House party etiquette

[cuzzeyesaidso]

#1 I've always left it open for my wife to play with other people while I watched if the other lady wasn't into me. She hasn't taken me up on the offer yet, but she knows it still stands. I, however refuse to get into a situation where my wife is sitting watching me have all the fun. She told me she feels left out so it won't happen that way. Most people assume that when two couples hook up that it's a mutual attraction for everybody but it's not a requirement. We aren't the type to ask half of couple to play with us. It's all or nothing.


#2 That happened because you allowed it. Not trying to come down on you but it's the truth. Don't want it to happen again? Don't allow it. As far as your husband, he must have been very distracted. I see everything my wife does when we play. Not because I'm paranoid about what she's doing, but because I love seeing her get her guts rearranged. If I suspect for a second that she's not having a good time then I stop whatever I'm doing and we make a decision to do something else or just go home and screw like rabbits.

[2inVT]

Was there any communication with the other hubby before you reached for him? That would be important to me - making sure that the guy WANTS you to grab him.

It also doesn't sound like there was much communication between his wife and you and your husband.

Without any pre-game communication, how will you know what rules they have, and how will they know what rules you have? If you have specific limits, I'd think you'd want that to be made clear upfront. (For example, I tend to be very allergic to many types of lube, and to some condoms. I make this clear before we get naked, that I will provide lube and condoms. Otherwise, I take a chance on spending the next week scratching and itching.)

House parties are not wild free-for-alls where your very presence indicates a willingness to take on all comers. You still get to decide who you want to fuck, and "ask before touching" is the prime directive.