Help!

blue.freckles · 11-01-2007, 12:30 PM

Whereas I consider myself to be an above average looking guy with a "few" extra pounds, my fiance is drop dead sexy, especially when she shows skin or wears tight clothing (5'3, blonde, blue eyes, 34C-24-34).

I think we both know that guys are little more aggressive than women are, so how do we keep creeps at parties to a minimum?

We've never been to a swing party or club, and we only know what we've experienced from "vanilla clubs" (I think that's what you guys call them). Men are very fake and just dont go about talking to women very honestly.

We're super excited to be here but just have a lot of questions. Any advice is much appreciated!

des1re06 · 11-01-2007, 02:28 PM

As long as she knows how to say "no" she'll be fine. All men at swing clubs know that no means no. Otherwise, let her enjoy the attention.

From what I've heard from the younger ladies I know, most men will be intimidated by her youth (20's) and her beauty, and won't talk to her at all. She may have to be the aggressive one, if she's interested in them.

Good luck and have fun,

Mrs. D

blue.freckles · 11-01-2007, 03:09 PM

so are you saying that clubs are generally/usually older couples? what would you say the median age would be on average?

thanks again!

Spoomonkey · 11-01-2007, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by des1re06

As long as she knows how to say "no" she'll be fine.

Excellent advice. Mrs Spoo has had to learn to be very firm and direct, while still (sometimes) being nice.

However, a swing club really isn't like a vanilla club. Swingers tend to be a little less aggressive for the most part. Sure, you'll have your assholes, but they are the exception and not the rule.

Spoomonkey

**ncmd_couple** · 11-02-2007, 11:57 AM

Blue,

The ages at clubs range from 20s to 80s. You never really know what age group will be prominant at a club. Don't worry about the ages of the guests. Single males are very respectful at swing clubs, otherwise they will get their ass thrown out! Some of the single men can be a little creepy sometimes, but for the most part we just ignore those. As I said, they will be respectful.

One of the things about swinging, at least in my experience, is that the ladies are in charge. If they aren't happy, no one is happy!

**BiloxiCouple** · 11-02-2007, 12:07 PM

There are couples that can be creepy too and everyone is suppose to follow the same rules. But the majority are fun and respectful. Just remember we are all human and screw things up once in a while.

**ncmd_couple** · 11-02-2007, 12:32 PM

Biloxi,

Yeah, you are right about that. There is this couple....

ShellyM · 11-02-2007, 01:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by des1re06

As long as she knows how to say "no" she'll be fine. All men at swing clubs know that no means no. Otherwise, let her enjoy the attention.

From what I've heard from the younger ladies I know, most men will be intimidated by her youth (20's) and her beauty, and won't talk to her at all. She may have to be the aggressive one, if she's interested in them.

Good luck and have fun,

Mrs. D

OP, read this post twice. It is absolutely the truth.

ShellyM · 11-02-2007, 01:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by blue.freckles

so are you saying that clubs are generally/usually older couples? what would you say the median age would be on average?

thanks again!

Well, in Austin different age groups tend to frequent different clubs. 20s and 30s go to Allure. 30s go Aphrodites, 40s and 50s frequent Friends usually. We have seen mostly 30s 40s and some 20s and 50s in our experience.

purpletiger · 11-02-2007, 01:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by blue.freckles

I think we both know that guys are little more aggressive than women are, so how do we keep creeps at parties to a minimum?

We've never been to a swing party or club, and we only know what we've experienced from "vanilla clubs" (I think that's what you guys call them). Men are very fake and just dont go about talking to women very honestly.

I think what everyone is saying is there are less creeps at a swing club

It is generally true. Most swing clubs limit the number of single males, some don't allow them at all. There is usually more security at a swingers club and if anyone says "I'm feeling uncomfortable" or "he's bothering me" you can bet something will be done!

