Wife's birthday wish

[starchild66]

My wife want's to go to a swing club for the first time on her birthday weekend. Her birthday is on the 24th of Febuary. We are having a hard time no pun intended picking a club. Niether one of us has been to a swingers club and are a little apprehensive about it to say the least.
This will also be her first experience in the lifestyle in any manner.
Can anyone reccommend a club in Tampa or Orlando that might fit us ?

[intuition897]

If it's your first time to a club, do yourselves a favour and find one that is off-premises. The on-premises clubs might be a bit overwhelming to start with (depending on which one, I suppose) and there is always the added pressure that because there is the opportunity to have sex, there might be a perceived expectation that sex could occur on your first night. If this isn't your deal yet, seriously, go to an off-premises club. The atmosphere is still hot, you can still go as far as making out with other people if you so choose, and if you both really feel like going the whole nine yards, you can go ahead and book a hotel room where you can entertain your guests.

It sounds like it'll be a great birthday! You'll probably both be really nervous as you approach the door, but once you get in there, you'll see that the people are all really nice and not predatory in the least. You won't get that 'fresh meat' feeling. A few tips: 1) Go early and get familiar with your surroundings; 2)Let your host(s) know that you're 'newbies' and would appreciate it if they could introduce you to a few people; 3) Get away from that wall! Be brave, smile, make eye contact and warmly say hello to people you think you'd like to talk to; 4) Stick to your rules!!! 5) Focus on one another and don't go wandering off by yourselves. Your partner might feel somewhat abandonned and that's not fun. 6) Don't overindulge in alcohol; there are many stories about bad decisions that were made under the influence of alcohol...and they can't be undone. Don't go there! 7) Figure out some subtle non-verbal signals that only the two of you will understand to communicate. For example ordering one kind of drink means "OK, Feeling good, Ready to roll, etc." and another type of drink means, "We are SO outta here!" or "Not in a million years." Keep communicating! 8) Most importantly, just have fun. YOU TWO are the ones setting the rules for yourselves, and YOU are the ones who say just what is and is not comfortable. If it's uncomfortable or hurtful, just avoid it.

Good luck and have fun!

[Uomo]

It's your call ... (by my advice) ... pick another weekend.

My wife proposed the same thing to me our first time (swinging on her birthday) ... my response?

Oh HELL NO !!!

What you are suggesting is like going to your first swing event on your wedding anniverary or Valentines Day. Don't be stupid. You are brand new to this. Neither one of you know what's going to happen or how you will react when it does. I hope it works out great. But if it doesn't work out ... one of the two of you will be hearing about it for years (i.e. every time you get into a fight ... "You know where that son of a bitch took me on my birthday ...?"). I'm not going to give my wife that kind of ammunition. Play it safe and pick another weekend.

If things go right ... no big thing.

But it things turn out badly ... you'll be thanking me.

Wait a week. In the meantime (on her birthday), do something romantic. Can't go wrong.

[intuition897]

Uomo brings up a good point, actually. I wouldn't avoid going to the club altogether, because it could be an awesome time. I'd suggest agreeing to go and check it out, but if it stops being fun (for one OR both of you), make sure you have a backup Plan B waiting in the wings. Maybe a nice dinner or perhaps get a really nice hotel room with a jacuzzi. A bottle of champagne and some chocolate strawberries and you're all set.

[T-Rex]

We haven't been to any swingers clubs in the Tampa/Orlando area, but there are posts on this board reagarding some of them, as well as some information under the Club Listings and on the NASCA and other web sites. However, in Tampa we like to stay at Paradise Lakes or Caliente, and both have very fun nightclubs. Both clubs are just north of Tampa within a few minutes of each other. PL and Caliente are nudist clubs, but you can wear as much or as little as you want to the nightclubs. While they are not swingers clubs, there are swingers there, and either place should be a fun place to start if you are apprehensive. Of the two, maybe try Caliente. It is brand new and very nice. If you are apprehensive, but really ready to dive into the swinger club experience, consider driving down to Ft. Lauderdale for the weekend and going to Trapeze. Trapeze is so much fun!

