meet and greet

[cuminmd]

hello we have been lurkers for awhile love reading all the advice. no we need some we have been playing with friends for awhile and we both agree it has put a strain on our friendship. we would like to go to a meet and greet but don't know what to expect. she is very shy and self concouis about her body(5'10 and 165lbs not no barbie but looks good). opens up after she has had a cpl of drinks. i can talk to anyone who ever you are and like to meet new people. so i guess my question is what happens there and what should i except.

[bear_and_babe]

What type of M & G are you thinking about going to? Are you going to a on-premise or a off-premise club, a hotel or a vanilla bar that is setting aside room for a M & G. Maybe if you tell us where the M & G will be held that would help us answer your question.

[flkeyscouple]

Originally Posted by cuminmd

hello we have been lurkers for awhile love reading all the advice. no we need some we have been playing with friends for awhile and we both agree it has put a strain on our friendship. we would like to go to a meet and greet but don't know what to expect. she is very shy and self concouis about her body(5'10 and 165lbs not no barbie but looks good). opens up after she has had a cpl of drinks. i can talk to anyone who ever you are and like to meet new people. so i guess my question is what happens there and what should i except.

Do you have a meet & greet in mind?? Or just wonder what a meet & greet is like? Most meet & greets are vanilla (no playing) and really just a great way to get to know others that are in the lifestyle.

If you have a specific meet & greet in mind - because there are differences depending on where it is held and who hosts it - let us know and someone here could possibly give you more information on that particular type of meet & greet. Or you could talk to the hosts - they would be able to tell you the specifics for their M&G.

Meanwhile - welcome to the board!! It's great that you posted your question. I hope you'll stay active and keep posting!!

Mrs. FLKeys

[iapr]

As the others have said M/Gs can all be a little different from each other but for the most part they are just a setting where people can get together to get acquainted and mingle and network. Typically with a M/G there is no expectation of sex at that place and time but rather people meet and get to know folks they may be interested in and then they can arrainge whatever kind of get together they want privately.

As far as your wife being shy, that is by no means any kind of deal breaker at all. Swinging is a cross section of humanity so there are shy folks, outgoing folks, intorverts, extroverts etc etc. Our experience has been that if one person of a couple is at least somewhat outgoing and willing to approach other people for a conversation then they will do fine. It is when both parties of a couple are painfully shy and just sit there that they often end up as wallflowers. If you are able to have her with you and you can come up to someone and introduce yourselves then there is no reason to believe that you should have any problems.

[28volts]

Like flkeyscpl said, most meet and greets are at a restaurant, bar or club to meet new people, talk to get to know each other and you can ask questions with the seasoned couples. Most are friendly and glad to give you advise. Most of them will be discreet in a vanilla atmosphere. There usually is a variety of couples. You can introduce yourself or wait for someone to introduce themselves. It is a relaxed place with no pressure to do anything and you can get up and leave if you feel uncomfortable. Sometimes there maybe a hotel room set aside for those who want to play later.
If it is a event or holiday they like to have rooms for play, but that is usually mentioned on a invitation prior to that event and usually a donation is required.
Good luck and hope you guys stay and have fun facelick

Mr S

[curiousswingers]

HI we are new and just watching now too. My question is a little different. We are thinking of going to a swingers place and are not sure what to expect. I know that you can play there if you want to. How do you approach people you are interested in?

[nice_cpl_n_bama]

Originally Posted by curiousswingers

HI we are new and just watching now too. My question is a little different. We are thinking of going to a swingers place and are not sure what to expect. I know that you can play there if you want to. How do you approach people you are interested in?

Well, the line that usually works best for me is "Hi, I'm Jeff and this is my wife Laurie." Of course you'll have to modify that a little.....unless your names happen to BE Jeff and Laurie.
I always just act like I do in any social situation. If there's chemistry the flirting will happen naturally. Have fun!
Jeff & Laurie

[flkeyscouple]

Originally Posted by curiousswingers

HI we are new and just watching now too. My question is a little different. We are thinking of going to a swingers place and are not sure what to expect. I know that you can play there if you want to. How do you approach people you are interested in?

You can approach couples the same as you would in a vanilla setting - walk up, say hi, introduce yourself; or you can be more flirty and ask the couple to dance with you (both of you if you'd like). Really - it's whatever comes naturally to you. I know you'll worry about it, but don't... it WILL come naturally! Especially if you are normally outgoing people.

Good luck!!

Mrs. FLKeys