Running into someone you know!

[Ashley]

I think it's naive to say if you run into your boss for example, it is no problem. I mean, what if he/she wants to swing with you. What if you don't want to. Now you have compromised your work situation. What if you do want to. Now you have further compromised your work situation. I just see running into work colleagues as a no win situation. In my mind, your sex life and your work life should be kept separate.

[BodyScape02]

WE all suffer this problem ... It is why so many of our profiles are decapitated(lol), but as I see it I...if its in a lifestyle club...its a "mexican stand off"

It's the senario of running into someone I know say in a hotel lobby or hallway as I tumble out of a room of writhing couples, while I am passionatly kissing a "girlfriend" goodbye.

My luck it would be the local preacher of the judge handling my custody case!


Now there is a night mare !!!

kisses

~Cat

[Flori_DAMAN]

Originally posted by Ashley
I think it's naive to say if you run into your boss for example, it is no problem. I mean, what if he/she wants to swing with you. What if you don't want to. Now you have compromised your work situation. What if you do want to. Now you have further compromised your work situation. I just see running into work colleagues as a no win situation. In my mind, your sex life and your work life should be kept separate.

I have given this point considerable thought. I have often put forward the opposite view. If it is your boss, mother, brother, or best friend they are there for the same purpose as you, so who cares?

What if you ran into your boss at church and he wanted you to contribute to the lonely widowers with cancer clubs foundation?

Its like OK! Or ....NO!

I don't see a big difference.

John

[bear_n_bunny]

I had to laugh when I saw this thread. Back when my ex-g/f and I were first starting, we had been admitted to a new swinger's group that, as it happened, catered to BBWs. It was only our second party, and not long before we left, suddenly she says to me, in a nervous voice, "what happens if we meet someone we know?". My response was something like what has been said here more than once; that is "Why should anything happen? It's not like he/she can say anything along the lines of "what are you doing here?", when we can ask them the very same question, so don't worry about it".

So off to the party we go. And damned if not five minutes after we arrive, and we are standing near the front door chatting with another couple, in walks this woman (along with her hubby) my g/f knows from a group they are both members of (the group was an advocacy organization for women with a certain medical condition).

Needless to say they were both flabbergasted at meeting like this, since they had had lunch together just a few days before, and neither of them had any idea that the other was into swinging or bisexual (as it happened, they both had the hots for each other since they first met, but neither made a move in that regard given where and how they met; needless to say they more than made up for that later... ). But things turned out very well, and as it happened, we spent the rest of the evening playing with them and one other couple, and a good time was had by all.

The moral to this story is, while one can dream up all sorts of scenarios wherein you meet someone you know at a party where things might not turn out so well, in the most likely case nothing bad would happen at all.

[thump29]

I don't have a problem running into someone we know because we are all there for the same reason right?

[bill&sabrina]

I think this is just good advice for life in general, but can eventually help people not ask this question. For those of you that are parents don't make sex a "Holy Grail" for your children. If sex isn't a "taboo" subject and it is so don't even say it isn't, but if sex isn't a taboo then we won't worry about seeing our bosses at swing clubs.
Bill

[fun_pairTX]

Our son's wife is bi and they both indulge in the lifestyle from time to time. The chances of our paths crossing are nil, as they have relocated outside Texas. When they did live here however, when making plans for a house party or some such we would check with each other to make sure our paths would not cross.

[BBgurl]

Fun pair, how did you know they were in the lifestyle? Is this something you all discussed together?

[Flori_DAMAN]

Originally posted by bill&sabrina
I For those of you that are parents don't make sex a "Holy Grail" for your children. If sex isn't a "taboo" subject and it is so don't even say it isn't, but if sex isn't a taboo then we won't worry about seeing our bosses at swing clubs.
Bill

Great post.

John

[bill&sabrina]

If you liked that one. I ran across an interview of playwright Arthur Miller in Esquire were he made my point a little more succintly. "The more sex the better. It may be a good thing to get it out in the open. You turn on the television now and they're screwing on the television. That's part of life. Why hide it in a basement someplace and get a lot of gagsters to distribute it?" More good advice for how to make running into someone you know at the swing club the same as running into them at the supermarket. Eating is as much a part of life as sex, but we don't worry about seeing someone we know at the supermarket. I am just really suprised at how many swingers are scared shitless at the thought of someone knowing what they do. We should celebrate our sexuality not hide it.
Bill

[fun_pairTX]

Son passed a remark when they were engaged to the effect that his bride to be was bi. I just asked him in what is my usual offhand manner, (I am a musician, NOT a "normal" father) "Is that a spectator or a participation sport?" He simply answered "participation". He is the oldest and the only one of our four that know about our activities. Discussions of what are usually "taboo" subjects have always been very open in our house.