We've become jaded

Bu&Sandra · 10-03-2004, 12:24 PM

We had to ask others as we feel that we may be odd in this. When we go to Clubs and walk around watching people play and have sex in front of us, it almost seems to de sex us. Have we become so jaded that when we walk around a club and see " oh look a blow job " or " did you see that guy dressed like a priest eating tha girl " It's like saying "could you please take out the garbage" LOL...Does anyone else feel this way ?
It's almost like seeing so much sex it has the opposite effect on us.Are we the only ones ?

Spoomonkey · 10-03-2004, 03:04 PM

I don't know - we are somewhat hypersexed anymore. Granted, we aren't really voyeurs... I mean, we like to watch each other when we are playing, but sex in public really doesn't do much for us. It sets the atmosphere, but for it to be hot it has to be something special.

Actually, we kind of dislike it when people start playing in the bar area or in the pool room. But - to each his own, I suppose.

Spoomonkey

**LikeMinds321** · 10-03-2004, 03:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Bu&Sandra

. . . Have we become so jaded that when we walk around a club and see " oh look a blow job " or " did you see that guy dressed like a priest eating tha girl " It's like saying "could you please take out the garbage" LOL...Does anyone else feel this way ?
It's almost like seeing so much sex it has the opposite effect on us.Are we the only ones ?

We haven't experienced being desexed...but I worry about that happening.

When I finally get to an on-premise club I want to be charged by the atmosphere, but not so overexposed that I become desensitzed and uninterested in sex.

Not all people can be pleasant to watch while having sex. I may find myself watching them with a less-than-pleasant expression on my face.

LM

ALilOEverything · 10-03-2004, 07:00 PM

I would hate to feel desensitized to it, I can't imagine that we would go often enough for that to happen though. I know the one night we went I did get more desensitized as the night wore on. But I still got a charge from it. The sex I liked to watch the most was that from two people in love. I don't know I could ever get enough of that. This is something to keep in mind though. When I walked in I thought it was the craziest thing I had ever done. Well how would I top it if it got old?

Tanman aka Mike and Marie · 10-05-2004, 05:42 PM

No you aren't, but after a while it isn't the novelty to see as it was the first time you saw it.

But personally everytime we watch other people having sex, its still exciting

Maybe you should "do more" and watch less, and when you do ...do it find someone attractive to do it next to. facelick

Have fun............................M-N-M

stoutgatte · 10-05-2004, 07:06 PM

Nope, you're not wierd in any way. We tend to experience it at the end of a night too. Oh look, there is another couple of couples having fun, yay...

It comes and goes with our moods though, some nights it's really hot, others it's just not.

**good times** · 10-05-2004, 08:01 PM

I think for me anyway, it depends on how attractive I find the couples that I see playing. If they would turn me on if I was with them, it will probably turn me on to see them with others. I can also understand what you are saying though, when we saw someone playing right out in the open in the bar the first time it was pretty exciting, now after seeing it many times it doesn't have near the same effect.

Just last week there was a girl giving a guy a blow job right at the bar in front of everybody while he was waiting for his drink......huh.....wonder if it turned anybody on watching me get that BJ.......can't say I was really considering that at the time.

facelick

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10-03-2004, 12:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
Bu&Sandra Here to Stay Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 49 Location: connecticut Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:babuandsandra	We've become jaded We had to ask others as we feel that we may be odd in this. When we go to Clubs and walk around watching people play and have sex in front of us, it almost seems to de sex us. Have we become so jaded that when we walk around a club and see " oh look a blow job " or " did you see that guy dressed like a priest eating tha girl " It's like saying "could you please take out the garbage" LOL...Does anyone else feel this way ? It's almost like seeing so much sex it has the opposite effect on us.Are we the only ones ?

10-03-2004, 03:04 PM	#2 (permalink)
Spoomonkey Chimpin' Ain't Easy Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 6,648 Location: Ohio Status: Married Monkeys - will you be our vine? Swing Lifestyle Name:Spoomonkey	Re: Are We Odd I don't know - we are somewhat hypersexed anymore. Granted, we aren't really voyeurs... I mean, we like to watch each other when we are playing, but sex in public really doesn't do much for us. It sets the atmosphere, but for it to be hot it has to be something special. Actually, we kind of dislike it when people start playing in the bar area or in the pool room. But - to each his own, I suppose. Spoomonkey __________________ "Eros will have naked bodies; Friendship naked personalities." - C. S. Lewis

10-03-2004, 07:00 PM	#4 (permalink)
ALilOEverything A Little Of Everything Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1,489 Location: Michigan Status: M. Female	Re: Are We Odd I would hate to feel desensitized to it, I can't imagine that we would go often enough for that to happen though. I know the one night we went I did get more desensitized as the night wore on. But I still got a charge from it. The sex I liked to watch the most was that from two people in love. I don't know I could ever get enough of that. This is something to keep in mind though. When I walked in I thought it was the craziest thing I had ever done. Well how would I top it if it got old? __________________ ~Lilo

10-05-2004, 05:42 PM	#5 (permalink)
Tanman aka Mike and Marie Looking for new friends Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 202 Location: Northern MI Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Mike_n_Marie	Re: Are We Odd No you aren't, but after a while it isn't the novelty to see as it was the first time you saw it. But personally everytime we watch other people having sex, its still exciting Maybe you should "do more" and watch less, and when you do ...do it find someone attractive to do it next to. facelick Have fun............................M-N-M __________________ Life's too short to not have as much fun as possible !

10-05-2004, 07:06 PM	#6 (permalink)
stoutgatte Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 332 Location: South-Africa Status: Male Half	Re: Are We Odd Nope, you're not wierd in any way. We tend to experience it at the end of a night too. Oh look, there is another couple of couples having fun, yay... It comes and goes with our moods though, some nights it's really hot, others it's just not. __________________ Stoutgatte: Plural form of the afrikaans slang for a very norti person...

10-05-2004, 08:01 PM	#7 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,634 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Are We Odd I think for me anyway, it depends on how attractive I find the couples that I see playing. If they would turn me on if I was with them, it will probably turn me on to see them with others. I can also understand what you are saying though, when we saw someone playing right out in the open in the bar the first time it was pretty exciting, now after seeing it many times it doesn't have near the same effect. Just last week there was a girl giving a guy a blow job right at the bar in front of everybody while he was waiting for his drink......huh.....wonder if it turned anybody on watching me get that BJ.......can't say I was really considering that at the time. facelick __________________ R (He is R, she is P)

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