"Beautiful People Only!" Swing Clubs/Groups

[Couple_DFW]

Originally posted by fun_pairTX
There is nothing wrong witn good looks, I get a major laugh from some of the types that sport them however. On the dance floor I love to roar at the folks that compete for mirror space. In personal experience I can say that women with a few extra pounds are MUCH better playmates. Not a prejudice, but a personal experience.

Just signed up with this board today and have been reading off and on all afternoon. I am finding down to earth honest people and I like that. Thank you for your response to the Pretty People issue.

[Ashley]

I would like to know how they pick their members. Do you have to audition or something? LOL I've been to a few clubs where I felt I didn't fit in but I've never been outright barred.

[bear_n_bunny]

I've had more than my share of experiences with the so-called "beautiful people" crowd, and I think those experiences are rather illustrative of the mindset of most of the "Barbie and Ken clones", as I call them.

The very first lifestyle party I ever attended was at a party house here in Houston. My girlfriend at the time and I, even though we'd had no previous swinging experience, decided to go and check it out. Bear in mind that while we were not cutouts of Brad Pitt or Catherine Zeta Jones, neither would we make a freight train take a dirt road; in her case, while she was what most would consider a BBW, she was still quite pretty. We get to the party house, and about 90% of the attendees were of the aforementioned Barbie and Ken clone sort. And sure enough, to that segment of the crowd, we simply did not exist.

At one point, my g/f was in a group of people who were standing around talking. Along comes this paragon of masculine beauty who walks up and literally elbows her aside like she was a piece of furniture. Taking great umbrage at this, I was on my way to taking this miscreant's head off (anyone who disses my woman had better give their soul to God, because your ass is mine), but my g/f saw me coming and dragged me outside until I cooled off.

A little later, we decided to get in the hot tub. There were a few other couples already in it, but there was room for us. The moment we got in, everyone else got out. We stayed in the tub about 20 minutes, while the rest of the hot tub users sat across the patio waiting. As soon as we got out, they all piled back in. (It should be noted that neither of us were stupid, nor pushy, and would never come on to anyone who we did not think would be receptive to such an advance.)

Needless to say, we left shortly thereafter and never attended another party at that site. In retrospect we were not all that surprised at the reception we got. Both of us had had dealings with "attractive" people before, and we had no illusions on that score. Plus, based on the conversations we listened to that night, none of them were what you would call the brightest bulbs on the string. Yeah, we might have jumped in bed with some of them based on their beauty quotient, but as soon as the deed was done, we would have ran from the room to keep our heads from exploding. The term "shallow" did not begin to cover it.

Another example that comes to mind was the time we went to a swinger's club called Wish's. Wish's is probably the oldest lifestyle club in Houston, and we had heard a great deal about it. We made reservations one evening and upon arrival, made an interesting discovery; the owners of the place decide where you sit when you arrive. And we found ourselves sitting at what I called the "Group W" table; two or three cafeteria-style tables set end-to-end off in a dark corner of the place. We got there fairly early and as the evening wore on, we noted that the good tables (those around the dance floor or up on the raised section of the club) were all given to the Barbie and Ken clones, whereas all of us too-tall-too-short-too-fat-too-thin-too-whatever (by the owner's standards) people were parked at the Group W table. Given that we still had to pay upwards of $100 for the priviledge of getting into this place for the evening, this dog was decidedly not going to hunt, and needless to say, we never went back there either. (We have talked to a number of other less-than-perfect looks who had been there, who also got the same seating arrangement, so it was not just our own paranoia at work here. Since then we found a number of other lifestyle clubs around town that treat everyone the same, regardless of where they sit on the beauty scale, which was a pleasant change.)

