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08-27-2008, 05:28 PM
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| Registered Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 8 Location: ny Status: couple
 |  Were we had?
We get a message from what we thought was a couple...to attend a lil party just a few couples..right before we get there we call the guy to see how to get their...he infroms us the his g/f which turned into a friend was still working and didnt know when she would get off....but theres gonna be more couples coming....soo we attend and find out that the couple just left soo now its me my girl and the male part of the couple...drinking and having fun in the hot tub....one thing leads to another and we basically full swap with the guy....even though he is a lil pushy...she likes it ...but it wasnt until afterwards that we thought about it....did we just get played by a posing single guy...? now I feel as we should have stoped what was going on and relized but...It was really just the heat of the moment.... And now me the male part feels like I should have stoped it.... just wondering if anyone else has had an experince like this...... |
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08-27-2008, 05:35 PM
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| ~This space for rent~  Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 4,749 Location: across the tracks Status: Couple
 | Re: were we had?
Yeah, it's possible he was NOT part of a couple and it's possible that there weren't other couples invited to this party. Some people will use what ever line works to get what they want. From your post, this guy sounds like a manipulator and a user. Steer clear of these fakers as much as you can.
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08-27-2008, 05:39 PM
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| Julie's Helper  Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 4,002 Location: Biloxi, Mississippi Status: Couple with benefits and retired Swing Lifestyle Name:graceful
| Re: were we had?
The party doesn't start till you want it to.......
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08-27-2008, 05:51 PM
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| Julie's Helper  Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 6,485 Location: Behind door #2 Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:mrmrsfun
| Re: were we had?
You really wont know unless you keep in contact with him and find the pattern. Or at least his girlfriend. Did you even get a chance to talk on the phone with his partner ? A call to work or cell phone should have been in order.... I would think  Other wise, I hope he was good at sex..... Then at least you HAD him  We've HAD a few  |
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08-27-2008, 05:55 PM
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| ♥♥♥ Lovin' This! ♥♥♥  Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 768 Location: San Diego Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:2inSanDiego4u
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08-27-2008, 08:24 PM
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| Better than Ice Cream  Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 6,651 Location: va Status: Couple. He posts, She reads
| Re: were we had? Quote:
I guess if you want to verify his status, you could let him know you'd love to get together with him AND his friend/girlfriend, then see how far he takes it before offering excuses. (personally I wouldn't bother, but take it as a lesson learned and move on). | |
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08-27-2008, 09:26 PM
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| Swingers Board Addict  Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 215 Location: Washington DC/NoVA Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:jjtrindc
| Re: were we had?
Interesting that your question is "Were we had?" -- cause it sounds like you had a good time. Now do we think that he was a single guy? Most definitely based on the circumstances. Had we shown up and found it to be just the one person, we would have bailed. That's us. MFM's just aren't are party. But you had fun so that's great. I guess that's one way to learn a lesson the fun way.
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08-27-2008, 09:45 PM
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| Registered Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 8 Location: ny Status: couple
| Re: were we had?
yea...but I feel like I (the male part) should have steped in and stoped it....and I feel as the guy is just some scum bag who lied to us both...and we should have bailed once we got there but...I don't know what was going threw my head....kinda left us rethinkin the whole lifestyle....
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08-27-2008, 10:12 PM
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| ~This space for rent~ Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 4,749 Location: across the tracks Status: Couple
| Re: were we had? Quote:
Be a little more wary with men (and women for that matter) who pose as married or having a significant other and then that significant other is "unavailable" when it matters. This is where you have to learn to follow your gut and just leave. Tell him you'd love to meet again when he's/she's there. Also, just for safety sake, we alway meet the first time in a neutral place. Cafe or diner would work.  Good luck in the future. | |
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08-27-2008, 10:15 PM
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| Being good is overrated  Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 4,221 Location: Poconos, PA Status: The boss of Mr. Sweet Swing Lifestyle Name:Sweet_tna
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08-27-2008, 11:19 PM
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| Being good is overrated Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 4,221 Location: Poconos, PA Status: The boss of Mr. Sweet Swing Lifestyle Name:Sweet_tna
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Just learn from the mistakes and move on. =) | |
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08-28-2008, 12:05 AM
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| Swingers Board Addict  Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 806 Location: North Central Florida Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:putnamcocpl
| Re: were we had?
We MUST learn a little more each day.. Here is the lesson for today.. When invited to a party, and the excuses are fast coming.. and YOUR the only couple there.. Oh yes its a party.. and you are the party FAVORS |
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08-28-2008, 10:44 AM
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| Swingers Board Addict  Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 1,870 Location: South Central Indiana Status: Couple
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If you dated a woman who jacked you around, didn't show up for a date, and when she did she brought along another guy and you never got a moment alone with her to even talk, would you be kinda rethinkin dating women? I don't think so If you and your wife had fun, take the fun. Don't over analyze. You probably were had. So what? For the future, decide if you want to accept a situation like this. If you don't, a polite "thanks but no thanks" is all it takes. Let him know that the two of you play with couples only, no exceptions. That's how it works for my wife and I. Couples only, and same room. Else, it's a non-starter and we won't play. The important part here is YOU get to decide, not the person you're meeting up with. To my wife and I, lying is ugly and a complete turn off. We don't care if you don't tell us everything, or even 1%. But, what you do tell us should be the truth. | |
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