Sticky situations at the swing club

[SluttyWife]

Just finished posting to "What do you do with playmates you don't want to play with anymore?" thread. I was abit "wowed" by the different responses. Truly different strokes for different folks here, but fascinating nonetheless. I can walk away from my terminal this evening to our social with a better understanding where some of our couples are coming from.

Which brings me to another sticky situation, well actually two at our club. How do you handle couples who have recently broken up and still want to attend? We are a bi female oriented club and do not allow single males to attend. Do we wait it out and see if they might reconcile or do we take him off the guest list?

And what about the newly joined couple who's male half might crash the party with a woman other than his wife and wants to attend future gatherings with a female friend other than wifey?

Very unsure about how to handle this. Back at The Ranch (Texas) couples in crisis would not attend until their problems were solved if not ever again. And it was unthinkable for a couple to even consider swinging if they did not arrive and leave together.
I just don't get it. Are people cooler up where the sun don't shine?

Anyway your honest input would be totally appreciated.



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Slutty Wife

[yawanna]

It's your club, right? Then YOU set the standards. You want single bi females and no single men? Then no single men. But what was your rule earlier about 'single' men. Could they come with an escort/ticket/date aka not married or in a longterm committment? Then you'd stick to that.

Concerned about ex-es running into each other? When you know that's what's going on with them, you alert your staff to call you when the second X shows up. Up here.. the second is asked to leave.

She or he may scream and cry and ask another couple to drive them home...as a club owner..that's something you'll have to deal with.

Should this thread be in the 'how can I start a swinger club?' thread?

aaah.. the trials and tribulations.

[JustAskJulie]

Personally, I woudln't want the drama of a recently broken up couple there. But I would say just apply your current rules to the situation as yawanna pointed out. If you didn't allow single men before then once a couple breaks up it is now a single male and a single female.... so apply your rules.

[Mich149]

Well as long as they both have dates and can act decent to each other then there might not be any trouble. But if there is you might want to ask BOTH of them to leave so you are not taking sides.

[SluttyWife]

Originally posted by yawanna
It's your club, right? Then YOU set the standards. You want single bi females and no single men? Then no single men. But what was your rule earlier about 'single' men. Could they come with an escort/ticket/date aka not married or in a longterm committment? Then you'd stick to that.

Concerned about ex-es running into each other? When you know that's what's going on with them, you alert your staff to call you when the second X shows up. Up here.. the second is asked to leave.

She or he may scream and cry and ask another couple to drive them home...as a club owner..that's something you'll have to deal with.

Should this thread be in the 'how can I start a swinger club?' thread?

aaah.. the trials and tribulations.

Thanks for you input. Very much appreciated. I logged in last night and browsed the "how can I start a swinger club" thread.
Very helpful! It's kinda funny that we have not had this trouble all this time doing this til now.

We're a bi-female orientated club and single men are restricted from attending.

Thanks, sweetie!



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Slutty Wife

[Botcpl]

I was an officer of a (non-swinging) club. A couple ran for two offices and won. About halfway throgh the year they started fighting to the point she had a retraining order issued. We finally had to ask them both to leave.

[yawanna]

Thanks, sweetie!

You are MOST welcome. And I see the difficulty more clearly...what if the Mr X shows up with a bi-female, or Mrs X shows up with a guy. Hmmmmm. They would both meet the criteria...and...it's still your club. Maybe some intervention or referrals would be in order?

Take one or the other or all four if that's what ends up happening and just lay it all out as to how you are feeling and your concerns for the club that night and the other members AND their recent rift ...

I know the only time we've ever seen trouble at clubs is when owners turn a blind eye as long as they can...until someone they knew was going to be trouble, in fact, does become trouble.

Nip it in the bud I say when the bud is presented?

Lord...we don't envy club owners and are grateful to the ones who take the time to consider situations such as this and to plan ahead.

Atta girl!

[FloridaTagTeam]

well if it were me In know I wouldn't want the drama . . . if u say no singel men then no single men . . .if eventualy they work things out he's welcome to come back with her as part of a couple . . but i wouldn't make any exeptions to the rules . . if u make one exeption eventualy u'll have a hole club full of single guys and I'm sure thats not what u want.

Steffi