Don't get me wrong; I have no illusions about the world as it is, particularly where people's relative attractiveness is concerned. (And yes, we have turned couples down due to their looks, although it was more a matter of personal grooming and apparent hygiene, what and how they wrote, etc, than how "pretty" they were or were not, and we at least had the courtesy to write back and say "no, but thanks for asking"). And we certainly don't expect anything from the twenty or thirtysomething "Body by Fisher" crowd, being Mr. and Ms. Average Looks. But there is definitely a dichotomy in the lifestyle between the "beautiful people" and the "Joe and Jane Average" crowd, and by and large each side stays within it's own group. This is just human nature, and only a fool tries to buck that.

I reckon my only real bitch is how many of those on the "beautiful people" side tend to be so unremittingly rude about it if someone who does not measure up, so to speak, makes the mistake of approaching them. I guess it's not really so surprising; my wife and I were just discussing how manners and politeness are often no longer taught by parents to their kids anymore, and have not been for some time, so such ill manners are not so surprising.

[M&B]

I will have to admit that I would only play with beautiful people. Truth is, and its been some time, we only played with people we found beautiful.

Funny thing, though. I never met an ugly person. Ever. I avoid mirrors at all cost.

[Couple_DFW]

[quote]Originally posted by bear_n_bunny
[b]I've had more than my share of experiences with the so-called "beautiful people" crowd, and I think those experiences are rather illustrative of the mindset of most of the "Barbie and Ken clones", as I call them.

I could not agree more. Several years back my husband and I would frequent a club in Dallas where it is said that only the pretty people go. I am by no means considered an unattractive woman and I have had to carry a stick around for 14 years to beat a lot of people (women and men alike) off of my husband. I am however what one would consider curvy, vuluptous, thick...... we never hooked up with any of the couples there. We ended up at a party with the "clique" at a mutual friends' house. It amazed me that those people wouldn't speak to us there either. I'm with you....after listening to their conversations I wouldn't have gone to Jack-in-the-Box with them much less to bedroom.

I think we all, as human beings, base too much on looks but I feel that it is just human nature and we may not be able to help ourselves. Most everyone chooses their partners based on looks to some degree, be that good or bad. Some of the prettiest people I know started out not so pretty at first site, now they are beautiful to me......afterall.....it is only skin deep.

[BiloxiCouple]

Just a couple of words from a movie that everyone needs to see

Shallow Hal!!!!!

[bear_n_bunny]

[quote]Originally posted by Couple_DFW
[b]

Originally posted by bear_n_bunny
I've had more than my share of experiences with the so-called "beautiful people" crowd, and I think those experiences are rather illustrative of the mindset of most of the "Barbie and Ken clones", as I call them.

I could not agree more. Several years back my husband and I would frequent a club in Dallas where it is said that only the pretty people go. I am by no means considered an unattractive woman and I have had to carry a stick around for 14 years to beat a lot of people (women and men alike) off of my husband. I am however what one would consider curvy, vuluptous, thick...... we never hooked up with any of the couples there. We ended up at a party with the "clique" at a mutual friends' house. It amazed me that those people wouldn't speak to us there either. I'm with you....after listening to their conversations I wouldn't have gone to Jack-in-the-Box with them much less to bedroom.

I think we all, as human beings, base too much on looks but I feel that it is just human nature and we may not be able to help ourselves. Most everyone chooses their partners based on looks to some degree, be that good or bad. Some of the prettiest people I know started out not so pretty at first site, now they are beautiful to me......afterall.....it is only skin deep.

Very well put. And I will take "curvy, voluptuous and thick" over "Barbie" any day, especially one who writes as well as you do...facelick A pity you all are in Dallas...

[Couple_DFW]

Originally posted by bear_n_bunny
Very well put. And I will take "curvy, voluptuous and thick" over "Barbie" any day, especially one who writes as well as you do...facelick A pity you all are in Dallas...

Thanks. Where in Texas do you guys live?

[bear_n_bunny]

Originally posted by Couple_DFW
Thanks. Where in Texas do you guys live?

Sorry I didn't see this before now. We are in Houston. You all ever get down this way?...

[NotsoNew]

We actually did have an experience like this. We went to a club where we go occasionally when they were hosting a group we had never heard of before. Internet searches came up with nothing, so we decided to stick with our plans.