So, forget about your "vanilla" club and go to your local swinger's club and have fun! Lot's of friendly people, lots of flirting, but no one will be disrespectful.

The club owner's try very hard to make it fun for everyone.

Have fun!

MrsVan · 11-02-2007, 02:45 PM

Bluefreckles,

I have to say that we have not ran into many creeps in the LS at clubs. Now "vanilla"clubs you get so many of them cause single guys are everywhere. But as many have stated people go into the club knowing that well "WOMAN RULE"

and no means no..If you go into a club and have a problem with someone all she has to do is go tell someone in charge and they will get rid of the problem person right away.

I think what your feeling is perfectly normal on both ends. When we first got into the LS and went to our first swing club I was a nervous wreck for many reasons and thought that the single men would be pushovers and I have not ran into that situation. I just think she needs to be firm with them and make it clear she is not interested in them.

I wish you guys the best and you have came to the right place. Has your fiance been on here yet to introduce herself and to ask questions? If not, I would strongly suggest it as it is very helpful.. Then we all get to know who each other is and it becomes fun for us all.

MrsVan

PS- I agree with Spoo though

You need to make that Avatar closer for us to see, from what we can see from a distance she is very attractive.

blue.freckles · 11-02-2007, 05:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MrsVan

Bluefreckles,

I have to say that we have not ran into many creeps in the LS at clubs. Now "vanilla"clubs you get so many of them cause single guys are everywhere. But as many have stated people go into the club knowing that well "WOMAN RULE"

and no means no..If you go into a club and have a problem with someone all she has to do is go tell someone in charge and they will get rid of the problem person right away.

I think what your feeling is perfectly normal on both ends. When we first got into the LS and went to our first swing club I was a nervous wreck for many reasons and thought that the single men would be pushovers and I have not ran into that situation. I just think she needs to be firm with them and make it clear she is not interested in them.

I wish you guys the best and you have came to the right place. Has your fiance been on here yet to introduce herself and to ask questions? If not, I would strongly suggest it as it is very helpful.. Then we all get to know who each other is and it becomes fun for us all.

MrsVan

PS- I agree with Spoo though

You need to make that Avatar closer for us to see, from what we can see from a distance she is very attractive.

yeah... i dont know how to make the avatar bigger... it auto resized to that size

thanks for the advice... she's really interested in coming on here and looking around... she works the night shift though so it'll just be a matter of time..

**ncmd_couple** · 11-02-2007, 11:53 PM

Hmmm... I would suggest e-mailing the original to me and I could resize it for you...

But if you rotate it 90 degrees to the left you won't hit the vertical height limitation..... sigh... so much for getting the original....

Spoomonkey · 11-03-2007, 02:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by blue.freckles

yeah... i dont know how to make the avatar bigger... it auto resized to that size

Actually, from what I can see, it belongs on a billboard...

But - seriously - it is the right size for an avatar. You really can't make it bigger - and honestly, if you did, it would cause far too much distraction on the board and no one would answer anymore posts...

Then we'd have to change the name of the place from "swingersboard.com" to "gawkatblue.freckles.com".

Spoomonkey

blue.freckles · 11-06-2007, 02:13 PM

there... no more distractions...

back to swing talking..lol

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11-01-2007, 12:30 PM	#1 (permalink)
blue.freckles Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 24 Location: Chicago Status: Couple	Help! Whereas I consider myself to be an above average looking guy with a "few" extra pounds, my fiance is drop dead sexy, especially when she shows skin or wears tight clothing (5'3, blonde, blue eyes, 34C-24-34). I think we both know that guys are little more aggressive than women are, so how do we keep creeps at parties to a minimum? We've never been to a swing party or club, and we only know what we've experienced from "vanilla clubs" (I think that's what you guys call them). Men are very fake and just dont go about talking to women very honestly. We're super excited to be here but just have a lot of questions. Any advice is much appreciated!

