Like/Dislikes about Meets

[J&RNNJ]

We made our first trip to an on-premise club a little while back, and made some observations on what we liked about it, and what we did not like about it. We were wondering if there was one thing you could change/add to the club you attend, what would it be?

Also how do these things relate to your visit and subsequent visits.

1. Food selection
2. Music
3. Games (pool table, shuffle board, etc.)
4. Atmosphere
5. Seating (booths vs. tables)

Just to give a little background, we are both in the hospitality field, he is a chef, she is an event planner. We both had a great time and met some really cool people. Just wondered if certain things would affect your decision to attend one club vs. another?

Also, just wanted to say we read alot of the posts/advice on this site before we went and THANK-YOU to all, made it much easier to get started.

J&R

[VegasLee]

Over the years we have been to many, many clubs.

We have found that pretty much one thing determines if we ever return or not. The attitude of the people that are at the party.

We do not go for the food, music, games, seating or atmosphere, we go to play with people with the right attitude.

If the people there have a good attitude then we can make any party work.

We have been to some of the dumpiest places on the face of the earth and had a great party. We have also been to some of the most high end clubs you can ever come across and had the worst time of our life.

In swinging we personally believe it is all about the people.

[Chicup]

Most swing clubs/events we have been to have had all the class and elegance of a fraternity house party.

While I'd love a 4 star style venue, Vegas is right. The people are all that matters. If its a group of people you don't care for, it doesn't matter if the food is good, if its a group you enjoy, you might as well have it in the woods.

[LikeMinds321]

I agree with Lee and Chicup, it's the people that make the club.

I'd like to add that the club owners are so very important to bringing in the type of people that make a club great. The owners lead the way by example.

I've been to clubs where the owners are the most notorious for breaking their club's rules, then they complain about their members breaking rules and causing havoc.

I've been to clubs where the owners were lousy hosts, and their staff were as cold as ice at the sign-in table. The hosts never moved around and met new members, but instead used their club as their own private fun night with their group of friends.

My suggestion, if you're going to be a club owner, remember that you're running a business and your first priority is being a good business person and host. Don't start a club if you're only looking for a way to hook up with a lot of people while you make money (or hope to) because you own a club.

I've also been to clubs where the host and staff were friendly with everyone, showed new members around, answered questions, and introduced them to people. They had good security who kept watch on any rule breakers and enforced the rules. They set the example of behavior they hoped all members would demonstrate. Those clubs were friendly, great fun, and an environment you felt comfortable approaching people in.

LM

[good times]

I agree with Chicup and VegasLee, it is all about the people.

We have been to five or six clubs and our favorite one, which sadly closed, was a little hole in the wall bar with a juke box, a postage stamp sized dance floor, and one public play room that was smaller than most bathrooms in an average house. What made it such a great place though was that the people that went their had a great attitude. No small part of that was the way the management and hosts ran the parties, they had the ability, that we have yet to see duplicated, of running the place in a way that promoted interaction and an atmosphere of sexually charged fun. Because of this the people that were interested in meeting people to play with found this club fantastic, those that were more reserved or incapable of submitting to the fun usually only came once and never went back.

So from your list, I would say that only the atmosphere is important, the rest are not important at all.

[socolais]

I think this is another question that is deeper than initially appears. The business managers should be congratulated when we take their environmental accomodations for granted as they contribute to our satisfaction.

Any particular anecdotal example from the continuum should be evaluated based on its probability and impact.

I think, generally speaking, the influential members of any established crowd will find an environment where their preferences tend to match available resources. If they appreciate the sensuosity of the palate, well prepared food will be required to keep their patronage. The followers may or may not notice the food quality as a significant contribution to the "flavor" of the crowd dynamics.

Does good food on the menu attract influential customers or do smart business folks scramble to meet the needs of the happenstance influential customers???

In response to the OP question, food quality is high on my list because I want to associate with folks that know how to savor a passionately and knowledgeably prepared fried cube-steak....

[sexcupid]

The club we go to actually took some of the suggestions we made and applied them (albeit a little differently than some of us had in mind, but we're glad they listened)...padding and pillows in certain play areas, ect.

They normally don't have food (they have snack machines...but usually provide some kind of munchie type food)...just certain events. The staff is nice, they have a good selection of mixers, they are making changes all the time to improve seating, different play areas, ect.

Maria

[des1re06]

We're rating these items as a couple:

1. Food selection - not important, light veggie and/or fruit. We rarely eat at events.

2. Music - very important, mixture not all one type. Also, not so loud that you can't hear people talk.

3. Games (pool table, shuffle board, etc.) - Pool table is nice, but not necessary

4. Atmosphere - number one! We agree that the people make the place.

5. Seating (booths vs. tables) - large tables where you can meet people, versus small tables where others cannot join you. Couches are a nice touch for conversation.

Our favorite club has a medium sized dance floor downstairs and a conversation area upstairs. We asked for towels and sanitizer, and they added it the next weekend. Good service! The only thing we'd change is to add more ladies rooms. There's only one upstairs.

Mr. & Mrs. D

[Tia Vampire]

We love the club that we are regulars at right now. Very sexually charged atmosphere, Yes, it needs more chairs in the party area, but there are plenty of chairs and couches upstairs. I'm more of a party person. So I like staying downstairs where the dance floor is. I like to get my party, drink, and flirt on, then look for a possible playmate or playmates. The music the DJ plays cater to the crowd, which is an older crowd. So he plays alot of 80's music. My fiance and I love 80's music. He will play aongs that are requested, but why request a song that no one else is going to dance to? The owners are real fun people. They really make you feel welcomed and try to make sure everyone knows everyone and that everone enjoys themseles. The place is clean and the food is good. I do agree with everyone else about the people thing, If the people in the clubs are not friendly, then that can make for a bad night.
We have been to some clubs that sucked ass. Either they were dirty, full of drug dealer and crackheads, or too cliquish.