Our first Meet and Greet...

[swingcouple69]

Hello to everyone! Hubby and I generally always do things out of order in anything that we do (geesh). We started swinging by me bringing 2 women home to a sleeping husband without even EVER discussing it with him. The we went to a club and so on and so forth.

Well we've been chatting with a few couples for a while now and some are attending a Meet and Greet later this month and have encouraged us to go as well. It is being held at a hotel bar that has been cleared out for this specific date and reason. They are even offering a block of rooms at a discount to SLS members who are signed up. There are 60 couples signed up so far as I can tell from the sign up on SLS.

We've never been to a Meet and Greet but Hubby thinks it would be nice to go and meet everyone face to face and have a nice night out if nothing else. A nice break after the "holiday stress".

Now for the questions:

What should we wear?
What can we expect to be doing?
Dancing? No dancing?
What have Meet and Greets that you've attended been like?

Thanks for the help!

[ownerspet]

I would try to contact the organizer, about the dancing. I've attended one meet and greet regularly, that is actually held at a club with a dance floor. I've not yet attended a meet and greet at a hotel. I've heard some have dancing and some don't. As far as what to wear, women tend to wear what ever makes them feel sexy, but comfortable depending on the situation (It could mean anything from jeans with a sexy low cut top to micro mini or a dress with little left to the imagination), and guys would usually dress to impress. This is also something I might check with the organizer to be sure you don't go to risque for the hotel. We usually end up dancing some, and talking & getting to know other couples in the area and making freinds as it is an off premise social.

I hope this helps.....

[JustAskJulie]

What you are describing sounds like what is AKA a hotel social, not so much like a Meet & Greet that we organize here on the board.

Wear something sexy that you wouldn't mind walking through a hotel lobby in. There is usually some dancing, if the DJ is any good. If you've been to an on-premise club it will be like the non-sexual area at an on-premise club.... the talking/dancing/drinking part - just no sex. Depending on the crowd you might see some soft action in the corners of the room. Since it is at a hotel many couples will probably stay there and you may have a few that get "party rooms" where people head after from the downstairs social area to play.

[BiloxiCouple]

Originally Posted by swingcouple69

Hello to everyone! Hubby and I generally always do things out of order in anything that we do (geesh). We started swinging by me bringing 2 women home to a sleeping husband without even EVER discussing it with him.

Can I marry you too?

[des1re06]

Hi and we hope you have fun!

The hotel meet-n-greets we go to have been in a ballroom with a DJ and buffet. There's usually a wide variety of age ranges, and have been alot of fun.

Check with the hosts about what happens at the event to be sure. Normally, there's alot of flirting going on, but no sex. In my case, I hooked up with another female and went to a corner. LOL I'm just a wild child, I guess.

We usually get a suite at a hotel nearby to entertain, as we don't care for the hotel where the party is held.

Definately send a nice email of introduction to those attending that you'd like to meet.

Enjoy!

Mrs. D

[swingcouple69]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

Can I marry you too?

Well ummm...we're not a poly couple so I'd have to say, "no."

But it was a confusing experience for him. He really just couldn't believe it. He was a sleep on the couch because he always waits for me to get home before he goes up to bed. He got up and said "I don't believe you!" and went up to our bed. He believed me after the three of us went up after him

[lovelygirl2]

We've found that Meet & Greets are the most fun when approached as just that - a chance to meet and greet some people. Not as a guaranteed we're going to go home with someone night. (There always seems to be that end of the night scamper to find someone. Kinda like when they called partners in second grade. We both hate it and try to leave before then.)

Usually, before the date, we'll send out SLS messages to people we have been chatting with to say we'll be there if they want to say Hi. And we check the sign up list for anyone we've been wanting to meet. We use it as more of a Speed Dating idea - we meet lots of people and then the next day have a conversation to see who we are still interested in talking to more. It's no pressure.

Plus there is the added benefit of seeing our friends, drinking, and dancing. And if there is vanilla guys in the bar that night (we go to one that is at a vanilla club that doesn't close, just gives us a back room) then my girlfriends and I have some fun teasing them.

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by swingcouple69

Now for the questions:

What should we wear?
What can we expect to be doing?
Dancing? No dancing?
What have Meet and Greets that you've attended been like?

Thanks for the help!

Some M&G's have a theme for the evening, so check to see if there is (we're going to a sexy pj party this weekend). What you can expect to be doing depends on the location. If it's at a hotel, most likely it'll be just be just a chance to meet other couples. Some racy stuff may or may not happen, depending on the crowd.

I would think most places would at least have a dj and a space to dance, but you'll have to check with the organizers to be sure.

The M&Gs we like to go to are held in the basement of a strip club. We have the room to ourselves, and there's the potential for things to get a bit wild. It's a lot of fun to meet new people, or catch up with friends.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by lovelygirl2

We've found that Meet & Greets are the most fun when approached as just that - a chance to meet and greet some people. Not as a guaranteed we're going to go home with someone night. (There always seems to be that end of the night scamper to find someone. Kinda like when they called partners in second grade. We both hate it and try to leave before then.)

Usually, before the date, we'll send out SLS messages to people we have been chatting with to say we'll be there if they want to say Hi. And we check the sign up list for anyone we've been wanting to meet. We use it as more of a Speed Dating idea - we meet lots of people and then the next day have a conversation to see who we are still interested in talking to more. It's no pressure.

Plus there is the added benefit of seeing our friends, drinking, and dancing. And if there is vanilla guys in the bar that night (we go to one that is at a vanilla club that doesn't close, just gives us a back room) then my girlfriends and I have some fun teasing them.

This is a great analogy. We try to go to most of the M&Gs that our local group does and we actually prefer them over the socials that the group does for this very reason. It's so much easier to talk to people in these situations. Usually at the socials the music is loud and people are so spread out. At our M&G's we usually meet for dinner then go somewhere to dance. The dinner part is the best part as it is a great way to meet lots of people in a short amount of time and actually talk to them.

[swingcouple69]

Thanks to all for the advice! We have gotten in touch with the organizers and they are a wealth of information!

It is a hotel party,we booked a room because of the drive, they even gave us a special block rate for the group. The "group" has rented the banquet hall of sorts, there will be a DJ and dancing. The bar is having a special on drafts and everyone is bring a snack or finger food type of tray. Let me say that the finger food tray subject in the group forum has taken on a whole new meaning..

Some women are wearing nice jeans and sexy shirts. Others are wearing sexy dresses and garters. HOwever, they have reminded everyone that this is a public place and to try to be "not to obvious." There are 74 couples signed up to attend.

The organizer's and other couples have really been helpful with the information that they've provided.

There was a question as to "will there be name tags?" from another couple. The organizer's posted that no there wouldn't be name tags because its a meet and greet. They said the point of the whole party is to talk to people and get to know them. If you already know their name, you are less likely to go right up to someone and say "Hello! I'm so and so. How are you?" I think its a wonderful idea to by pass the name tags.

Also a great plus, one couple that we've been very close with, and have soft swaped with, are attending as well! So, there will be people there that we've already met face to face (it takes away some of my nerves for some reason). There were some hints that they would like to explore further, which is a different post altogether. However, we are going with NO EXPECTATIONS as everyone here suggested. We have emailed and chatted with some couples that are signed up for the event as well and are looking forward to meeting everyone.

Thanks to everyone who have offered explanations and help!

[JustAskJulie]

Sounds like fun. I'm sure you guys will have a great time.