Anyway, this group (I can not remember the name) only admitted people of a certain age/type (they were VERY young) and it was by invitiation only. Some of them were nice (I spoke to a few and they were the ones that gave me the history of the group) but some others were very standoffish and totally into themselves. In fact, there was one couple there that repeatedly tried to speak with members of the group and were basically ignored. There is nothing wrong with wanting to hang out with a group but I think people should at least be repectful and honest.

Some of the conversations that I heard that night were pretty funny. Kind of made me think that I was in high school again.

One thing I noticed (and I could be wrong in my observation) that many of the members seemed to not really know the basic concepts of swinging (not that we are experts). But I saw a lot of disrespect and a few "misunderstandings" which I had never seen before at the club. Forgive me if I seem harsh in this statement, but swinging in my mind is not about being a slut. And one woman there fit the true definition. She seemed to be the main cause of serveral of the misunderstandings and showed total disrespect to some 1/2's of couples even in her own group.

We did have fun that night and ended up chatting with a few of the couples that were there. But was definately not a crowd that we would want to hang out with on a regular basis. It was eye-opening to see a totally different side of the lifestyle.

[Couple_DFW]

Originally posted by bear_n_bunny
Sorry I didn't see this before now. We are in Houston. You all ever get down this way?...

Yes, we do.....we have a house in Crystal Beach...across the bay from Galveston. We will be back down that way the middle of August.....the house is rented until then.

[thekolonel]

The good parties here in NYC all have some kind of screening, just as much for attitude as for looks. The guests at the party I went to on sat. were definitely relatively young and good looking, but it's not like they were all snobbish models or anything. The well-known public clubs around here have a rep for being kinda nasty, so I think some kind of screening is a must.

[suntory]

I think its a great idea for the beatifull clubs!! and its fair enough!! I am 30yr and my wife the same age. My wife is rather good looking and I nor her could think if anything worse that having sex with a 40yr old fatty with a ten foot nose!! Sex isnt like just going to a party and choising who you are talking to. Its much more personal than that!! christ its SEX. If over the hill people are offended and have some sort of complex then bad luck thats how it is thats life. I know myself I wouldnt want to have sex with a women too much older than I it for me would be a turn off. I read on one of the posts apart a couple going to a beautifull club and getting in a hot tub and the other couple leaving......perhaps you guys were ugly....bad luck thats how it is!! would you want to get into a hot tub with people 30yrs older and worse for wear !!
I think its also great to segeragate the ages also.......the younger do have a problem with fucking with the older and the beautifull with the ugly.....but obviously the other way around has no problem and is insulted when told they are unnatractive. GROW UP!! This isnt bible class this is SEX?FUCKING or whatever you want to call it and people have to be turned on and NOT turned off.....thats what its about isnt it?????!!!!!

[austxmark]

I do not think its so much the fact that the beautiful people stick to each other as it is the rudeness in the response that is given when approached by a couple less attractive. I mean, being polite costs a person nothing and causes less hurt feelings. So when one couple is not interested in another, a simple thank you, but not what we are looking for is sufficient.

This being said I will say that sometimes people do not take the hint and more forceful statements must be taken. But the hallmark of class is the ability to handle difficult situations with tact and consideration. So those of you that are physically beautiful on the outside might consider expanding that beauty to the inside and show this class.

[cntrlnjcpl]

We are new here and wanted to join in with our responce. New Jersey has pretty much the same types of clubs, open mostly to the pretty people and all others are ignored. And you know what if this is what they want then find do it, after all it is a free country. What we did was start our own meet & greets for ALL PEOPLE in our area. Started it about a year ago, excluded no couples at all, all we asked was that you were a couple. We have now grown from our first party of around 10-15 couples to present where at any given party we get 75-100 cpls. Plenty of different types of people for all to pick from and all have a great night of fun. So to you all that don't like the idea of the clubs excluding people, do what we did and find a nice bar looking for the business and have your own. It does help to find a bar that is in a motel for people to get rooms