Club Scene - Are newbies seen as fresh meat?

Stillonaquest · 08-07-2003, 07:50 PM

Ok, My wife and I have discussed the swinging scene for about a year now. Nothing has happened, but we still discuss it. I mentioned about going to a club and she said she thought it would be interesting.

Question is - Newbie's like we are - Will we be the new meat for the regulars? This is what I picture. Walk in, pay our dues and the owner shows us around. As he or she is showing us around, every head in the place is watching, which would make us feel uncomfortable right now. We want to go to a club and just check it out and see if it is for us. I'm I totally wrong with this image?

Are there clubs that are like a nightclub instead of like a motel setting?

fun_pairTX · 08-07-2003, 08:23 PM

There are two kinds of clubs, on and off premise. People have sex in on premise clubs and they are not supposed to have sex in off premise clubs which are more like a dance club.

Weezie · 08-08-2003, 08:06 AM

The regulars will take notice and (if they are nice and not so wrapped up in their own little group) will probably want to come meet you. You can perceive it as a meat market or just sit back and have fun with it. Just go with having fun in mind and no big expectations. Laugh, dance, flirt, whatever makes you feel comfortable. We attended a social once and didn't know a soul there. We were the new meat and the center of attention ( or so it felt like). I have to admit, that felt good for one night. Go for it and have fun!

OhioCouple · 08-08-2003, 08:26 AM

Although we've never been to one, I would suggest an off-premise club for a first time experience. On-premise clubs seem to add the pressure to do something more than meet like minded people. We have been to several on-premise clubs and even though we are no longer new, the pressure seems to be there, even if it is only in our own minds.

Which ever you decide, go and have fun. Make sure your rules and boundries are in place. Most importantly make sure you adhere to them. (especially as this is your first time) Then come home and talk about it.... a lot. From there you can decide if you would like to take it a step further.

Have fun and keep us updated on how it turns out for you.

***JustAskJulie*** · 08-09-2003, 05:07 PM

You definately want to stick to off-premise clubs in the beginning. This will be more like a nightclub where people are just there enjoying themselves. If the club is small you will still have a bit of the "fresh meat" advantage ifyou choose to take advantage of it. But at the same time many couples will be just the opposite giving you more than enough space because you are new and they don't want to scare you away.

At a larger club, fewer people will realize you are new just due to the volume of people at the club.

Stillonaquest · 08-10-2003, 08:31 PM

What are some nice clubs in the mid-west that you feel we would feel comfortable?

fun_pairTX · 08-10-2003, 10:05 PM

It would be a big help if we had a state to work with...........

WildFlower · 08-10-2003, 11:45 PM

We go to a club in Louisviile Ky . called Blus Grass Secrets it's a wonderful place to go. We have met alot of fun people there .

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08-07-2003, 07:50 PM	#1 (permalink)
Stillonaquest Active Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 15 Location: Midwest Status: Couple	Club Scene - Are newbies seen as fresh meat? Ok, My wife and I have discussed the swinging scene for about a year now. Nothing has happened, but we still discuss it. I mentioned about going to a club and she said she thought it would be interesting. Question is - Newbie's like we are - Will we be the new meat for the regulars? This is what I picture. Walk in, pay our dues and the owner shows us around. As he or she is showing us around, every head in the place is watching, which would make us feel uncomfortable right now. We want to go to a club and just check it out and see if it is for us. I'm I totally wrong with this image? Are there clubs that are like a nightclub instead of like a motel setting?

08-07-2003, 08:23 PM	#2 (permalink)
fun_pairTX Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,185 Location: Ennis, Texas Status: Couple	Clubs There are two kinds of clubs, on and off premise. People have sex in on premise clubs and they are not supposed to have sex in off premise clubs which are more like a dance club. __________________ fun_pairTX

08-08-2003, 08:06 AM	#3 (permalink)
Weezie Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 162 Location: MS Gulf Coast Status: female half of a couple	The regulars will take notice and (if they are nice and not so wrapped up in their own little group) will probably want to come meet you. You can perceive it as a meat market or just sit back and have fun with it. Just go with having fun in mind and no big expectations. Laugh, dance, flirt, whatever makes you feel comfortable. We attended a social once and didn't know a soul there. We were the new meat and the center of attention ( or so it felt like). I have to admit, that felt good for one night. Go for it and have fun! __________________ "Don't hate me because I'm beautiful"

08-08-2003, 08:26 AM	#4 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,616 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	Although we've never been to one, I would suggest an off-premise club for a first time experience. On-premise clubs seem to add the pressure to do something more than meet like minded people. We have been to several on-premise clubs and even though we are no longer new, the pressure seems to be there, even if it is only in our own minds. Which ever you decide, go and have fun. Make sure your rules and boundries are in place. Most importantly make sure you adhere to them. (especially as this is your first time) Then come home and talk about it.... a lot. From there you can decide if you would like to take it a step further. Have fun and keep us updated on how it turns out for you. __________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

08-09-2003, 05:07 PM	#5 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,307 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	You definately want to stick to off-premise clubs in the beginning. This will be more like a nightclub where people are just there enjoying themselves. If the club is small you will still have a bit of the "fresh meat" advantage ifyou choose to take advantage of it. But at the same time many couples will be just the opposite giving you more than enough space because you are new and they don't want to scare you away. At a larger club, fewer people will realize you are new just due to the volume of people at the club. __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

08-10-2003, 08:31 PM	#6 (permalink)
Stillonaquest Active Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 15 Location: Midwest Status: Couple	What are some nice clubs in the mid-west that you feel we would feel comfortable?

08-10-2003, 10:05 PM	#7 (permalink)
fun_pairTX Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,185 Location: Ennis, Texas Status: Couple	Midwest what? It would be a big help if we had a state to work with........... __________________ fun_pairTX

08-10-2003, 11:45 PM	#8 (permalink)
WildFlower Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 106 Location: Indiana Status: Couple	We go to a club in Louisviile Ky . called Blus Grass Secrets it's a wonderful place to go. We have met alot of fun people there . __________________ Living Life to the Fullest

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