11-01-2007, 02:28 PM	#2 (permalink)
des1re06 Great Times 1 Year Exp. Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,080 Location: East TN Status: Couple SLS Name:Des1re06	Re: Help! As long as she knows how to say "no" she'll be fine. All men at swing clubs know that no means no. Otherwise, let her enjoy the attention. From what I've heard from the younger ladies I know, most men will be intimidated by her youth (20's) and her beauty, and won't talk to her at all. She may have to be the aggressive one, if she's interested in them. Good luck and have fun, Mrs. D

11-01-2007, 03:09 PM	#3 (permalink)
blue.freckles Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 24 Location: Chicago Status: Couple	Re: Help! so are you saying that clubs are generally/usually older couples? what would you say the median age would be on average? thanks again!

11-02-2007, 11:57 AM	#5 (permalink)
ncmd_couple Julie's Helper Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 964 Location: Maryland Status: Couple SLS Name:ncmd_couple	Re: Help! Blue, The ages at clubs range from 20s to 80s. You never really know what age group will be prominant at a club. Don't worry about the ages of the guests. Single males are very respectful at swing clubs, otherwise they will get their ass thrown out! Some of the single men can be a little creepy sometimes, but for the most part we just ignore those. As I said, they will be respectful. One of the things about swinging, at least in my experience, is that the ladies are in charge. If they aren't happy, no one is happy! __________________ Try anything once, twice if it is fun, three times if it is real good!

11-02-2007, 12:07 PM	#6 (permalink)
BiloxiCouple YOUR PLACE OR OURS?? Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 2,763 Location: Biloxi, Mississippi Status: Couple with benefits SLS Name:graceful	Re: Help! There are couples that can be creepy too and everyone is suppose to follow the same rules. But the majority are fun and respectful. Just remember we are all human and screw things up once in a while. __________________ Billy & Elaine You can't fix stupid...

11-02-2007, 12:32 PM	#7 (permalink)
ncmd_couple Julie's Helper Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 964 Location: Maryland Status: Couple SLS Name:ncmd_couple	Re: Help! Biloxi, Yeah, you are right about that. There is this couple.... __________________ Try anything once, twice if it is fun, three times if it is real good!

11-02-2007, 02:45 PM	#11 (permalink)
MrsVan Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 667 Location: Ohio Status: M.Female SLS Name:MrMrsVanHlebar	Re: Help! Bluefreckles, I have to say that we have not ran into many creeps in the LS at clubs. Now "vanilla"clubs you get so many of them cause single guys are everywhere. But as many have stated people go into the club knowing that well "WOMAN RULE" and no means no..If you go into a club and have a problem with someone all she has to do is go tell someone in charge and they will get rid of the problem person right away. I think what your feeling is perfectly normal on both ends. When we first got into the LS and went to our first swing club I was a nervous wreck for many reasons and thought that the single men would be pushovers and I have not ran into that situation. I just think she needs to be firm with them and make it clear she is not interested in them. I wish you guys the best and you have came to the right place. Has your fiance been on here yet to introduce herself and to ask questions? If not, I would strongly suggest it as it is very helpful.. Then we all get to know who each other is and it becomes fun for us all. MrsVan PS- I agree with Spoo though You need to make that Avatar closer for us to see, from what we can see from a distance she is very attractive.

11-02-2007, 11:53 PM	#13 (permalink)
ncmd_couple Julie's Helper Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 964 Location: Maryland Status: Couple SLS Name:ncmd_couple	Re: Help! Hmmm... I would suggest e-mailing the original to me and I could resize it for you... But if you rotate it 90 degrees to the left you won't hit the vertical height limitation..... sigh... so much for getting the original.... __________________ Try anything once, twice if it is fun, three times if it is real good!

11-06-2007, 02:13 PM	#15 (permalink)
blue.freckles Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 24 Location: Chicago Status: Couple	Re: Help! there... no more distractions... back to swing talking..lol

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