Do they REALLY allow single men?

mrclean4u · 09-16-2003, 09:27 AM

I've seen some clubs advertise that they allow some single men in
However,I get the feeling that they're pulling our legs.My guess is that any party that they do allow single men might allow only a few pre-screened G.Q. models in or maybe they'll have a party thats mostly single men,charge a large entrance fee and its tough luck if you're disappointed.am I correct on either count or are there actual opportunities for single men?I have yet to find a gal willing to join me in going to swing parties and going single may be the only option I have to satisfy my curiosity about the swinging lifestyle......Thanks , Tim.

windsor4fun2 · 09-16-2003, 11:47 AM

Tim,

Yes clubs, at least some clubs allow single males. Each club is different and have different rules. Even couples go through some sort of screening at most clubs. This may be a referral by an existing member or a meeting with the club owners.
Unfortunately single males have gotten a bad reputation because of a few bad apples. This is the reason for the extra sceening of single males.
The other issue is that there are more couples looking for other couples or single females. Because of this clubs will keep the number of single males low.

In your post you mentioned being unable to find a single woman willing to go to swinger clubs with you. I don't feel this is a good idea. I and many swinger frown upon that. You are basically using her as a "meal ticket" to get in the door. If you were a commited couple that would be fine but otherwise it is not the way to go.

Seach the board, there have been many threads discussing swinging single so you should find answers to most of your questions. There are people looking for single males so it is possible.

Jesse

naughty A · 09-16-2003, 11:53 AM

or there are clubs that are NOT employing a great deal of screening for the single males and so they are swamped with single guys... and very few couples ... and no single females...

so... yes there are clubs out there that do allow single males but each club and each club's rules are different.

gsu22 · 09-16-2003, 10:29 PM

I just hate that the "few bad apples" out there have given single men such a bad reputation. I know that when I start trying to meet some quality couples that I'll already start off at a disadvantage. First b/c I'm a single guy and secondly b/c a lot of couples want other couples and women. The only thing I can do is try I guess. It never hurts to ask......politely that is

windsor4fun2 · 09-16-2003, 11:37 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by gsu22
It never hurts to ask......politely that is

Your right, it never hurts to ask.

You just have to keep looking just like the rest of us and try not to get discouraged.

Jesse

**BiloxiCouple** · 09-16-2003, 11:50 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by mrclean4u
I've seen some clubs advertise that they allow some single men in
However,I get the feeling that they're pulling our legs.My guess is that any party that they do allow single men might allow only a few pre-screened G.Q. models in or maybe they'll have a party thats mostly single men,charge a large entrance fee and its tough luck if you're disappointed.am I correct on either count or are there actual opportunities for single men?I have yet to find a gal willing to join me in going to swing parties and going single may be the only option I have to satisfy my curiosity about the swinging lifestyle......Thanks , Tim.

1. If you are going to a club, find out the rules for yourself before you hand over the money. Also find out the best nights to go to a particular club. Middle of the week may or may not be better than a weekend night.

2. The opportunities for single men are based on what the couples at the club want and any contact you may have with them.

3. G.Q. Models? Probably not. The clubs are also driven by a money factor.

4. Lots of people have curiosity about the lifestyle. Many can't do it for whatever reason.

5. And getting a girl just to get into parties is called getting a "ticket". Some people don't look well on this.

Flori_DAMAN · 09-16-2003, 11:50 PM

Single men are an asset to any swinger gathering. Just as couples or single females are.

Don't be afraid to attend. Most couples, single men, and single females find that it is difficult to connect everytime you attend a club. The adonis's don't fare much better than the normal joe's.

The sensitive single will not fare well at a club. The couple will at least have each other to console each other if they have no luck. IF you are a single don't expect anything and plan on getting to know the club before you get steady fun. You may just get to watch some great action, but hey it beats hooters.

John

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09-16-2003, 09:27 AM	#1 (permalink)
mrclean4u Registered User Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 2 Location: costa mesa,ca. Status: single male	Do they REALLY allow single men? I've seen some clubs advertise that they allow some single men in However,I get the feeling that they're pulling our legs.My guess is that any party that they do allow single men might allow only a few pre-screened G.Q. models in or maybe they'll have a party thats mostly single men,charge a large entrance fee and its tough luck if you're disappointed.am I correct on either count or are there actual opportunities for single men?I have yet to find a gal willing to join me in going to swing parties and going single may be the only option I have to satisfy my curiosity about the swinging lifestyle......Thanks , Tim. __________________ tim.

09-16-2003, 11:53 AM	#3 (permalink)
naughty A Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 997 Location: windsor ontario Status: couple - female half	or there are clubs that are NOT employing a great deal of screening for the single males and so they are swamped with single guys... and very few couples ... and no single females... so... yes there are clubs out there that do allow single males but each club and each club's rules are different. __________________ The proper response to "Good morning" is not "Prove it!"

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09-16-2003, 11:47 AM	#2 (permalink)
windsor4fun2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 371 Location: Windsor, Ontario Status: M half of Couple	Tim, Yes clubs, at least some clubs allow single males. Each club is different and have different rules. Even couples go through some sort of screening at most clubs. This may be a referral by an existing member or a meeting with the club owners. Unfortunately single males have gotten a bad reputation because of a few bad apples. This is the reason for the extra sceening of single males. The other issue is that there are more couples looking for other couples or single females. Because of this clubs will keep the number of single males low. In your post you mentioned being unable to find a single woman willing to go to swinger clubs with you. I don't feel this is a good idea. I and many swinger frown upon that. You are basically using her as a "meal ticket" to get in the door. If you were a commited couple that would be fine but otherwise it is not the way to go. Seach the board, there have been many threads discussing swinging single so you should find answers to most of your questions. There are people looking for single males so it is possible. Jesse

09-16-2003, 10:29 PM	#4 (permalink)
gsu22 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 232 Location: Atlanta, Georgia Status: Single male	I just hate that the "few bad apples" out there have given single men such a bad reputation. I know that when I start trying to meet some quality couples that I'll already start off at a disadvantage. First b/c I'm a single guy and secondly b/c a lot of couples want other couples and women. The only thing I can do is try I guess. It never hurts to ask......politely that is

09-16-2003, 11:50 PM	#7 (permalink)
Flori_DAMAN Previously of MichiganCouple Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 2,100 Location: Vero Beach Florida Status: Single Male	Single men are an asset to any swinger gathering. Just as couples or single females are. Don't be afraid to attend. Most couples, single men, and single females find that it is difficult to connect everytime you attend a club. The adonis's don't fare much better than the normal joe's. The sensitive single will not fare well at a club. The couple will at least have each other to console each other if they have no luck. IF you are a single don't expect anything and plan on getting to know the club before you get steady fun. You may just get to watch some great action, but hey it beats hooters. John