How Late is Too Late to Show Up at a House Party?

[lookingfornow]

We have been invited to a house party this weekend by some close play friends. We will know a few of the couples in attendance, but will not know many others. All would be good except....we have a prior engagement for the evening that we cannot get out of! Ugh!



Our hosts are insistent that we give them a call when we are able to get free, no matter the time. If play is still going on, we should arrive as late as we like.



We will likely follow their advice. The couple is very cool, we have liked all of their friends in the past, we like all of the couples and singles in attendance who we have previously met, they have assured us that someone else will be arriving late and that all will be cool with the late arrival, etc. But, the situation has us wondering....

When is it too late to arrive at a house party?

All opinions welcome. Please explain your answer.

[JustAskJulie]

When everyone is getting dressed and leaving. If you call when you are free and the hosts say come on over, then get your butt over there!

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

When everyone is getting dressed and leaving. If you call when you are free and the hosts say come on over, then get your butt over there!

Yep, go with Julie's advice.

Sounds like you have a great thing going here, you know the hosts and like them and also know a number of the guests. That's a great start! I wouldn't want to miss that party!

From our experience, it isn't unusual for people to have a couple of engagements in one evening and split the night up between them.

Give them a ring-a-ling after you're through with your earlier commitment and take it from there.

LM

[JustMrJ]

I agree with all the above... if your host/hostess tell you that there is still time to enjoy the party... by golly... get over there and enjoy!

[gatorvol64]

I understand how you may feel about being late. I hate to be late for something. But you know this couple and it seems to me thay are sincere. So, if your friends said to call when you are free then.....call when you are free. You'll probably make it there for the fun.

Vol

[nhcpl1968]

Yes i agree with all that if the Host/Hostess says to come.go and have fun

[Hot Raleigh Cpl]

We find that people showing up after the action is in full swing can be distracting to those who are playing.

Many parties set a time, say 10:30, after which nobody else will be admitted. The hour arrives, the door is locked, and the fun begins.

Folks, if you get to a party and the door is locked and no one answers, PLEASE don't keep knocking and ringing the bell or telephoning to gain admittance. Let those who arrived on time have fun.

S and L, Hot Raleigh Cpl

[theboy]

Originally Posted by Hot Raleigh Cpl

We find that people showing up after the action is in full swing can be distracting to those who are playing.

This. The beginning of the night at these things we've found is the non-racy, get-to-know-you time.

Once everyone starts getting comfortable with each other, then things start getting more and more wild.

If you just come in when things are getting wild, well, people might not be as comfortable playing with you. Unless you already know the cast of characters, in that case go ahead

[BiloxiCouple]

I always thought it was up to the host of the party. Check with them first, it is their party. And some of your own common sense. There is something called manners and so many of us have forgotten about them. Manners still applies to swinging.

[Chicup]

It is simple math.

Time of the party start = X
How many times you have played with the hosts = Y
How hot a couple you are = Z
Hours you can arrive late = Q

Q = ((X+2) + Y)Z/25

So for example if the party starts at 8pm, you have played with the hosts 1 time, and you are a 7 on the attractiveness scale.

Q = 3.8

So you can get there almost at midnight.