Question about Dancing at clubs

TymKeepr · 05-17-2003, 09:27 AM

We are finally going to a swing club in Nashville next weekend, a first for both of us! I'm so excited but have a small apprehension.

First is, my husband does not dance except for slow dancing. I love to dance and have gone out on the floor with other friends when at regular parties to dance. Is this going to be a problem in getting to know people at a club?

TymKeepr

***JustAskJulie*** · 05-17-2003, 10:12 AM

Not at all. You are in a fairly common situation and often (even at swinger clubs) you will see large groups of girls dancing together, and many guys that only come out for the slow songs. It's even less of an obstacle to getting to know others as if you find a couple you might be interested in, you can wait till a slow song and go over and ask them to dance.
It gives you a chance to get up close and personal and since it's a slow song you might even get to talk to them a bit more.

naughty A · 05-19-2003, 12:52 PM

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Originally posted by TymKeepr
First is, my husband does not dance except for slow dancing. I love to dance and have gone out on the floor with other friends when at regular parties to dance. Is this going to be a problem in getting to know people at a club?
TymKeepr

Ditto:

My husband sits ALL of the fast songs out. It is a little annoying because it makes people think that he is anti-social, if you can convince him to get up and dance he will have a much better time. IF NOT which is the position that I'm in then don't worry too much about it. There are lots of guys sitting on the sidelines that only dance the slow songs. It is better if you can hook up with a couple where the guys can get to know each other back at the table while you dance with the girl. AND In fact we once met a
couple where SHE was the one who didn't fast dance EVER.

so go have a great time. Dance until your feet are too sore and make him carry you home.

Naughty A.

J & K · 05-19-2003, 11:16 PM

Oh how funny!!!

J here the male half of K.

I won't do line dancing---that is a good time to check out the ladies!!! men---dancing a fast dance---how rare!!!

When we dance a fast dance and in a sexual way we see men just with their mouths open. Come on men---if you know your lady likes to fast dance just go out there and fake it---like you are having fun. You do it enough it will become part of you---just like a habit that starts. I didn't know how to country dance---so I took lessons. Men---just go and wiggle it up a bit. if you don't know how just pretend you are having sex while standing---lol.

Some women just don't dance either. So it goes both ways!!!

Dance to what you like, but also dance to what you don't like to make the other person you are there with happy---it might be worth your time. She might give you a good physical pay-off. Women do check out how well a man dances on the floor. If you can't dance what is to say how well you dance in bed? It's all in the hips!!!! LOL!!!!

Ashley · 05-19-2003, 11:35 PM

We met our favorite swing partners at a club where L pushed me into the woman and a female friend of hers while they were dancing. He did it on purpose because he wanted to get to know her. We had a great time dancing and the 3 of us girls even did the pole thing. I agree that you don't have to be good dancers to have fun, just get out there and rub up against each other....L and I dance a lot like that, he calls it "dirty dancing" and it gets us both warmed up for the events that follow

Flori_DAMAN · 05-20-2003, 01:26 AM

Have I mentioned that I do the Michael Jackson Moon walk to every song?

John

jen · 05-20-2003, 07:15 PM

Dancing gives me laugh attacks. I laugh at myself...of course

**Alura** · 05-20-2003, 10:18 PM

In our case, Mrs. Alura is the non-dancer. Mr. Alura was in a square dance club in Junior High and High School and learned in other venues to Fox Trot, Waltz, Tango, etc. He and his partner once won a Twist contest oh so many years ago, but that information really dates him! Once every five years, at his high school reunion, he and his high-school sweetheart get a chance to "cut a rug" together. That's about the extent of his dancing nowadays. We usually sit dances out together.

Alura

***JustAskJulie*** · 05-23-2003, 04:01 PM

Is that this weekend that you are going? Which club? Menages?
Be sure to let us know how it goes for you.

OhioCouple · 05-23-2003, 04:21 PM

My hubby is smooth on his feet and can dance to anything (including the latest moves) . I on the other hand will only dance to the slow songs. I just feel more comfortable with that.

Go and have fun. Know that there are many out there of both sexes that adhere to one type of music more so than the other. You'll not feel out of place at all and you will probably draw a lot more attention to yourselves as you are the more outgoing one when it comes to 'cutting the rug'. I know it does for us when my hubby slides on the dance floor!

