · 01-18-2002, 11:09 PM

Like as been said: The GREAT thing about swing clubs is that anything and everything goeas and is fair game as long as everyone is upfront, honest with each other. No late surprises and no one will have any problem. Enjoy!!!

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01-10-2002, 03:55 PM	#1 (permalink)
babycakes3216900 Active Member Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 15 Location: Florida	Single female adventuring out to swingers club I would like some feedback on attending swingers forum as a single soft swinger. Might bring a partner or might go solo. Would it be in bad taste to just go enjoy the atmosphere, dancing, hot tubbing, acquaintences etc. without exchangeing or getting physically involved. Asking an honest question here not sure where I stand.

01-10-2002, 04:02 PM	#2 (permalink)
danc694u Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 546 Location: Birmingham, AL Status: couple	I can't speak for everyone here. But, I would be highly disappointed to spend most of the night with someone, only to watch them walk away when things got really heated. Of course, if it was stated up front. There would be no problem IMO. We're open to playing with soft-swingers. But, we like to know it up front. Not after the fact. That way, we can decide to play with said soft-swinger(s), or move onto a full swap couple. It just depends on what we're looking for that night. David -- the male half __________________ Phonies and Fakes Need not apply. We're as real as it gets, and don't have time to be wasting on dumbasses.

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01-10-2002, 04:17 PM	#3 (permalink)
babycakes3216900 Active Member Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 15 Location: Florida	Definitely would make it clear, before hand thats what most of this is about being honest, up front and clear of intentions and actions thanks for feedback...bc And yes moods and emotions change.

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Indycpl Active Member Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 10 Location: Indianapolis	I have to say.... I have been to a club three times, with my husband, but like you... to enjoy the sexy atmosphere, meet people and just feel uninhibited. You are under no obligation to play at any swingers function. Just make it clear as people are mingling with you... You will be fine.

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lycioos Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 123	I think the indicpyl brought up a good point. They have had success at clubs, but they have also gone as a couple. There is securtiy in two, not to mention alot more fun. I would reccomend taking a trusted friend with you until you get your feet wet and begin to feel more comfortable.

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Puma Registered Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 3 Location: Gainesville,Fl	Hey Babycakes, I dont know if you are looking for someone to go to these places with, but I would be willing to talk with you. I live in Florida also.Maybe we can talk and get acquainted, worst case scenario , you made another friend -Puma-

01-14-2002, 08:39 PM	#7 (permalink)
youngswingers Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2001 Posts: 98 Location: Austin, TX	Babycakes, it is definitely a lot easier to be a women in this situation than a man. We softswing exclusively and we haven't been in very many situations where the girls, at least don't play together. Even in softswing there is an expectation of participation. You may disappoint some people but forget them, it is all about you!

01-18-2002, 11:09 PM	#8 (permalink)
stucazzu Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 10 Location: South Suburbs/Chicago, IL,USA	Like as been said: The GREAT thing about swing clubs is that anything and everything goeas and is fair game as long as everyone is upfront, honest with each other. No late surprises and no one will have any problem. Enjoy!!!