Is it common or appropriate to use an alias when contacting a club?

[imsherona2]

I started out going as a single female (before meeting Mike of course) and it was a private home party...and you had to give your legal name thru their website introduction/sign up to get the invite, but once there, they didn't care what you called yourself.

Then once Mike and I started going as a couple, we saw no need to use alias, pretty much everyone knew us already or me from before. Besides, usually the rule of thumb, at least the places we have gone, is: what goes on there, stays there!

This was all while we lived in So. Calif., now that we have relocated to Oregon, we haven't had the opportunity to attend any swinger stuff at all, but we are hoping that will change here in the near future...Any swingers in the Grants Pass area? Let us know...

[AdamInEve]

Originally Posted by SexyRedmondCpl

The same thing for us with masking pictures on Swing Lifestyle or the like. We both figure that if you can't afford to get caught, you shouldn't be doing it. Period.

We don't agree!!! (Of course you have to have pics posted to mask them.) If it were that acceptable, swinging would be a mainstream activity and not something you see on the news during sweeps week. There are always lurkers that get off on this kind of dirt who will somehow sneak thru the cracks so we take as many precautions as possible, within reason of course. Our face pics are in a private folder and we only open them after we have corresponded with a couple and feel comfortable we are ready to trust them. We understand that nothing is 100% certain but since we are not ready at this point in time to divulge our activities to our young teens, parents, and extended family, not to mention co-workers we feel this is the best course of action.

[SexyRedmondCpl]

Originally Posted by AdamInEve

If it were that acceptable, swinging would be a mainstream activity...

Now hold on a minute. We never said that swinging was mainstream or accepted. We acknowledge the taboo that we all live here. We all take the precautions that we feel are necessary to protect our privacy.

However, I feel it appropriate to point out that privacy is an illusion only second to data security. Anything that you put on the net is not only not 100% secure, it's 100% insecure. The malcontents you speak of can most definately access your private pics if they're so determined.

Besides, if your parents, extended family, and co-workers find you on Swing Lifestyle, then they are just as guilty. And if your young teens do, then you have a bigger issue, now don't you?

[lovinher]

I think most swingers cannot afford to get caught but take the chance anyway for obvious reasons. It wouldn't be end of the world but I'd rather it didn't happen. The first club we went to required a picture ID so an alias wouldn't work. I didn't like it one bit but was caught off guard and went with it. It's not like they give you name tag to walk around with anyway.

[AdamInEve]

Originally Posted by SexyRedmondCpl

Now hold on a minute. We never said that swinging was mainstream or accepted. We acknowledge the taboo that we all live here. We all take the precautions that we feel are necessary to protect our privacy.

However, I feel it appropriate to point out that privacy is an illusion only second to data security. Anything that you put on the net is not only not 100% secure, it's 100% insecure. The malcontents you speak of can most definately access your private pics if they're so determined.

Besides, if your parents, extended family, and co-workers find you on Swing Lifestyle, then they are just as guilty. And if your young teens do, then you have a bigger issue, now don't you?

Of course you never mentioned that swinging is mainstream or accepted but by inferring that "if you can't afford to get caught" then by proxy you infer that it is acceptable. We never suggested that our young teens, parents or extended family would find us on Swing Lifestyle. We suggested that we are not ready to divulge to them our little secret just because we find it acceptable. We also made it clear that we understand that it is possible for those with the aptitude to access what we consider private but the only option we have is to take as much precaution as possible. And surely, yourselves not being that far removed from the age bracket of our young teens, we understand more then you that this is a different era we live in, and trolling the computer these days is as much akin as to sneaking into your parents closet of yesteryear.

[Malachista]

Its fine if you have believable aliases.
but if you introduce yourself as "Hotbabex78" and "Superdick24x7" don't expect people to take you seriously - same if they find out that you used a fake name

[AprilMike]

Why use an alias? Use your first or a nickname. Don't give out your last name. If you are THAT recognisable, and TRULY have to be "that" discreet, this isn't for you.

Over the years, we met judges, city officials, teachers, priciples, a couple actors, and a few sports figures,,,, even to the point we got autographs,lol.


Funny thing is, MANY people feel the same as you. We even met a sanitation worker for the city that was saying the same as you "everyone knows me, if I get seen here, I'll lose my, blah,blah,blah". I kept laughing inside thinking "dude, you are the garbage man, not the govenor".

Funny story, also shows that I'm not BSing about higher ups. Anyway, I'm sure everyone remembers the y2k paranoias. A friend of ours, high up in the city, joined us at a swingers club for the evening. As he walks up to the table with a duffle bag. He opens it up and pulls out 20-30 different cell phones and beepers (I kid you not). He was in charge of one of the city's computer infrastructures and had to be availiable and within 30 minutes of downtown in case the worst happenned. Well, midnight came, no collapse of the free world,lol. Then 5 minutes later, the building goes BLACK, no lights, no music, parking lot lights,,,,nada. He was FREAKING. No phones were ringing either. As it turns out, a drunk driver took out a utility bock a block away, but even to this day, we still laugh about it.