Is it common to go to a club with another couple?

Originally posted by CanadianCouple:
Apparently you're not reading my posts thoroughly. It's the negative ASSOCIATIONS with someone that height. Specifically, they might tend to remind someone of kids when thinking of them in sexual terms. Is it a "visual thing" when your wife is hesitant to swing with people near her kids ages because they remind her of them?

Dan

It's not a question of being a "negative" thing, but more of an UNcomfortable thing. And like anything that makes "me" uncomfortable, I face it right on, find out WHY it makes me uncomfortable, and if I can live with it (my findings of why), then I'm no longer uncomfortalbe with it. If I can't, then I "study" the matter further UNtil I AM.

As for me so called being "hestitant" with the age thing, we would rather "get to know" them first, before concluding anything. Which I think is what you should've done first, before asking our thoughts on this matter, I guess. But you didn't, so here we are, talking about something that's really of no significance. This is like judging someone from their weight/height/colore/etc., before we really get to know them. Don't judge this person by what WE say and others (which I feel is a waste of negativity now), just go and meet with them and REALLY come to your own conclusions. I'm sure whatever your findings are, it will have nothing to do with her height. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

I had NO problem swinging with our first couple, especially since we took the time getting to know them first, even before actually meeting them in person, where the "visual" part takes place, and even then, I had NO problem with height/weight/color/etc.

As a matter of fact, only AFTER reading everyones posts, and all the "negativity" of this & that, that I realize that our children are of swinging ages, which only THEN I questioned myself about. I don't come from a "racist" background/culture, but have read/heard more about it in the lifestyle, but that doesn't turn me off about the lifestyle, only that people have SERIOUS issues about race/color/weight/etc., which is VERY sad... http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/frown.gif

As for what Liza just mentioned, the thought of swinging with others the same age as our parents DID come into thought, but way after we've been in the lifestyle, and again, only because of others who have this issue that made me think about it. Again, we'd have to get to know them beforehand, like everyone else in/around our OWN age bracket, before concluding whether or not they're "keepers", so to say.

As far as I'm concerned, "Friends" come in ALL sizes, colors, height, weight, etc., which is overlooked by "getting to know" them. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/smile.gif


CyberWife