"Beautiful People Only!" Swing Clubs/Groups

[incommunicado]

Anyone encountered this? Anyone been to one? Thoughts? Reactions? Feelings on the subject?

[BradAndJanet]

We would be staying away, as we are not 'beautiful people', at least on the outside. If some folks want to limit themselves to that, then, by all means, they're free to do so. I think they're missing out on some wonderful, funny, intelligent people, but everybody has their own idea of what they're looking for.

-B

[naughty A]

yes it is fairly common. These clubs also tend to form cliques and do not welcome newcomers of any kind - beautiful or not. They tend not to be very fun evenings for people outside the group.

And vain as it sounds I do consider myself among the beautiful people.

I prefer to find my partners among people I find physically attractive to me but I personally am looking at more than just physical attributes. I don't reject someone only on looks (My number #1 prerequisite is that they not smoke)

It is the easiest quick screen method. I'm sure I'm not the only one with a mental check list of what I want and don't want in a playmate.

Having said that I often find that a personality can be more attractive than someones physical appearance and mental attraction can be better than physical.

Trying to confine myself to the question at hand.

Naughty A.

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by naughty A
yes it is fairly common. These clubs also tend to form cliques and do not welcome newcomers of any kind - beautiful or not. They tend not to be very fun evenings for people outside the group.

And vain as it sounds I do consider myself among the beautiful people.

I prefer to find my partners among people I find physically attractive to me but I personally am looking at more than just physical attributes. I don't reject someone only on looks (My number #1 prerequisite is that they not smoke)

It is the easiest quick screen method. I'm sure I'm not the only one with a mental check list of what I want and don't want in a playmate.

Having said that I often find that a personality can be more attractive than someones physical appearance and mental attraction can be better than physical.

Trying to confine myself to the question at hand.

Naughty A.

This subject has come up in various locations on the board. It invariably boils down to whether or not a person's physical appearance and features should be the sole criteria for choosing partners -- or in this case, admitting people into a club. As far as the latter goes, I could look like Brad Pitt and I'd still tell that club to go to hell - that's no different than admitting people only of a particular race. It's also the reason why I've railed numerous times against ads that specify pretty people only. People who seek only the physically beautiful are petty and pretentious IMO, and while I recognized everyone has their preferences, that doesn't necessarily mean being completely exclusionary to everyone else out there. We all have something to offer, if not a 25 inch waistline.

Dan

[fun_pairTX]

There is nothing wrong witn good looks, I get a major laugh from some of the types that sport them however. On the dance floor I love to roar at the folks that compete for mirror space. In personal experience I can say that women with a few extra pounds are MUCH better playmates. Not a prejudice, but a personal experience.

[incommunicado]

I posted the string, because I just read an article about it in Playboy, and found it interesting. By referrel only, people with the right look and all the right stuff, can find there way onto the ground floor of a swinger's network that culminates at the top in some pretty racey parties where only the most beautiful women and their dates are allowed to play. Aparantly, quite a bit of hooking up can occurr on your way up the ladder.

I will admit though, the concept only reinforces my anxiety about trying the club scene. My wife and I are in our early to mid thirties and I will admit I am interested in keeping our swinging to our own age range. The dilemna, is that others in that range can be fairly demanding. This would be no problem for my wife, who is attractive, sexy, intelligent, and sexually agressive. I, on the other hand am short (5'2") , boyish and cute. I will also admit, while I'm on the couch, that I'm just normally endowed (6" hard) and I keep hearing that most of the women who run in the up to 35 age range are seeking some extra-large alternatives.

I just like the idea of making good friends that we can also have sex with if the mood strikes us. It would be nice to have a club adventure, but, I would at least like to leave with my ego intact.

[naughty A]

Originally posted by CanadianCouple
This subject has come up in various locations on the board. It invariably boils down to whether or not a person's physical appearance and features should be the sole criteria for choosing partners -- or in this case, admitting people into a club. As far as the latter goes, I could look like Brad Pitt and I'd still tell that club to go to hell - that's no different than admitting people only of a particular race. It's also the reason why I've railed numerous times against ads that specify pretty people only. People who seek only the physically beautiful are petty and pretentious IMO, and while I recognized everyone has their preferences, that doesn't necessarily mean being completely exclusionary to everyone else out there. We all have something to offer, if not a 25 inch waistline.

Dan

Did I say any of this in my post - NO

I was addressing the ORIGINAL question - does it happen - the answer is yes.

Can you deny that you Never - Ever ruled someone out because their looks didn't do anything for you?

And to the orignial person who posted - you'll be fine - everyone eventually finds the environment/particular club that they are comfortable in.

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by naughty A
Did I say any of this in my post - NO

No, I said it.

I was addressing the ORIGINAL question - does it happen - the answer is yes.

Yes, it does happen. That doesn't make it right, but it does happen.

Can you deny that you Never - Ever ruled someone out because their looks didn't do anything for you?

Based on their physical features alone, yes, I can safely say we've never ruled anyone out based on that alone. Dirty and unkempt is another matter, entirely preventable, and we certainly have ruled out on that.

And to the orignial person who posted - you'll be fine - everyone eventually finds the environment/particular club that they are comfortable in.

I'm not sure why, but based on your response to this and another comment you made in another post, you seem irritated by my response. Care to explain why?

