Attending First Meet with or without another cple

sccple29073 · 06-30-2002, 09:41 PM

Hubby and I are interested in swinging and plan on attending our first swingers club in 2 weeks, we have been invited to attend with another couple. My question is, would it be better to attend with another couple of alone.

Hubby says he will feel more comfy attending with another couple..However I am worried that either the other couple will feel "obligated" to stay with us or vise versa.

What do others think?

TasteeKat · 06-30-2002, 10:01 PM

Our advise is if the couple and your hubby wants them to go with you, then they should drive their own car. We have been put in a similiar situation and felt obligated to leave early, because the the other couple was ready to leave. We learnt from that one, and usually go alone or meet the other couples there now.

Good Luck with what-ever you chose

R/C

ILcouple · 07-01-2002, 09:23 AM

our first trip to a swingers club we were accompanied by another couple it made it nice to have someone that we knew there and we soon got to meet some of the the other regs through them no one really came up to start a conversation we learned later they did not want to scare the new members off *we dont scare easy* so we did it ourselves. we ended up swinging that night with the couple we went with and another couple it wasnt planned that way we just went with the flow
and have no regrets about it we have remained freinds with them and talk on occasion though many miles seperate us now.But as TasteeKat has mentioned and we also agree with is the seperate car we did this but it really didnt matter we all stumbled out of there with bed head and smiles at the same time *closing time* and I am glad they were there to share in our first swing club adventure.

Quin · 07-01-2002, 11:56 PM

I agree with TasteeKat, I'd go with the other couple but each in their own car. Maybe you and your hubby could meet the other couple beforehand for dinner and drinks then proceed on to the club. I think it's always good for someone or couples, their first time at a club, to have someone to *hangout* with, chat with with no preconceived notions so that one doesn't feel obligated. It helps with those *first time jitters*.

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Brian and Jo · 07-02-2002, 10:10 PM

When we went to our first swing club meeting we went with a couple with whom we had swapped partners once before. There were several reasons for this:
- as first timers at the club we were very nervous. Going with another couple was a little more comfortable.
- we made sure that we knew at least one other couple at the party which reduced the chance of us being wallflowers.
- we were pretty well assured that if things did'nt work out there was another couple there with whom we could party.
As it happened we had no reason to be concerned. Jo met up with a couple of guys and had her first ever threesome while I had a great time with a lady I met shortly after we arrived at the party. And to round the evening off we went home with the couple we went with ( who also had no problem in finding people to party with) and ended up swapping with them and then fucking our own partner before the four of us spent the night together in their bed. That was the first time (but not the last!) that we had multiple partners in the course of one evening.

kitty · 07-05-2002, 09:47 PM

hi,

This has been very informative. It seems like going with another couple and taking separate cars hedges all your bets. I like the idea of cocktails and drinks firt to help relax all in volve. Sounds like gret fun

CyberMWC · 07-06-2002, 01:22 PM

Our first-time attending a club dance, we went alone, but still met a lot of nice people as the evening wore on.

All-in-all, we enjoyed ourselves. Enough to where we're going back again for MORE (July 20th party)! Only this time, we plan on going/meeting our friends there, which should be even MORE FUN! <img border="0" alt="[Smiley_sex]" title="" src="graemlins/smilysex.gif" />

We've updated a couple of our ad/profiles online just recently, and we've been receiving replies from couples who wish to meet. So we've been using the 20th party as an option meeting date/place, which is working out so far. Since most of the new couples we've chatted with, are already members with the SSC. Hey...2 birds with 1 stone... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="wink.gif" />

Whatever is comfortable for everyone. To go alone vs. with friends....I agree with taking separate cars and meeting somewhere neutral like a bar for a few drinks, before heading out to the club.

CyberWife

sccple29073 · 07-08-2002, 06:01 PM

Just wanted to give everyone and update.
We attended the club this past saturday. We met the other couple at out hotel and went to the club together. We are definately glad we attended with another couple. Initially we felt like we were "wallflowers" at a high school dance. Glad we had atleast 2 people we knew..lol. But we ended up having a blast and meeting a lot of great people.
Hubby and I ended the night with just each other,but we had a blast and can't wait to go back!!

Quin · 07-08-2002, 11:24 PM

<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by hllmail:
Just wanted to give everyone and update.
We attended the club this past saturday. We met the other couple at out hotel and went to the club together. We are definately glad we attended with another couple. Initially we felt like we were "wallflowers" at a high school dance. Glad we had atleast 2 people we knew..lol. But we ended up having a blast and meeting a lot of great people.
Hubby and I ended the night with just each other,but we had a blast and can't wait to go back!!<hr /></blockquote>Great, hllmail!! I'm glad it was a pleasant time for you and you were able to meet lots of great people/couples!! I'm sure you're looking forward to your second visit now!!

