What if you know someone at a club?

My hubby and I have been swinging for a year with 2 encounters, both out-of town couples. We want to meet someone locally and are planning on attending a club, but we are concerned about seeing someone we might know or that knows us. We have always wanted to keep our alternative lifestyle discreet due to our prominence in our community. We have kids and can't travel. We are so tired of litterally weeding out replies to internet ads and have had a few bad attempts at picking up people in bars, etc..Any advice or how to handle the dreaded "Oh my god, so and so is here!" What do you do or say? Do you run for the door or act nonchalantly and go and approach them?

[LIZA]

Well, if they are at a swing club, it's for the same reason you are! I wouldn't worry too much about it

[JustAskJulie]

What Liza said.

There is really nothing to worry about. They are most likely looking for the same discretion you are.. and to go off and tell someone else that they saw you there would be saying that they were there.

If nothing else, it might open the door for you with someone locally that you may have already had interest in but no knowledge that they were swingers as well.

[danc694u]

Originally posted by <Worried Wife>:
<STRONG>We want to meet someone locally ..snipped... but we are concerned about seeing someone we might know or that knows us</STRONG>

Listen to yourself ?!?!?!? You want to meet someone locally? But are concerned they might know you?

If we met anyone that was local from my hometown...I would know them. And they would at least know me, provided they were between 21 & 60 and still breathing!

We've met former high school class mates (even one of their kids), the "local" bank VP, Officers from the local sheriffs dept., and clients that know us from work.

God forbid, they get strict religion and a loose tongue!

The point of this post, is pretty much like what Julie & Liza said. Go and have fun! If you bump into someone you know, Say hi! They're there for the very same reason. They didn't come to write a 6 o'clock news article about your "private" life.

Besides, you've admitted your "time & experience" within the lifestyle has been limited. They may very well be able to hook you up with the "local" scene

[OneOfTwo]

If the other couple/single was someone who you were attracted to, what else could you ask for? I would be happy to see someone I knew. Now you have friend to talk to about it. Keep in mind as stated before... you are both there for the same reason!

[JMM]

what if you run into someone such as your good friend's children, or their parents, or even your uncle or aunts?

danc694u said they met their high school friend's kids. So did you do with them?

[danc694u]

Originally posted by JMM:
<STRONG>danc694u said they met their high school friend's kids. So did you do with them?</STRONG>

God Forbid!! LOL

This couple...the female half is the child of a school classmate. One I had the hots for in High School LOL

Actually we speak quite a bit since that meeting, via the web. Both of us have since moved to AL, differant towns. We'll never "hook up" with them though. They're looking for a "single" BI female ONLY.

We'll never tell their parents either. The female of the couple is BI, and has been that way for a very long time. And, her parents just would not understand.

While they do attend socials, and have for some time (over 2 years). They've never actually committed themselves. I.E. They have never met anyone they have "hooked up" with.

We stay in contact. And ask about socials they plan to attend, and vice versa. That's the limit of our "relationship" with them.

[JustAskJulie]

Kinda goes back to our discussion about why we don't hook up with different age groups (reminds us of our kids/parents).

In this case it seems that maybe you get to be (in an odd way) parental figures for this couple.. since you can talk to them about things that they would never talk to their parents about.