First foursome ended weird!

[socolais]

Blondie77, I want to thank you for posting this story, I think I learned a bit from it that is quite likely to help our future swinging adventures go smoother. As more details came to the surface after my earlier posts, it started to look like yall took all the right precautions - they clearly wanted to play even though they weren't quite as prepared as they thought. It sounds like you did the best you could to get to the root of the problem and your offers were declined. They'll work it out in their own way the same as yall.

The best of luck to yall

[ajones1969]

You didnt mention as to how much "same sex" was going on other than you and her kissed on a dare.
Reading what you typed, I would assume that there was no male/male play.

If that was the case, then I would suggest the small possiblity that her husband is bi and maybe they were hoping your husband was too.
It's possible that the time everyone was in bed may have been a "feeling out" period to see if your husband was going to make any kind of move or comment and since he didnt, then maybe they decided to pack up and go.

Kind of a long shot, but thinking back, do you or your husband remember any comments or gestures from the other couple/guy that may have indicated he had an interest in your husband?
You did mention that she repeatedly used the word "orgy" - which really has no clear definition in terms of hetero or same-sex-only activities.

Also consider the possibility that one of them may have broken one of their own rules - and that could have caused a nod or wink or dirty look that only they would be aware of.

In any case, you may never know what happened, and as most other people have posted, it doesnt sound like you two did anything "wrong". Write it off to weirdness and enjoy life

[sereneiders]

Some times you just cannot find out the right explanation. We all like the idea that we're able to control every aspect of the situation as it evolves, but the fact is, it only works if and when everyone involved is in the same page and wanting the same outcome. There are too many things as to be able to control something, so you cannot blame on yourself for the outcome, or for not being able to figure them out beforehand.

Getting to know people better isn't a bad idea. Yet, you cannot get to know them enough as to ensure the outcome. This is the sort of things you cannot ask "what if it happens" but that you have to suppose they will happen, and the question then is "when" and how to deal with the outcome.

It seems to me you did you best to deal with it, and they were unable to do the same. And I believe this is the only undestandable thing to take into account.

[swyngtyme]

OP, can you tell us more abou twhat happened just before the moment when you switched back to your primary partners? What motivated the switch back, who's idea was it, how did it happen?

I wonder if there was some misunderstanding around this moment. What if they were still into it, the switch was suggested, and they thought that meant you were uncomfortable or calling ahalt to things?