TymKeepr · 05-23-2003, 08:14 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by JustAskJulie
Is that this weekend that you are going? Which club? Menages?
Be sure to let us know how it goes for you.

Yes, it's Menages and it's tomorrow night!

I'll probably be a nervous wreck beforehand!

TymKeepr

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05-17-2003, 09:27 AM	#1 (permalink)
TymKeepr Here to Stay Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 53 Location: East TN Status: F part of couple	Question about Dancing at clubs We are finally going to a swing club in Nashville next weekend, a first for both of us! I'm so excited but have a small apprehension. First is, my husband does not dance except for slow dancing. I love to dance and have gone out on the floor with other friends when at regular parties to dance. Is this going to be a problem in getting to know people at a club? TymKeepr __________________ "We are the people our parents warned us about." - Buffett

05-17-2003, 10:12 AM	#2 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,307 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	Not at all. You are in a fairly common situation and often (even at swinger clubs) you will see large groups of girls dancing together, and many guys that only come out for the slow songs. It's even less of an obstacle to getting to know others as if you find a couple you might be interested in, you can wait till a slow song and go over and ask them to dance. It gives you a chance to get up close and personal and since it's a slow song you might even get to talk to them a bit more. __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

05-20-2003, 07:15 PM	#7 (permalink)
jen Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 1,118 Location: above a rainbow Status: un dolce uno	danceing Dancing gives me laugh attacks. I laugh at myself...of course __________________ April in Tulsa - it's fun for everyone!

05-23-2003, 04:01 PM	#9 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,307 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	Is that this weekend that you are going? Which club? Menages? Be sure to let us know how it goes for you. __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

05-19-2003, 11:16 PM	#4 (permalink)
J & K Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 189 Location: Middle GA Status: Couple SLS Name:OKC_CPL	Oh how funny!!! J here the male half of K. I won't do line dancing---that is a good time to check out the ladies!!! men---dancing a fast dance---how rare!!! When we dance a fast dance and in a sexual way we see men just with their mouths open. Come on men---if you know your lady likes to fast dance just go out there and fake it---like you are having fun. You do it enough it will become part of you---just like a habit that starts. I didn't know how to country dance---so I took lessons. Men---just go and wiggle it up a bit. if you don't know how just pretend you are having sex while standing---lol. Some women just don't dance either. So it goes both ways!!! Dance to what you like, but also dance to what you don't like to make the other person you are there with happy---it might be worth your time. She might give you a good physical pay-off. Women do check out how well a man dances on the floor. If you can't dance what is to say how well you dance in bed? It's all in the hips!!!! LOL!!!!

05-19-2003, 11:35 PM	#5 (permalink)
Ashley Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 207 Location: Arizona Status: Couple	We met our favorite swing partners at a club where L pushed me into the woman and a female friend of hers while they were dancing. He did it on purpose because he wanted to get to know her. We had a great time dancing and the 3 of us girls even did the pole thing. I agree that you don't have to be good dancers to have fun, just get out there and rub up against each other....L and I dance a lot like that, he calls it "dirty dancing" and it gets us both warmed up for the events that follow

05-20-2003, 01:26 AM	#6 (permalink)
Flori_DAMAN Previously of MichiganCouple Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 2,100 Location: Vero Beach Florida Status: Single Male	Have I mentioned that I do the Michael Jackson Moon walk to every song? John

05-20-2003, 10:18 PM	#8 (permalink)
Alura T-Town Playmates Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,126 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Married to Mrs. Alura	In our case, Mrs. Alura is the non-dancer. Mr. Alura was in a square dance club in Junior High and High School and learned in other venues to Fox Trot, Waltz, Tango, etc. He and his partner once won a Twist contest oh so many years ago, but that information really dates him! Once every five years, at his high school reunion, he and his high-school sweetheart get a chance to "cut a rug" together. That's about the extent of his dancing nowadays. We usually sit dances out together. Alura

05-23-2003, 04:21 PM	#10 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,616 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	My hubby is smooth on his feet and can dance to anything (including the latest moves) . I on the other hand will only dance to the slow songs. I just feel more comfortable with that. Go and have fun. Know that there are many out there of both sexes that adhere to one type of music more so than the other. You'll not feel out of place at all and you will probably draw a lot more attention to yourselves as you are the more outgoing one when it comes to 'cutting the rug'. I know it does for us when my hubby slides on the dance floor! __________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

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