Your Thoughts On Strictly Single Guy Voyeurs at Parties

[ga_cpl_frknit]

...nothing irritates us more than a guy inviting himself over, whether it be to do fondling or just jacking off while we do our thing. When we attend the club, we usually call the single "just looking" guys, Hawkers.

Wait, I remembered something that irritates us even more! The guys who insist on pounding on our LOCKED private room door (or trying to turn the doorknob) because they want to watch. (yes, even at the club, we like a little private time) We've left the club a couple times just because of those guys. :slam"

Boitoy, I've read a few of your posts, and yes, you seem to be mature beyond your age, and others may well be receptive. Just be honest and bide your time. I'm sure you will find a couple more than willing to let you participate (or watch.)

Tracy

[Vjklander]

First, age is not a discriminator for us one way orthe other. 18-80 is fine if you are sexy. We don't mind voyeurs at all. We go to BDSM clubs a lot and always have an audience. The few occasions when we go to swing clubs though different, I guess we are just inured to the presence of others.
J

[passion8]

Well we have always made sure that we go to clubs on couples only nights as we've had other couples tell us how awful it is to have 10 or so men gathered around the bed getting as close to the action as possible. "Performing" in front of an audience is great, but yeah we like our audience to be couples. We've seen guys on couples nights sitting masturbating while watching a porno with their girl next to them - that's fine. But from what we have been told about clubs that let unlimited single men in is that, if you behave as you say you want to you'll be fine.

But don't rush into this! We'd suggest this is an experience to save for later in your life, right now you should be out there dating different girls getting your sexual education/experience there. Save going to a swingers club for later in life whether that is when you're in a long term relationship and you want explore further or perhaps single and tired of the regular bar scene.

[remox]

This is essentially an ettiquette question.

It is the responsibility of the mangement of the club to dictate what is acceptable behaviour for all of its guests.

Most clubs have specific rules for which areas are private (not allowing voyuers) and which areas are more public (allowing voyuers).

So first, obey the clubs rules.

What turns people off to voyuers is when the "presence" of the voyuer becomes intrusive. This is a matter of allowing for personal space. As a general guideline picture the distance that you would normally stand from someone in a conversation. Now triple it. Thats usually the closest people will be comfortable.

Now second, maintain that respectful distance when watching the action. Also, don't obstruct the view of those who were already watching when you arrived (this will again lead to crowding the participants).

Assuming that the participants are in my club in a public play area, here are my expectations of my members/guests.

If for some reason you feel that the participants would like you to become a participant. Approach to about normal conversation distance. Make sure to ask before touching anyone. Be prepared for a negative answer. If you recieve an invitation to participate great. If you receive a negative answer accept it immediately, gracefully and furthermore move back out to that respectful distance (mentioned above).