[gaznrachy]

Can't recommend a club I'm afriad as we're a bit out of the area!

Just wanted to say good luck! I hope you have fun.

We went to our first club on my birthday and it all went fine, no playing but the atmosphere and surroundings were enough of a turn on for us for a first visit.

Don't expect too much from this visit, just experience it and keep talking to each other. You will be nervous

[fun_pairTX]

If you are experienced at swing, just have never been to a club, go the club route and have a great time. If you are new to swinging as well, have plan b ready just in case. Most clubs are sensory overload (at least the good ones are) and may be a bit much for the uninitiated.

[sweetmelissa]

Hello there,
We live in Central FL and have been in the lifestyle for 1 1/2 years. As far as Orlando goes, you are pretty much out of luck. There is a fairly decent off-premise club called Club Tastebuds which has a party every Saturday night (forget about Friday night, there is NOTHING going on). It might be good for a first-time experience, you might want to go just to watch and dance sexy, etc. As an off-premise club, that means nothing hardcore happens at the party, but there are generally "after" parties in people's hotel rooms. Be careful about going to one of these unless you are pretty sure about what you're doing, and I DO NOT recommend staying at the Heritage Hotel overnight (yuck). Get a room at the Florida Mall hotel or some other nice place close by. Check out http://www.clubtastebuds.net/ They are having a pretty in pink party that Saturday night. Tastebuds is pretty much hit-or-miss as the clientele goes, it's a good mix of people, but I have never had a bad time there! Just go with ZERO expectations that something is going to happen, and plan on doing each other that night if nothing else! As far as Tampa goes, they do have an off/on premise club (it's half and half) called Night Moves/Club Tantra. The AAHZ group (playfulswingers.com) is having a Pure Lust party that night. I have never been to Night Moves or Club Tantra, but have been to quite a few AAHZ parties in Orlando (they move the location around) and they are always a lot of fun. check out this link: www.aahzparty.com. The people are generally better looking at the AAHZ parties than at Tastebuds. You have to buy the tickets online. You also might want to go to playfulswingers.com and go to the forum section for upcoming parties to see who else is going to be there. Above all, remember the part about ZERO EXPECTATIONS and remember your wife makes all the rules (which you should agree on beforehand). Good luck to you and have fun!!!

[padoc]

Opps, sorry we didn't see this earlier. If you took the one posters advice and did something romantic for your wife's birthday, you may still be looking for club suggestions. If so, discuss what you two will and won't do at a club and set your ground rules before you go. Don't change them regardless of the temptation. After your evening is over and you've had a chance to discuss what you saw and experienced, you can then adjust your rules for the next time. We found that you'll be more successful in exploring the lifestyle if you move at the pace of the most cautious member of your couple.

Now, regarding a club in the Tampa area, we've been to several and think for a total "newbie" The Pleasure Palace, on Adamo Dr just off I-4, is the place to try. Check their website and go after 10:00 on a Saturday night. They have a nice nightclub atmosphere that can get a bit risque and can be a lot of fun to watch. If you go into the play area, you have your choice of private or open rooms and rooms where you can just allow people to watch. You don't have to do anything, you can just look around, get a feel for the place and watch the action. We try to get to the club whenever we are anywhere near Tampa and have never failed to have a fun and entertaining evening. The place is clean and well run. The clientele at the club is a good mix but is a generally non-pushy crowd so you should both feel comfortable. The staff will give you a tour and a run-down on the rules and from there you'll be on your own. Too bad we won't be in the area until April, we'd certainly "show you the ropes" if we could. Go with a plan, ground rules and an open mind and you should both have a terrific time.

[Darkane]

My only advice is the same as was mentioned earlier, don't do it the first time on a date that already has signifigance attached to it, it could create bad memories or reminders later if something went wrong, hopefully nothing does, but better safe than sorry.