House Parties

[LLSailor]

Hi everyone,

We are fairly new to swinging but have a few experiances. We have been invited and are planning to go to our first house party. There will be about seven other couples there. We are a little nervous because we do not know what to expect. We do not know any of these couples but they all appear to be attractive normal people.

What should we expect ? How should we dress act ect. We are looking to play but are somewhat selective on who we play with. How do you tell someone no without being rude or hurting feelings ?

Thanks for any advice.

[VegasLee]

You really need to talk to the people that are hosting the house party.

You will find that it can be a lot of different things.

We have seen house parties that are no more then nice meet and greets all the way to house parties that when you walk in the door you strip down and party.

Without knowing the hosts and what type of parties they host there is no real way for anyone here to tell you what to expect.

Check with who invited you if it was not the host and find out if they have been to these parties before. They should be able to give you an idea what they are like. If it was not the hosts I would also get contact information on who the hosts are and talk to them.

Best to go to the source for this type of information.

[sweet_tna]

[good times]

Can't ad anything to lee's great advice. Like him, we have been to house parties that were almost vanilla tame, to ones that were pretty much full on orgies.

[Thrax]

I agree with the previous postings on this thread.

From my limited experience with house parties (four, so far) here are some questions you might ask the host/hostess to make yourselves more comfy with the situation (or even make you decline the invite):
- Clothing: Is this formal, informal, or casual? What does that mean? Tuxes? Cocktail dresses? Gowns? Suits? Shorts? T-shirts? Jeans? Lingerie? Swimwear? Thongs? Nudity? Do most people arrive dressed and shed clothes? What usually happens?
- Exposure: Are there just group areas? Are there private (closed door) areas where couples or small groups can play away from everyone else? Or is everything potentially out in the open? Are there off-limits areas (like kid's rooms) in the house? If we can play outside, what are the boundaries to prevent the neighbors from seeing?
- Pool? Hot tub? Sauna? What are the rules for sex in these areas, for clean-up, or other things?
- Should we bring our own towels? Robes? Toiletries?
- Can people stay overnight? What are the accommodations if we decide to stay beforehand or at the last minute?
- Should I bring snacks or other food? What kind? (I live in an area where it would be a total faux pas not to bring something [bottle of wine, beer, jello shots, casserole, big bag o' chips, etc.] for a house party. If you were going to a "vanilla" party in your area, what would you normally bring? That type of food would usually be acceptable at swing parties, too.)
- Will toys or other group-available or -restricted items be welcomed?
- If Thrax said he would show up, would that influence your decision about attending?

Those are some things you should consider when attending a house party. But really, if Thrax would show up, wouldn't that just make the party, and make everyone feel comfortable?

Thrax
P.S. Those jr. high dreams of inclusion just never, never go away.
P.P.S. Although I'm VERY happy to say things are much better now.

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by Thrax

- If Thrax said he would show up, would that influence your decision about attending?

Those are some things you should consider when attending a house party. But really, if Thrax would show up, wouldn't that just make the party, and make everyone feel comfortable?

Thrax
P.S. Those jr. high dreams of inclusion just never, never go away.
P.P.S. Although I'm VERY happy to say things are much better now.

I'll have to keep this in mind the next time we get an invite to a party.

=)

[bendmeovernow]

hmmmmm i think i'm wishing Thrax lived in Texas..hehehheeh the more i read the more you stand out as a hell of a fun night.