slow dancing at swingers clubs

darling · 02-07-2003, 01:06 PM

I asked a question to our local swingers club board, as to why they never play slow songs to dance to at the club. I find it a great way to fool around with someone without the pressures myself and I love to dance. My suggestion was met with hostility from many of the members who said that love type songs were out of place at a swingers club and they would leave because it would make them feel uncomfortable. Is this a normal reaction?

ItalianDaisy1 · 02-07-2003, 01:27 PM

All of the clubs here in Phoenix, AZ play slow songs and the people enjoy them. I think you are right, they do give you a chance to fool around. My husband and I fool around with each other as well as couple we are there with. We feel it helps to relieve any nervousness there may be before we go into a room. For us as well as with the other couple.

darling · 02-07-2003, 01:38 PM

Thank you. They made me feel crazy for even suggesting slow dancing. I get tired of the bump and grind songs constantly and think a slow song or two thrown in would be a nice change.

DragonsLair · 02-07-2003, 01:47 PM

The club we've attended in Cleveland always plays a nice mix of fast, bump and grind songs, and slow, cuddle up songs. Most of the people who are there are married couples. Why wouldn't we want to slow dance with the one we love? And you're right, it gives you a chance to cuddle up with people you're interested in.

DragonsLair

He is T (not here to cuddle with, sighs). I am A (wanting to cuddle, even bigger sighs).

darling · 02-07-2003, 02:48 PM

dragonlair, we have friends from up in Cleveland that are stationed in the Army in another state, but come to visit regularly. They have attended a Dayton Swing club with us and are interested in locating one around Cleveland. I know you sometimes attend one there. Is there any problems with mixed-race couples attending and would they feel welcome?

DragonsLair · 02-07-2003, 04:32 PM

Darling,

LCDC is where we attend. And there are many mixed race couples there. They'd be very welcome. The club is very friendly and I'm sure they'd have a great time.

DragonsLair

He is T. I am A.

**Alura** · 02-07-2003, 06:29 PM

We've never been to a swing club, but if we went, we'd definitely want to dance to slow songs. Don't you go to these places to get close to people?

Alura

Tom & Bonnie · 02-08-2003, 02:56 PM

Slow songs are definetely a part of a succesful swingers club music venue. Our most requested songs include lots of slow songs for some hot steamy action on the floor.

ATAK · 02-08-2003, 03:35 PM

I've watched this post since day one and read all the replies and kept to myself mainly because I've never been in a swing club, but as a DJ I have to comment on this since it's music related.

In my straight clubs, if I don't play a few slow songs during the night, they'll string me up! Obviously, from the bar's standpoint, you wanna keep them dancing and working up a sweat so that they will keep buying drinks, but once in a while you have to put on a couple of slow songs for a couple of reasons....It gives the fast dancers a break to go get a drink or go to the bathroom. It also gives the slow dancers (who may not fast dance at all) an opportunity to participate as well...

I can't see why any club would discourage slow songs, especially in an environment that is supposed to breed (no pun intended) friendships and closeness between people.

**BiloxiCouple** · 02-11-2003, 01:02 AM

I work as a DJ in a swing club. We try to get 4 fast songs and 2 slow songs in a set. We mix it pretty good as we do have a diverse clientele. The hardest thing is trying to satisfy everyone.

The funnest part is when they ask for something and they start humming the lyrics.

Or the song was by "that group", but I can't remember the name of the song. hehhehehe

Unless you are dancing to the music, the music should be background noise. After all it is a social event and it does require some talking.

Slow love songs are great in a swingers club.

Emy_Fraser · 02-11-2003, 06:14 AM

In the club we visit they play about 5 or 6 slow songs every hour or so, a curtain comes down all round the dance floor and you can dance VERY close! LOL We like it as it gives you an opportunity for some smooching and close contact. Sometimes its a good ice breaker with another couple if you swap partners for the slow songs.

Mind you, the last time we went to the club, Fraser had to do most of the dancing. I had a new dress on and bought some new shoes that were rather kinky and laced all up my legs. After about three dances my feet and legs were killing me as the laces started cutting into me. Luckily the lady of the couple we were with was into dancing a lot and the guy wasn't (he's visually impaired) so I sat out a lot of the dancing with him and kept up a running commentry for him of what all the pretty girls in the club were wearing and what was going on. Meanwhile Fraser was strutting his stuff on the dance floor! LOL

Emy

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02-07-2003, 01:06 PM	#1 (permalink)
darling Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 180 Location: Ohio Status: Couple	slow dancing at swingers clubs I asked a question to our local swingers club board, as to why they never play slow songs to dance to at the club. I find it a great way to fool around with someone without the pressures myself and I love to dance. My suggestion was met with hostility from many of the members who said that love type songs were out of place at a swingers club and they would leave because it would make them feel uncomfortable. Is this a normal reaction?

