Long time no post and now I'll tell you about our first club visit.

[newandexcited]

I'm a newbie to the swinging lifestyle. I got on this site a while ago and learned quite a bit then backed off. Anyhow, over the Christmas/New Year holiday me and my wife went to our first club back in my home state of Ohio. The club was up in Cleveland actually. We only played together and since we hit the club on the Thursday before New Year's it was a bit slow....everyone gearing up for New Year I guess. We enjoyed our evening and then I just let it sit for a while before coming to a conclusion about the evening. (I know...took me long enough) Since this was the first swinging site I joined I thought that I would hop on and give my opinion and drop a few questions for whatever it's worth.

First we get to the club and check in. The guy at the door points to another door and says "the dance floor and bar are in there. I'll let the owner know your new, she'll met you in a minute." So we walk in. GIANT projector screen the second we walk in with hardcore porn. Not that we didn't expect some porn but it jumped right out and bit us off the bat. No problem though.

The owner meets us and another couple who is standing there and she shows us around. Really she was very nice and understanding. After the tour we grab a drink and head to the pool table. Figure that I play pool in regular bars...I'll play here to kinda get ourselves comfortable. My wife and I are smiling quite a bit at each other. Everything was surreal. After we finish the game we decide that it's time to attempt to chat with someone. Being a wallflower will do nothing for us. So we pick the other new couple. Figure since they are new and we are new we could sorta huddle for protection. LOL
We chat about this and that. And then the akwardness hits me and it's hard to explain.

See my wife and I talked alot about swinging. We are comfortable (we think) with sharing ourselves in a soft swap situation for now. But the akwardness came from the in between stuff. AH! I'm doing a horrible job explaining this.
Ok...When I was single, trying to hook up with someone had steps. Chatting, getting closer, arm touch, etc, etc. All of these were towards another single and the ritual move on with rather easy to read signals of go or no go. Simple. Then I got married. Flirting, as in chatting, little arm/shoulder touches, etc were ok because nothing would come of it and you'd grin, chuckle and then hug your significant other. Again no problem. This time the flirt had a realistic chance of moving along. I had no problem with her possibly doing that...in fact I was encouraging it. But I felt akward and unable to attempt any of that flirting because I was unsure of my wife's reaction. We had talked of how we'd react to the going down on someone or cumming or a myrid of other passionate situations. We believed we were ready for that but the simple lead up was not discussed and that really stopped me. I figured with as flirty as I was in the past, pre-swinger talk, that it wasn't an issue. I was wrong.

Anyhow, make a long story short we spent the night with newbie stamped on our forehead. We did enjoy the a couple rooms togther (one with a sex swing...WOW!) and we had a nice time watching a few couples enjoying each other while I had my hand up my wife's skirt. So really overall it was an interesting and fun night. And I now know an aspect that I really overlooked in this whole swinging situation. My wife and I will discuss it now that I've got a handle on what we need to talk about.
So....any comments? Anything other odd issues y'all can think of that I should investigate with my wife before our next attempt? Did anyone else find the lead up to swapping akward?

[spectraschain]

Good golly, wouldn't know what to say....you've pretty much covered it stern to bow...
And, there's this....

So really overall it was an interesting and fun night.

Not bad, I'd think....and, as rule, you don't see too many newbie couples utilizing the sex swing.

I think you did really well......

[Mr. Truelove]

I still have problems flirting. My hang up on it is that I am worried I would do something offensive, or take something too far. Yeah, it's kind of awkward constantly guarding what you are doing, especially if that's against your nature to begin with.

I just chalk it up to myself being new to this and that I'll get a bit better the more we experience. I'm sure you'll do fine too.

Mr. Truelove

[Lumina]

Originally Posted by spectraschain

Not bad, I'd think....and, as rule, you don't see too many newbie couples utilizing the sex swing.

Yeah the swing was pretty nice.

As I think about it, I think I'm giving him mixed signals. Swinging was always something that I thought was fine for other people but not something for me. But when he brought it up to me I decided to try it on for a bit to see what I thought. It's been very intriguing and I've gone through phases imagining us doing all sorts of things and then others where I can't imagine me being able to do anything. I've been open about all this, so I think it's likely that he's just unsure how I'll react so he was waiting for me to make the first move. Trouble is, I've never been a first move kinda gal.

Anyway, in the end flirting wouldn't have bothered me in the least. I was surprisingly comfortable having my husband change seats so he could get a better view of the hot woman taking her clothes off on the dance floor. And I knew with absolute certainty that if I got uncomfortable all it would take was a word or signal from me and everything would stop.

