VERY Full Swap - He wants my wife all weekend...

[ShellyM]

My rule of thumb is: if you are getting that nagging little feeling like something is not right, ITS PROBABLY NOT RIGHT. Listen to your gut feeling. Perhaps this is something you and your wife will be comfortable with in the future. A couple we know does it, and they LOVE it! I say if it gives you pleasure and everyone truly is into it do what feels good. But in this case it sounds like only 50% feels right with it. I can only tell you what I would probably do. You are just feeling too much hesitation, I would not do it at this point. You do NOT have to apologize or even explain. You say "no thank you, its not for us at least for now" and that should be it. You are her husband and she is your wife. You don't owe them any explanation.
Shelly

[lovinher]

Spectraschain, thank you for pointing out that I said "my wife" and that I would wonder why she would want that. I wouldn't want anyone to think I was talking about everybody in that situation. I thought I made that clear, but if you missed it I'm sure somebody else did too.

Once again you have done this board a great service with your insight.