Outed before we started

[Chip_n_Muffy]

Originally Posted by LOL_OMG

Sister in law comes home and looks at the screen, and I get drilled ....WTF was that? I know what swingers are!!! Why are you on that website???!!

Mrs

The internet is full of surprises. I found this board while I was, no shit, researching an engine swap on a Dodge Swinger!

If ya ain't carefull with your search terms, you're liable to end up far from the intended target. On the other hand, it might open up an entire new world for you.

Chip

[turnuptheheat]

Originally Posted by Chip_n_Muffy

The internet is full of surprises. I found this board while I was, no shit, researching an engine swap on a Dodge Swinger!


Chip

I was similarly shocked when I did a search on the Phillipines Moro Islamic Liberation Front
Took me six hours to find the site I was looking for!

[cocpl2007]

Originally Posted by AdamInEve

As we stated before, we are just in the talking about the lifestyle stage but it seems we were outed before we even had the opportunity to get directly involved. It seems that our wonderful 19 year old son has been snooping through our room while we were away. He must have found info about the lifestyle because he told the neighbor who is in a bitter divorce with his wife who happens to be good friends with Eve.
The neighbor told his ex (Eve's friend) and is threatening her for being friends with swingers. Its a big mess.
We live in a small community and we are sure this will get out. The sad part is we haven't done anything other then read some info. The 19 year old is most likely on his way out but save that, what else can we do to handle this situation.
Adam / Eve

I realize we're coming along a bit late in your post. We did have a similar occurrence. Our over 30 adult daughter confronted us about our ad on AFF. Something we thought had long since been deleted as we'd let our membership expire. WELCOME to the computer age. Those profiles and those pictures...well, all those sites make tons off volume of members and volume of pictures, so they DO NOT delete your profile or photos if you let your membership expire. It got real ugly, and really isn't at all settled yet. This happened over 3 years ago! The lessons we learned:

1. Delete your pictures on those sites when you are done with that site. Also post an empty profile and an empty photo album for a few days before your membership expires to make certain there is nothing remaining.

2. Only post what you want to VIEW at Thanksgiving Dinner with your friends and family present! Consequently we don't post pictures, and try to keep our profile & location relatively generic and discreet.

3. We refused to address our daughter's "concerns" about our sexuality. Our response was: "Our sexuality is absolutely none of your business. We do NOT want to know about yours, and you will have NOTHING to do with ours."
So much for taking the bull by the horns on this one...Geesh. What a mess!

Suffice it to say our daughter in DW's step daughter, consequently there isn't much left of our relationship.

Your son has no business knowing anything about you and Eve's sexuality. Perhaps paying his own room and board might just be enough to start that leaning process with him.

As for the neighbors, SO WHAT! Divorce in a big city, divorce in a small community and divorce on the desert can be u g l y. Divorcing folks can get so narrowly focused on their own personal issues those around them are not long before they feel like they are at ground zero. Even "IF" you and Eve were known in your Community as Swingers, Gays, SMBD...whatever; why would that have any sway on someone else's divorce. Sometimes being so close, makes it so hard to see the light at the end of all this.

Good luck with your Son, and let the Neighbors...be, well, the Neighbors. I'd not discuss a bit of this with any of them...even when you are visiting your son in his new abode! You've already gone far enough with your Son. It has to have an end. You and Eve can decide when this subject is no longer alive.

[undercovercpl]

Well, we were outed by our own mistake to my father-in-law...... At least he is kinda OK with it... But yea don't expect to be able to explain it to your average vanilla or 19 yr. old for that matter. You sound like you have it handled pretty well thus far.

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by cocpl2007

I realize we're coming along a bit late in your post. We did have a similar occurrence. Our over 30 adult daughter confronted us about our ad on AFF. Something we thought had long since been deleted as we'd let our membership expire. WELCOME to the computer age. Those profiles and those pictures...well, all those sites make tons off volume of members and volume of pictures, so they DO NOT delete your profile or photos if you let your membership expire. It got real ugly, and really isn't at all settled yet.

Out of curiosity, how DID your 30 y/o daughter find your AFF profile? Snooping on your computer or was she on the site as well? I don't deal well with hypocrites, even if it is a family member.

Maria

[cocpl2007]

She went over to the wake for her Grandmother, my ex's Mother. Came back in a terror. The "conversation" never got to determining exactly how they viewed our profile and pics on AFF.

Thanks for asking Maria

[wetmeow987]

dont let that stop you....it is just rumors now....go and have some fun

[wetmeow987]

we had someone start the same thing about us, and she actually told my sister...we laughed it off...it is no one elses business....forget about it.

[Mslavale]

everyone is different nd situation are alo diferent,
for us it was always simple, my life my body or marriage you dont like it F**K O**
we dont make a big deal about our lifestyle but we dont hide it either, and many in ourlittle 4,300 pop town know.
so much simpler