House parties vs. meet & greets?

[pervgeeks]

We have been in the lifestyle for a year now together (I, the female half had some MFF threesomes a few years back before was with my husband). Anyway, as we are moving within the lifestyle, we're trying to find a balance. While we like the fact that at house parties, people actually play and there's not the teasing, loud music, and there to look cute people there, we're newish to that scene and still like a little time to chat first. i.e. "What are you into? What are you preferences?" We're not into the random free for concept either. We're the ones who close the door when we play with others. We do have one club around here and it seems every time we tentatively "plan" to go, Aunt Flo arrives either early or late. We'll get there though one of these days lol.

I'm just wondering for more experienced folks, what's your preference? Clubs, house parties, meet & greets, meeting couples/singles individually (which we rarely do anymore unless we already have met)?

[JustAskJulie]

You sounds a lot like us. I also had past experience and my hubby & I have been swinging together now for just over a year. We have yet to go to a house party together but we prefer on-premise clubs to M&Gs/Socials for this very reason. We like the option to play if things click, but we don't want to be in a situation where we feel that it's expected (which is often the case at house parties). Like you, when we do find others to play with we typically prefer to do so in a private room. That said, we have no qualms playing with each other in a public room.

Is the club near you on-premise? If so, I'd suggest trying again to visit it (planning ahead to avoid aunt flo if possible).

[fun4Ds]

We have been to a few gatherings and like them all so far. Clubs work best for our sceduals as far as we can just show up when we can, and have fun.

Honestly, playing at home is the most comfortable.

[good times]

We like the clubs best too. We also usually prefer to play in a private room, but will play in the public room if the mood strikes us.

We have only been to a half dozen house parties, mainly because we don't really care for them. At least the ones we have been to so far didn't seem to be our thing.

We also like playing at home.

[MapleSwingers]

We don't play at our local club as they don't offer private play rooms and we aren't into being watched. House parties are still on our to-do list and playing at home in private ranks up there as our favourite thing to do.

[des1re06]

This is completely our experience, so please don't take offense anyone.

Clubs - rarely meet anyone to play. Seems people are too shy to approach anyone.

house parties - love them! everyone is there to play. Just learn how to turn someone down gently, because you will be at the same party the rest of the night. We still pick and choose who we play with. Just because we're all there, doesn't mean we're all playing with each other.

meet & greets - most we've been to have worked out very well. Generally, people who go are serious, not just "tire kickers"

meeting couples/singles individually - If you mean internet dating - too slow moving for us; all that emailing back and forth. Frustrating weeding out the flakes, fakes and cheaters. We primarily use the internet sites to let "friends" know where we'll be. If someone new contacts us, we invite them to join us at the club, and see if there's chemistry then.

Good luck and have fun!

Mrs. D

[alphaplaycpl]

Originally Posted by des1re06

Clubs - rarely meet anyone to play. Seems people are too shy to approach anyone.

Mrs. D

We would have to agree, though I am not entirely sure that the reason is attributed entirely to shyness. While I am sure some folks are shy, we find that we are MUCH more attracted to ppl we get to know. We like to flirt, kiss, laugh, talk, etc... Clubs are not the most conducive atmosphere for this. I think the reason we do not have luck at clubs is because we do not develop attraction in this type of atmosphere.

We prefer to meet for dinner and drinks. It makes for a more laid back setting, and we are more comfortable. I think it comes down to what makes you the most comfortable. Just as much as ppl's turn-ons can vary, so can their preferred methods of meeting others.

Have fun discovering your favorites...

[toycple]

We like them all. We have been to several clubs and lots of house parties. You just never know when you will meet someone new and interesting.