Privacy issues at Clubs

[Ron2007]

I was wondering if any of you guys have had any thoughts or issues about privacy issues at on premises clubs. By that I mean things like ill-informed neighbors or whatever taking pictures as folks enter, or license plate numbers being jotted down. Also the thought of membership lists getting in the wrong hands.

I ask because it is the very last issue we have before we start our much anticipated foray into the lifestyle.

We are by no means public figures, but many of our friends are and we don't want to jeopardize them in any way through guilt by association or other stupid stuff.

Thanks! Your experience is most welcome.

[iapr]

I certainly can't speak for all clubs or all nosey neighbors or church-ladies but you need to keep a couple things in mind.

- most on-premise clubs are very discrete and some are downright clandestine. One that we have been to even the guy that works at the Quick Trip across the street does not even know it is there. Some of them only give out the location to paid members.

- Even though this is a big deal and of major significance to you it probably does not mean a thing to the rest of the public and therefor there really are no nosey neighbors doing the things you describe because they are too busy mowing the lawn or getting the roof reshingled or getting the kids off to dance class etc etc.

Now there certainly have been some clubs that have been targeted by church groups or overzealous local politicians at election times and those do make a big splash in the local media do to the titilation aspect of their storylines however if you have not seen the club you are planning on attending in the newspaper in the last several months it is a good bet that noone knows or cares that it is in business and that people are (gasp!) having sex there.

Just relax and go and have fun. Your most legitimate worrys are that there is some big ball game in town that night and people are going to that rather than the club or that Aunt Flo will make an unexpected appearance that night.

[Tom & Bonnie]

In the US at least, a Supreme Court Ruling prevents the government authorities from obtaining our membership lists.

The case is NAACP vs State of Alabama (1958) whereas the state of Alabama had ordered the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People to disclose its membership lists. At the time, the NAACP was involved in a bitter civil rights struggle. The Court thought that if these lists were made public, violent acts might be made against its members. The Supreme Court ruled that Alabama's demand for the lists had violated the freedom of association as guaranteed by the First Amendment.

[nvrgesus2]

I think you are dealing with some of the same issues my wife and I continue to deal with in the Life Style. Privacy is very important to us. Before we go to a club, I will search the local newspapers for any articles regarding swinging in general and the club in particular. For example the research I did for one particular club / city showed there was negative public interest in the club. When we called the club to make arrangements for our first visit, we had to meet a club member in a public parking lot and they would lead us to the club. Combined with the unfavorable press and the club’s concern about secrecy we decided to visit another club. Either real or imagined, the possibility of a raid or over zealous protesters was just too much.

With all that being said, our first Life Style experience was at a club. Wow did we have a good time! That was over two years ago and we still enjoy swinging.

[WesternSwing]

I would think that unless you were a public figure (say the Mayor) and someone was out to get you and was tailing you around to see if by some outside chance you visited a swingers club, and then took a picture of your car in the parking lot, you have nothing to worry about. The rest is just "Spy vs. Spy" stuff.

We've never really worried about such. There are some things we don't do, like have our company name on the vehicle we take to the club. But then, I'm kinda' funny about doing that even to a strip club.

Basically, someone would have to have it out for you specifically to do what you are proposing. And as long as the club is licensed with the city and there are no violations in progress, than you have nothing to worry about.

If you are worried about it, think about simply "dating" other couples. Then, it just looks like you are meeting friends for dinner at a restaurant. What you do when you go to your place or their's nobody really knows, huh?

Mr. WS

[charms123]

Be discreet if that is your thing. But have a good "story" too. We do!

The club we attend in Maryland is on private property. The club owners as also well connected with the local authorities.

all that said, just be careful who you tell, how you tell people and what you tell people. And mud on your plates help too.

Good luck,


M&N

[Ron2007]

Thanks for all the great advice and tips. It solved our last "issue" and forward we go!