As for the club, I think it would have been better if it were more crowded. As it was we felt like we stuck out like sore thumbs and I just couldn't bring myself to play in public. We really wanted to go out for New Years Eve but he couldn't get the 2nd off and we had to travel.

[HardnJuicy]

Well,this gives me a chance to tell about our first time at a club.We went to Vegas two weekends ago,We were both up for it but didnt know quite what to expect.Fri.night,first stop GreenDoor,got the tour,saw guys jerking off and a good looking naked couple,so far not bad so we stayed for a while.After a while we started to get warmed up so I started to play with my wife and she looked so damnned hot that night that a group of strokers had been following us around,sometimes getting to close but we just tried to forget about them enjoying each other instead.She had fun showing off for all to see,showing her big tits,big ass and spreading her legs with no panties on the swing for some closeups for a few guys.We were also hit on by couples,a few guys and a lady with her man wanted my wife to touch her,but wife was not ready for girl on girl yet,Over all first night was cool ,when we got back to the hotel had incredable sex,she rode me and coundnt stop cumming and when I came it went thru my whole body,some of the hottest sex we have ever had.Will tell about next night on next post.

[HardnJuicy]

Cont. from last post,Sat. night went to Red Rooster,seemed different than GD,like a big house,very cool we thought,so looked around downstairs before going upstairs to couples area.When we got upstairs we wittnessed a lot of couples in different acts of sex,some oral and women getting banged everywhere,we knew this was the place for us.She looked amazing like she did the night before,purple dress that fit like it should,very tight and showed off her big soft curves and big tits which I just had to play with,we found a couch in the back corner and started to watch and play.A couple sat on the couch next to us and the lady started to give oral to her man and we could see everything cause the lighting was good.After a little oral show from both of them he got on his knees and entered her just a few feet from us giving us a great veiw of hardcore plunging,it was great.After they took a break to watch me play with her tits and I thought this would be a good time to show her beautiful furred pussy and we could tell the other guy liked what he saw giving my wife looks of desire,this made her very hot and she wanted him to touch her,I said okay and asked him if he would like to touch her tits,he couldnt get on her fast enough and felt and started to suck and play with her nipples while I buzzed her pussy with a toy we brought.In no time she was in heaven two men at once,then all of a sudden all the overhead lights came on as the club was nearing closing time but my wife said not untill I cum!In what seemed like no time she came twice and loved it,thanks to PandD for her first time with another man touching her since we have been married.We had a chance at an other couple before leaving but we were tired and just went to a local cassino and gambled untill we all shared a cab back to town.We are going back asap to see what else we can get into and we have been all over each other since we got home.We recommend all who want some lifestile fun to give it a try and watch out for the Zombie Strokers at the Green Door.{inside joke}

[prettylady]

Oh wow, Ya, I almost forgot how to flirt.
Dog and I were very lucky in that our first time was with a couple who new the ropes well.
They lead and I happily followed. My first time was fantastic. Ya I know I have already said that a few times in other posts. But I don't think anyone forgets their first.
I hope you find your comfort zone soon.
Best wishes
Your friend,
Prettylady

[newandexcited]

Ok...I'm sorta just bumping this thread hoping to get a few more people to suggest things that I may not have thought to take into consideration before my wife and I try again. Thanks to those who've replied so far. I'm feeling pretty good about where we are now but I figured the more angles the better.

[RANDI2]

For what it's worth, the issue of how to "get things started" is not unique to the club scene, and we're still not sure how to handle the transition from, say, playing pool to playing hide the pickle. Several times, we've been with other couples on a 2-2 basis, enjoyed the conversation, done the little flirting things like touches etc., and still haven't been able to figure out how to say "OK, enough of this; let's fuck."

But some things have worked for us at times. Obviously, dancing with each others' partners is one step in the right direction. Getting everybody's clothes off is a definite plus -- if you're home, a party game (even strip poker) works; if you're at a swinging club, suggest a trip to the hot tub. Finally, if nothing else works go to the play area and engage in some foreplay, either while watching others have sex or by yourselves in a place where others can see you. Pretty often, somebody will come watch or even ask to join you, and you can then decide what you want to do. If you're on the other end of this (watching), pay attention to where the couple you're watching looks. If either one catches your eye, that's essentially an invitation. Of course, you have to be absolutely sure before you join them, so definitely ask if it's OK.