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06-30-2002, 09:41 PM	#1 (permalink)
sccple29073 Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 61 Location: South carolina	Attending First Meet with or without another cple Hubby and I are interested in swinging and plan on attending our first swingers club in 2 weeks, we have been invited to attend with another couple. My question is, would it be better to attend with another couple of alone. Hubby says he will feel more comfy attending with another couple..However I am worried that either the other couple will feel "obligated" to stay with us or vise versa. What do others think? __________________ "only live once"

06-30-2002, 10:01 PM	#2 (permalink)
TasteeKat Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2002 Posts: 15 Location: Bloomingdale, GA near Savannah Status: D. Female	Our advise is if the couple and your hubby wants them to go with you, then they should drive their own car. We have been put in a similiar situation and felt obligated to leave early, because the the other couple was ready to leave. We learnt from that one, and usually go alone or meet the other couples there now. Good Luck with what-ever you chose R/C __________________ Smoooches & Hugzzz *TasteeKat*

07-01-2002, 09:23 AM	#3 (permalink)
ILcouple Here to Stay Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 97 Location: Illinois Status: couple	our first trip to a swingers club we were accompanied by another couple it made it nice to have someone that we knew there and we soon got to meet some of the the other regs through them no one really came up to start a conversation we learned later they did not want to scare the new members off we dont scare easy so we did it ourselves. we ended up swinging that night with the couple we went with and another couple it wasnt planned that way we just went with the flow and have no regrets about it we have remained freinds with them and talk on occasion though many miles seperate us now.But as TasteeKat has mentioned and we also agree with is the seperate car we did this but it really didnt matter we all stumbled out of there with bed head and smiles at the same time closing time and I am glad they were there to share in our first swing club adventure. __________________ "Sex is like a game of cards...... if you don’t have a partner you better have a good hand cause you aint playing in my playground =)"

07-01-2002, 11:56 PM	#4 (permalink)
Quin Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 1,136 Location: Ohio Status: Single Female	I agree with TasteeKat, I'd go with the other couple but each in their own car. Maybe you and your hubby could meet the other couple beforehand for dinner and drinks then proceed on to the club. I think it's always good for someone or couples, their first time at a club, to have someone to hangout with, chat with with no preconceived notions so that one doesn't feel obligated. It helps with those first time jitters. VOTE FOR JULIE!! <img border="0" alt="[Blowjob]" title="" src="graemlins/bj.gif" /> Quin <img border="0" alt="[Smiley_sex]" title="" src="graemlins/smilysex.gif" /> __________________ One thing about me is that I'm consistant in my behavior, my thoughts, and my posting. I don't sell out or change for any reason outside of my own self wanting to. What you see is what you get: today, tomorrow and every day after that.

07-02-2002, 10:10 PM	#5 (permalink)
Brian and Jo Brian and Jo Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 238 Location: Ontario Status: Couple Blog Entries: 3	When we went to our first swing club meeting we went with a couple with whom we had swapped partners once before. There were several reasons for this: - as first timers at the club we were very nervous. Going with another couple was a little more comfortable. - we made sure that we knew at least one other couple at the party which reduced the chance of us being wallflowers. - we were pretty well assured that if things did'nt work out there was another couple there with whom we could party. As it happened we had no reason to be concerned. Jo met up with a couple of guys and had her first ever threesome while I had a great time with a lady I met shortly after we arrived at the party. And to round the evening off we went home with the couple we went with ( who also had no problem in finding people to party with) and ended up swapping with them and then fucking our own partner before the four of us spent the night together in their bed. That was the first time (but not the last!) that we had multiple partners in the course of one evening.

07-05-2002, 09:47 PM	#6 (permalink)
kitty Active Member Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 19 Location: Las Vegas	hi, This has been very informative. It seems like going with another couple and taking separate cars hedges all your bets. I like the idea of cocktails and drinks firt to help relax all in volve. Sounds like gret fun

07-06-2002, 01:22 PM	#7 (permalink)
CyberMWC Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2000 Posts: 70 Location: MI,USA	Our first-time attending a club dance, we went alone, but still met a lot of nice people as the evening wore on. All-in-all, we enjoyed ourselves. Enough to where we're going back again for MORE (July 20th party)! Only this time, we plan on going/meeting our friends there, which should be even MORE FUN! <img border="0" alt="[Smiley_sex]" title="" src="graemlins/smilysex.gif" /> We've updated a couple of our ad/profiles online just recently, and we've been receiving replies from couples who wish to meet. So we've been using the 20th party as an option meeting date/place, which is working out so far. Since most of the new couples we've chatted with, are already members with the SSC. Hey...2 birds with 1 stone... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="wink.gif" /> Whatever is comfortable for everyone. To go alone vs. with friends....I agree with taking separate cars and meeting somewhere neutral like a bar for a few drinks, before heading out to the club. CyberWife

07-08-2002, 06:01 PM	#8 (permalink)
sccple29073 Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 61 Location: South carolina	Just wanted to give everyone and update. We attended the club this past saturday. We met the other couple at out hotel and went to the club together. We are definately glad we attended with another couple. Initially we felt like we were "wallflowers" at a high school dance. Glad we had atleast 2 people we knew..lol. But we ended up having a blast and meeting a lot of great people. Hubby and I ended the night with just each other,but we had a blast and can't wait to go back!! __________________ "only live once"

07-08-2002, 11:24 PM	#9 (permalink)
Quin Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 1,136 Location: Ohio Status: Single Female	</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by hllmail: <strong>Just wanted to give everyone and update. We attended the club this past saturday. We met the other couple at out hotel and went to the club together. We are definately glad we attended with another couple. Initially we felt like we were "wallflowers" at a high school dance. Glad we had atleast 2 people we knew..lol. But we ended up having a blast and meeting a lot of great people. Hubby and I ended the night with just each other,but we had a blast and can't wait to go back!!</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Great, hllmail!! I'm glad it was a pleasant time for you and you were able to meet lots of great people/couples!! I'm sure you're looking forward to your second visit now!! VOTE FOR JULIE!! <img border="0" alt="[Blowjob]" title="" src="graemlins/bj.gif" /> Quin <img border="0" alt="[Smiley_sex]" title="" src="graemlins/smilysex.gif" /> __________________ One thing about me is that I'm consistant in my behavior, my thoughts, and my posting. I don't sell out or change for any reason outside of my own self wanting to. What you see is what you get: today, tomorrow and every day after that.

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