On premise clubs-are the patrons less attractive?

[Tybee Swing]

...it is the "Ken and Barbies" that don't have as much fun. We have a few fit playmates but we have found the "real" people are much more fun.

So, fit people aren't "real", and they're much less fun? Hmmm.

So yeah I got a bone to pick with people who term themselve as "hot, attractive and fit" and yeah if your "Barbie and Ken" we just plain don't like your looks either so the feelings mutual.

You sound as if when you see a couple who appear to be the kind who are into fitness, you make a decision about them. Do you immediately think of these people as "Barbie and Ken" (plastic) when you see them, and decide right away that you don't like them?

It seems to me that people in both camps are apt to make odd and absurd judgments about people they don't even know, and may be only getting a first look at. Just as overweight doesn't equal "skanky" (a weird comment made earlier in this thread), being in shape, HWP or into fitness and health doesn't make a person not "real", much less fun to be around, or "Barbie and Ken". Nice, fun and friendly people come in a variety of sizes.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

So, fit people aren't "real", and they're much less fun?

That's the word on the street, T...

:rollseyes

The funny thing is, since we decided to start swinging, I've lost 40 lbs, started running half marathons, doing some fairly extreme camping and generally living a much more fit life. Sure, it makes me feel better about myself, but it is also better for me...

Sadly, this turns some people off...

You do what you can to be better looking, and people consider you less attractive...

But - what are you gonna do?

:brickwall

Me? I am going to keep working out, changing things, setting goals, setting an example for my kids and basically being the best me I can be. If people don't like me because I've cured my "dunlap" disease, that is their loss...

Personally, I think people say this because it is easier than buying running shoes*

Spoomonkey

*I am using "running shoes" to refer to the many things people can do to get themselves in better shape. I am not referring to just running which not everyone can do.

[BiloxiCouple]

I used to be real attractive. Then there was that marriage, kids, combat tour, Katrina, diabetes, hearts stents and the list goes on.

Somewhere in there we started swinging. You know what? It don't matter.

Live, Love and Laugh.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

Somewhere in there we started swinging. You know what? It don't matter.

Live, Love and Laugh.

Exactly...

Attitude is everything...

Spoomonkey

[SW_PA_Couple]

I don't bother the beautiful people and they don't bother me. The experience that JoAnn and I have had at clubs is that people, whether shaped like hourglasses, Greek gods, pears or pumpkins, are generally friendly. Sometimes we surprise ourselves. One or the other of us will pass a really gorgeous person and get a genuinely warm response. The key, I suspect, is to display a smile.

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

The experience that JoAnn and I have had at clubs is that people, whether shaped like hourglasses, Greek gods, pears or pumpkins, are generally friendly.

This has been our experience, too. In various states and different kinds of clubs, everyone seems nice to everyone. We've never seen anyone being rude to anybody in a club or party regarding size/shape/status/beauty.

Which is why I don't understand:

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

I don't bother the beautiful people and they don't bother me.

On occasion, we've seen small groups/cliques who seemed mainly closed off to "outsiders", but it felt more like they were there with their friends exclusively and didn't want to mix it up with strangers/new people. Or they were the much younger set who wanted to stay separate socially from the others. That's their prerogative - it's all good. It didn't bother us at all.

[badboyooplik]

When we went last night. We found a mix of people of all shapes, sizes, colors, races, and whatever. The place was packed with folks of all kinds. It was great fun we met a big broup of people who we will play with again., on and off premises. We met big people and thin people and big people into thin people and thin people into big people. WE had a ton of fun(no pun intended). I think we are going to become regulars there.

Absolutely noone made us feel anything negative about our weight.

[sexcupid]

I'm going to go out on a limb here.

Some of the previous comments in this thread basically allude to the equation:

overweight/fat = skanky

While I may not be as skinny as I was just a few years ago, and I do consider myself overweight...I sure do not drop into the skanky category b/c of that. Where I'm from, skanky comes in all shapes and sizes.

When we go out, I try to make sure I look nice. Hair and makeup, cute outfit, etc. We've been to the clubs a couple of times...and among other things, I was suprised at how many looked like they had just rolled out of bed from a nap.

Or my personal favorite...the wife or gf is dressed like a streetwalker...but the male half of the couple is the one looking like something the cat dragged in (baggy, scroungy looking tshirts and jeans). Seeing that just gives me a creeped out feeling...like the guy either isn't (or doesn't think) he's cute enough to add to the attractiveness of the couple, so he's just going to pimp out the wife and see if that works. JMO tho.

This from clubs who make sure to note on their websites 'dress to impress' and things of that nature.

Maria