Interview went awesome...

[tina78]

So we had our interview last night with the owners of the club we're going to tomorrow night, and there were two other couples there. The owners were super nice and easy to talk to - they joked around to break the ice, which was great. The other two couples who went really passed our expectations of who we'd meet doing this. They were very, very attractive people with fantastic personalities, and even after the owners left, we all stuck around the bar and got to know each other for a couple of hours. It was really nice. We pretty much decided that even if these were the only two couples we met that we were interested in, it would be well worth our time and energy, and we all decided together to "get to know each other" much better at the party, which I'm very excited about!!

My guy's main concern kept coming up throughout the evening and even on our way home....he's VERY worried about being left out and/or rejected, and I've tried to tell him that no such thing will happen, that I'll not do ANYTHING without him and that we will not seperate from one another all night. If a couple approaches us and doesn't want to share, we won't do it...there's no way it'll be a one-way thing with just me and anyone else. I don't know if it's sunk in yet, but he seems pretty concerned about it, and I noticed the other two guys last night made similar comments about being "left alone in the corner" while us girls went off to have fun. How else can I convince him this is not a me, me, me thing and he won't be left out??

[Elusive BiFem]

So what was the purpose of the interview? What kind of questions did they ask you?

As for your question about reassuring your guy...I don't know. I'll let others answer that for you. As I recall tho', ya'll haven't been together too long. I can see that that might be tough - trying to allay someone's fears and insecurities when the relationship is still young. All I can offer is to move slowly and never fail to include him as you said you would. Probably nothing will help short of seeing that you mean it and he really isn't rejected. (And I said I wasn't going to respond to that! Just think what I do when I AM going to respond!)

- EBF

[tina78]

Well, they asked questions about our relationship, simple ones, like...how long have you been together, who's idea was this, have you ever done anything like this before...etc. Then we had to read through some material - rules and what-not about the club and the lifestyle, along with some ettiquette things. That was pretty much it, it was easy to get through and the couple we met really turned out to be a ton of fun (though we have yet to know just how much fun they are since we didn't really do anything with them). The only time he mentioned his feelings of being left out during the party was when he made a comment about how everyone kept grabbing my ass...seemed like every time I walked through the room, someone was patting my ass or actually grabbing it, which I thought was cool...or like when someone would squeeze past me they'd really kinda grind up against....and he wondered why no one was doing that to him! LOL, I thought it was funny so I mentioned it to one of the girls I was talking to and before you knew it, he was getting just has much attention, and he loved it!

We went thru an interview process the same as you to get into a club for our first time. Well it was almost like yours.
Ours was over the internet. But after we filled out the questionare the owner called us at home to talk to us over the phone.

The funny thing was I didnt know mrs naughty had filled out the questionare. Hell I didnt even know the name of the club (Even though she claims she told me :rollseyes )

I just went alnog with the conversation not knowing who he was. I picked up on it pretty quick that this was something Mrs naughty had done.

After I got off the phone I called her at work and said "was there something you were suppose to tell me?"

[Candy&Cane]

Tina, we're very curious about the interview. Does this happen a lot in clubs, and what do they ask you?

[tina78]

From what I understand this is a typical process. I've contacted a few other clubs and they all wanted to go through some sort of an interview/orientation...like a phone call (though we had to be on the phone together, at the same time, as a couple) or an in-person meeting like the one we went to.

I'm glad they do it, I think it probably weeds out those who are simply curious, or are not truthful about what they want (i.e. a man taking his wife who has no clue what the club/party is all about), etc. It turned out to be a fun night and gave us a true taste of what was to come. My only dislike was we met at a public place - a bar that is located near both of our offices, and we were a little uncomfortable with the fact that someone we knew may see us and question why we were sitting a table with three other couples all looking at and filling out paperwork. We came up with the excuse that it was something for Amway...lol....luckily we never ran into anyone we knew!

[inbeachcouple]

Congratuations. And Welcome. If you're concerned with being seen, check out some of the local on premesis places.

Also, we have the policy that if someone wants to do/try something, they need to be willing/able to do/try the same thing back. Nobody gets left out that way.