Dan

[Roxysbayou]

I would not go to a club like that. Who are they to say who I can choose to swing with? I can decide that on my own. I have attended a party where I was shunned. I think that I am nice looking so I don't think that's why. I think it had more to do with age and being an outsider. But I know how it feels now. And I will never attend another one of their parties.

[naughty A]

As it happens I felt and do feel personally attacked for expressing my views. Not just in this forum by yourself but in others where I have posted my opinion.

I was welcomed for my experience and was asked to hopefully contribute some things that I have learned. I have been simply trying to do that.

The point that I was trying to make to you and those people who use quotes is that if you quote back ALL my words I can't tell what specifically you are referring to.

The original point that I was trying to make to the questioner is that being beautiful does not always get you into the clique. AND that I have been excluded not based on looks but on the fact that they were a closed group - not open to newcomers.

I get that impression here as well. This is a closed group. I get it. Only here it isn't looks you discriminate against its opinions.

In telling Incommunicado that people do find the right niche for them - well hey- you try different clubs until you find one that fits what you are looking for: be it your same taste in music or same age group or level of hygiene or number of tattoos or some other common interest that you share with that particular group.

Clubs that have beautiful people cliques are not fun. I don't go there either, but then they don't need or want us, Dan, do they.

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by naughty A
As it happens I felt and do feel personally attacked for expressing my views. Not just in this forum by yourself but in others where I have posted my opinion.

I was welcomed for my experience and was asked to hopefully contribute some things that I have learned. I have been simply trying to do that.

The point that I was trying to make to you and those people who use quotes is that if you quote back ALL my words I can't tell what specifically you are referring to.

The original point that I was trying to make to the questioner is that being beautiful does not always get you into the clique. AND that I have been excluded not based on looks but on the fact that they were a closed group - not open to newcomers.

I get that impression here as well. This is a closed group. I get it. Only here it isn't looks you discriminate against its opinions.

In telling Incommunicado that people do find the right niche for them - well hey- you try different clubs until you find one that fits what you are looking for: be it your same taste in music or same age group or level of hygiene or number of tattoos or some other common interest that you share with that particular group.

Clubs that have beautiful people cliques are not fun. I don't go there either, but then they don't need or want us, Dan, do they.

Bad day?

How on earth do you interpret my post to you as an attack? Cripes lady, get a clue.

I often highlight an entire quote when addressing that post, that way I can have both your post and the answer I'm composing in the same window while I'm actually writing a reply. I can't believe you think it's something to bitch about, I've never heard anyone complain about it before.

I certainly hope you're easier to get along with in person than in here. Lighten up, sweetie.

Dan

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by CanadianCouple
This subject has come up in various locations on the board. It invariably boils down to whether or not a person's physical appearance and features should be the sole criteria for choosing partners -- or in this case, admitting people into a club. As far as the latter goes, I could look like Brad Pitt and I'd still tell that club to go to hell - that's no different than admitting people only of a particular race. It's also the reason why I've railed numerous times against ads that specify pretty people only. People who seek only the physically beautiful are petty and pretentious IMO, and while I recognized everyone has their preferences, that doesn't necessarily mean being completely exclusionary to everyone else out there. We all have something to offer, if not a 25 inch waistline.

Dan

How on earth did she interpret this as a personal attack?

Dan

[Nymph an' Satyr]

Originally posted by incommunicado
I, on the other hand am short (5'2") , boyish and cute. I will also admit, while I'm on the couch, that I'm just normally endowed (6" hard)

Dude, if you are 5'2" with a 6 " cock, you are over endowed for your proportion At worse, you are middle average cock size on a slightly smaller than average frame. I wouldn't complain a bit if I were you.

As far as clubs, check out TPA. It's with in an hour of Baltimore. There are ALL types of people there. From the very pretty to the maybe not so pretty. There are short ones, fat ones, tall ones, skinny ones- but most of all, they are all pretty friendly ones.

If there is some sort of beauty pecking order I haven't seen it. Of course God knows I would never be invited into it

Good luck!

[Alura]

Originally posted by CanadianCouple
How on earth did she interpret this as a personal attack?

Dan

Well, Dan, since you asked...

"Cripes, Lady! Get a clue!" is both condescending and doesn't impart a great deal of information. You often post about those stupid "liberals" who seem to be anyone who disagrees with you. You give us the impression that if we don't think you are right on any given subject, it's because we're stupid, never that you may have made a mistake or just have a different opinion. I'm not saying this is the way it is, just that it's the way you come across in your posts.

You are kind and generous in your postings on sexual matters and very helpful; I'm sure many swingers, potential and experienced have learned a lot from you. But folks who are fit and prefer to swing with those who are fit are "petty and pretentious." We, like you, look for people we can enjoy talking with. Others look for folks whose bodies fit theirs well. Each has the right to their own focus.

You're a great guy, Dan. If you'd just lighten up on people who don't agree with you, you'd be perfect.

Mr. Alura

[Alura]

Originally posted by naughty A


The original point that I was trying to make to the questioner is that being beautiful does not always get you into the clique. AND that I have been excluded not based on looks but on the fact that they were a closed group - not open to newcomers.

I get that impression here as well. This is a closed group. I get it. Only here it isn't looks you discriminate against its opinions.

This is not a closed group, Naughty A, and I, for one, have enjoyed your posts and consider you a real asset to this board. We are open to newcomers; at least this "we" is.

Mr. Alura