Buzz Kill!

[JustAskJulie]

Have you ever been out at a club having a decent time on your own (you and your other) when you make the mistake of talking to the wrong person/couple who then proceeds to kill your buzz?

This happened to us this weekend. We were out and I felt like I should be friendly and introduce ourselves to the table next to us, so I did. They seemed nice enough at first. Later on we were in a different part of the club when they came up to us and started talking some more, proceeding to compare and contrast the club we were at with another one ... and telling us how the other one was much more friendly, etc. I made a comment to them that I've made here many times "it is what you make of it.... if you want people to be friendly you have to talk to them... if you just sit and wait for them to come to you... you'll be bored" (or something to that affect). I don't think she cared for that comment. But that was just one of many things that she seemed to have a really negative attitude about. When they finally left us on our own... it was like the night just took on a totally different vibe... I'd lost my buzz! We stuck around for a while and met a few other more friendly and upbeat people but I just never could get that "good feeling" back again and we finally ended up leaving early.... all because I chose to introduce us to the wrong people!

No wonder some people never talk to anyone at the clubs! LOL.

[sereneiders]

Well, this sort of things happened to us.

We're regulars at a club, and this have an advantage: we know a lot of people. You know, as a couple you may develop a secret signs code to let your spouse know how things evolve when meeting other preople.

The funny thing is, something like that happens with the other regulars, and, well, I don't know if this is an usual behavior inside other clubs, but regulars trends to pay attention when someones aproaches you, I mean, it is a caring attitude, for example, if the unknown guy gets bold, he suddenly realize he's being surrounded with other people (mostly husbands) making him notice a bad behavior wouldn't be tolerated. I know, it sounds much like "mafia style", LOL.

For this sort of situations, often the only you have to do is give a significative sight to another regular nearby, and they come to rescue. Usually some other woman grabs the wife by her arm and pulls her aside to "play" or "start talking or joking", leving the husband alone with the couple. If this weren't enough to break the situation, the husband still have the chance to excuse himself to look for the wife. It works pretty well :-)

[good times]

This seems to happen every once in a while to us. We haven't found a cure or way to avoid it yet without becoming one of those people in the corner though.

[des1re06]

You were nicer than me. I would have ditched them quicker.

I do not like bad attitudes or drunks, and will let them know if they keep talking to me that "I'm not interested in furthering our acquaintance." Call me a b*tch if you want, but I don't waste my time with those kinds of people.

Now, you come to the club to have a good time, with a good attitude and we'll have a blast. I'll introduce you to all my friends, and we'll dance and make sure you feel welcome. It doesn't matter if it's your first time or 100th time at a club, just have fun.

Gosh, I wish we'd have seen you! We would have had fun!

Mrs. D

[havefuninsun]

It's amazing how negative people can drain the fun right out of you. What a bummer!

[VegasLee]

As many years as I have known you Julie I am surprised that you let someone else effect your mood.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by VegasLee

As many years as I have known you Julie I am surprised that you let someone else effect your mood.

You'd think I'd know better right. Hell, you'd think I'd be just like Des1re and get up and walk away a lot faster. Sometimes I'm just too nice. I think part of it in a way was I felt like we were having a decent converation and I don't really think the negativity really hit me until after we did finally lose them.

Des1re, yes I wish we had seen you. We don't get there often enough but we almost always sit up on the elevated section near the doorway to the play area.

[Spoomonkey]

The first couple we went to a club with sat with us at a table and talked negatively about everyone in the club. It was a bummer. No matter who was there, they had something nasty to say about them.

Which may explain why we all just kind of sat in our little corner all night...

The next week, we decided to go without this couple (who we've had nothing to do with since) and see what happens when we aren't being filled with negativity. Well - I am pretty sure you can still read about that night on the stories board

Now we've been there for a few years - and while there are some train wrecks out there - most of the people at our club are pretty cool. And ironically, one of the couples who has had the most public drama was the couple who had so many bad things to say about others... I guess it makes it feel better to be dysfunctional when you are pointing your finger...

So - yeah...

We know all about those buzz kills and we try to avoid them. But - sometimes you get sucked in and it really does bring the whole night to a grinding halt

Spoomonkey

[LOL_OMG]

Idea: we come up with an anti-buzz kill stun gun (much like a zat gun on Stargate SG1). We could call it an ABKS for short. It shoots out projectiles (much like a nerf gun) which have pheromone perfume....like you could squirt the Avon Perceive line on em....and call them buzz kill busters. Shoot it at buzz killers and it makes them more horny and less caddy!

OR....I could go to bed and stop talking

Mrs

[Tia Vampire]

The only buzz kill that we have gotton into so far is this guy that follows us around the club and if we are speaking with another couple, he makes it his business to make his way into the conversation. He's a single guy that i (the female half) has been with twice, but after he told me that he wants to be with a teenage black guy and me being the mother of one, it is a real turn off.

[havefuninsun]

Originally Posted by LOL_OMG

Idea: we come up with an anti-buzz kill stun gun (much like a zat gun on Stargate SG1). We could call it an ABKS for short. It shoots out projectiles (much like a nerf gun) which have pheromone perfume....like you could squirt the Avon Perceive line on em....and call them buzz kill busters. Shoot it at buzz killers and it makes them more horny and less caddy!

OR....I could go to bed and stop talking

Mrs

HAHAHAHAHA!!!

I love it!

[sereneiders]

Originally Posted by LOL_OMG

Idea: we come up with an anti-buzz kill stun gun (much like a zat gun on Stargate SG1). We could call it an ABKS for short. It shoots out projectiles (much like a nerf gun) which have pheromone perfume....like you could squirt the Avon Perceive line on em....and call them buzz kill busters. Shoot it at buzz killers and it makes them more horny and less caddy!

OR....I could go to bed and stop talking

Mrs

I am pretty sure Mr LOL_OMG already have one of those in his pants... unless you're not meaning to actuallt pee on those guys!