02-08-2003, 02:56 PM	#8 (permalink)
Tom & Bonnie Club Owners Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 257 Location: San Antonio, Texas Status: Couple SLS Name:PlayersCouple	Slow songs are definetely a part of a succesful swingers club music venue. Our most requested songs include lots of slow songs for some hot steamy action on the floor. __________________ Tom & Bonnie The Player's Club in San Antonio, Texas www.texasplayers.com

02-08-2003, 03:35 PM	#9 (permalink)
ATAK Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 197 Location: Laurinburg, NC Status: Single Male SLS Name:ATAK	I've watched this post since day one and read all the replies and kept to myself mainly because I've never been in a swing club, but as a DJ I have to comment on this since it's music related. In my straight clubs, if I don't play a few slow songs during the night, they'll string me up! Obviously, from the bar's standpoint, you wanna keep them dancing and working up a sweat so that they will keep buying drinks, but once in a while you have to put on a couple of slow songs for a couple of reasons....It gives the fast dancers a break to go get a drink or go to the bathroom. It also gives the slow dancers (who may not fast dance at all) an opportunity to participate as well... I can't see why any club would discourage slow songs, especially in an environment that is supposed to breed (no pun intended) friendships and closeness between people. __________________ If you love her, set her free...if she doesn't come back, she's probably with me.

02-11-2003, 01:02 AM	#10 (permalink)
BiloxiCouple YOUR PLACE OR OURS?? Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 2,763 Location: Biloxi, Mississippi Status: Couple with benefits SLS Name:graceful	I work as a DJ in a swing club. We try to get 4 fast songs and 2 slow songs in a set. We mix it pretty good as we do have a diverse clientele. The hardest thing is trying to satisfy everyone. The funnest part is when they ask for something and they start humming the lyrics. Or the song was by "that group", but I can't remember the name of the song. hehhehehe Unless you are dancing to the music, the music should be background noise. After all it is a social event and it does require some talking. Slow love songs are great in a swingers club. __________________ Billy & Elaine You can't fix stupid...

02-07-2003, 01:27 PM	#2 (permalink)
ItalianDaisy1 Active Member Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 11 Location: Phoenix, AZ Status: Couple	All of the clubs here in Phoenix, AZ play slow songs and the people enjoy them. I think you are right, they do give you a chance to fool around. My husband and I fool around with each other as well as couple we are there with. We feel it helps to relieve any nervousness there may be before we go into a room. For us as well as with the other couple.

02-07-2003, 01:38 PM	#3 (permalink)
darling Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 180 Location: Ohio Status: Couple	Thank you. They made me feel crazy for even suggesting slow dancing. I get tired of the bump and grind songs constantly and think a slow song or two thrown in would be a nice change.

02-07-2003, 01:47 PM	#4 (permalink)
DragonsLair Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 1,020 Location: Cleveland, OH Status: Married Couple	The club we've attended in Cleveland always plays a nice mix of fast, bump and grind songs, and slow, cuddle up songs. Most of the people who are there are married couples. Why wouldn't we want to slow dance with the one we love? And you're right, it gives you a chance to cuddle up with people you're interested in. DragonsLair He is T (not here to cuddle with, sighs). I am A (wanting to cuddle, even bigger sighs).

02-07-2003, 02:48 PM	#5 (permalink)
darling Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 180 Location: Ohio Status: Couple	dragonlair, we have friends from up in Cleveland that are stationed in the Army in another state, but come to visit regularly. They have attended a Dayton Swing club with us and are interested in locating one around Cleveland. I know you sometimes attend one there. Is there any problems with mixed-race couples attending and would they feel welcome?

02-07-2003, 04:32 PM	#6 (permalink)
DragonsLair Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 1,020 Location: Cleveland, OH Status: Married Couple	Darling, LCDC is where we attend. And there are many mixed race couples there. They'd be very welcome. The club is very friendly and I'm sure they'd have a great time. DragonsLair He is T. I am A.

02-07-2003, 06:29 PM	#7 (permalink)
Alura T-Town Playmates Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,126 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Married to Mrs. Alura	We've never been to a swing club, but if we went, we'd definitely want to dance to slow songs. Don't you go to these places to get close to people? Alura

02-11-2003, 06:14 AM	#11 (permalink)
Emy_Fraser Active Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 19 Location: North Wales, U.K. Status: Couple	In the club we visit they play about 5 or 6 slow songs every hour or so, a curtain comes down all round the dance floor and you can dance VERY close! LOL We like it as it gives you an opportunity for some smooching and close contact. Sometimes its a good ice breaker with another couple if you swap partners for the slow songs. Mind you, the last time we went to the club, Fraser had to do most of the dancing. I had a new dress on and bought some new shoes that were rather kinky and laced all up my legs. After about three dances my feet and legs were killing me as the laces started cutting into me. Luckily the lady of the couple we were with was into dancing a lot and the guy wasn't (he's visually impaired) so I sat out a lot of the dancing with him and kept up a running commentry for him of what all the pretty girls in the club were wearing and what was going on. Meanwhile Fraser was strutting his stuff on the dance floor! LOL Emy

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