craigslist SEX - "Casual Encounters"

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

Another SB thread mentioned someone who uses craigslist to find sex. This hadn't occured to me!...I sell furniture on there.

 

I just took a look and was amazed at the number of posts on craigslist from people looking for sex in our area...hundreds of listings! The problem is that it's apparent most people are looking for something bawdy.

 

I did a search with the word "swingers" and only one list came up from a month ago.

 

This discovery is very entertaining to me. I'll probably start reading the "Casual Encounters" listings to get a laugh. I did come across one ad from a service man (plumber I think) wanting to "service" someone during his work day. You've got to get a kick out of that.

 

 

Anyone ever meet swingers through craigslist, or know people who have?

 

Would you even consider it?

 

LM

[NumbskullsX2 24]

I just took a look and was amazed at the number of posts on craigslist from people looking for sex in our area...hundreds of listings! The problem is that it's apparent most people are looking for something bawdy.

Anyone ever meet swingers through craigslist, or know people who have?

 

Would you even consider it?

Considering all the problems and drama that seems to come with meeting people on regular sex sites, why would anyone consider it?

 

I do know single women who have used match.com to meet guys for casual, no-strings sex. According to them, AFF tends to bring out married men and hard core pervs, and e-harmony gets people who are looking for marriage. matchcom is kind of in-between.

[MRnMSbhaven 45]

This hadn't occured to me!...I sell furniture on there.

Would you even consider it?

 

Nope. As the MR once said... I don't sell my piano on dating sites and just don't see myself advertising in the shopper for playmates.

 

Ms B

[good times 990]

We have never used it but know a few people that have. In our area, most of the ads on Craig's list from females are escorts trying to pick up business.

 

One of our swinger friends that likes to primarily play with single guys has nearly destroyed one of our favorite swingers clubs with her ad. Before a party she intends to attend, she sometimes puts an open invitation on Craig's list for any single guys that want to meet her there. As this club does not limit single guys and charges them the same admission as couples, the place has become overrun with single guys. So much so, that we have noticed less couples attending. I don't know what they can do about it, but I fear that something is needed before no couples attend any more at all.

[NumbskullsX2 24]

One of our swinger friends that likes to primarily play with single guys has nearly destroyed one of our favorite swingers clubs with her ad. Before a party she intends to attend, she sometimes puts an open invitation on Craig's list for any single guys that want to meet her there. As this club does not limit single guys and charges them the same admission as couples, the place has become overrun with single guys. So much so, that we have noticed less couples attending. I don't know what they can do about it, but I fear that something is needed before no couples attend any more at all.

We know of one club like that also,and have heard that it's happening at some clubs in Florida also. In the one case, the "swinging houswife" is related to the owner (or maybe it was the manager?) and since the guys pay the same there is no "problem" only more money for the club. 25 single guys and 10 couples brings in the same amount of money as 25 couples and 10 single males, so why "fix" it?

 

This particular club is old, smoky and run down and probably coudn't get 25 couples anyway, so maybe it's a wise decison from a business standpoint.

[BiloxiCouple 694]

We have never used it but know a few people that have. In our area, most of the ads on Craig's list from females are escorts trying to pick up business.

 

One of our swinger friends that likes to primarily play with single guys has nearly destroyed one of our favorite swingers clubs with her ad. Before a party she intends to attend, she sometimes puts an open invitation on Craig's list for any single guys that want to meet her there. As this club does not limit single guys and charges them the same admission as couples, the place has become overrun with single guys. So much so, that we have noticed less couples attending. I don't know what they can do about it, but I fear that something is needed before no couples attend any more at all.

 

Limit the number of singles or limit her?

[The Fuse 1,012]

This thread is hilarious to me, not because I've ever used Craigslist to find sex (ew!), but because reading its "Casual Encounters" ads for a laugh is what first got me worked up enough to talk to Mr. Fuse about the possibility of an alternative sexual lifestyle for us.

 

I was looking to buy a used TV, which is a pretty standard use of Craigslist. I saw the link to "Casual Encounters" and thought, gee, this will be good for a chuckle. From there, I looked at the same link on the San Francisco site -- now THERE's some interesting reading -- and came across two guys looking to share a woman. I thought being that woman, in the middle of two guys, sounded pretty good, but of course I'd never get to do that in my life...

 

Then I told Mr. Fuse about some of the funnier ads I'd read... then bit by bit started exploring the idea of swinging. And from there it went, and went, and went...

[LFM2 1,481]

And there is me -- I don't ever remember even hearing about Craigslist. I mean ever. Is it kind of like an ebay place? Can you buy and sell sex on ebay? Hmmmm?????

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

Fuse ~ That is one great story..."How craigslist led us to swinging" I bet Dr. Phil would love that.

 

LFM2 ~ Yes, craigslist is like ebay, from what I've been told. But I've never been to ebay so I can't make a comparison.

 

Check it out, if you have anything in your basement you want to get rid of you might want to sell it on craigslist. If not, you'll be entertained by the "Casual Encounters" section.

 

LM

[CrazyCampers 15]

The first thing that popped into my head after reading this thread is a doors song and then I took-a-look locally on craigslist and yup, confirmed...

 

People are strange!

 

Thanks for the good laugh

[MRnMSbhaven 45]

People are strange!D

 

As opposed to what we do for fun?

 

Ms B

[JustAskJulie 2,588]

And there is me -- I don't ever remember even hearing about Craigslist. I mean ever. Is it kind of like an ebay place? Can you buy and sell sex on ebay? Hmmmm?????

 

 

Craigslist was started in San Francisco by a guy named Craig (go figure), it's similar to Ebay in that you can sell things (or offer them for free) on it, but Eba is more of an auction site (although you can now sell things right out rather than auctioning them). Craigslist (unlike Ebay) is very localized. It started in N. CA and spread into major markets across the country, so if you are in a smaller area it's highly likely that Craigslist hasn't really hit your area yet.

[havefuninsun 122]

Yes, I've sold a lot of stuff on Craigslist, even bought my son's car off of craigslist. For fun, I looked for swingers last night, but we must all be on SLS in my area. The only thing I could find is some guy's ad, over and over, who wanted to be invited to house parties and needed a female partner to get invites... entertaining stuff!!

[LFM2 1,481]

if you are in a smaller area it's highly likely that Craigslist hasn't really hit your area yet.

 

Thinking that might be the case, I googled it, and lo and behold, everyone around me has obviously heard of it and there is sex galore. If you're looking for it, you could probably find it in this place.

[couplewanting50 65]

Considering all the problems and drama that seems to come with meeting people on regular sex sites, why would anyone consider it?

 

I do know single women who have used match.com to meet guys for casual, no-strings sex. According to them, AFF tends to bring out married men and hard core pervs, and e-harmony gets people who are looking for marriage. matchcom is kind of in-between.

 

Do men ever use match.com that way also? I would think match would not allow it, since they represent themselves as a conventional dating site.

 

You know women who have done this. You mean married women wanting to hotwife, or single women? I would think implementing that approach on match would be problematic.

[Nudesailing 16]

We enjoy looking at craigslist but just for fun, most of ads in our area are m4m and f escorts looking for business.

[Greg & Sheryl 368]

We enjoy looking at craigslist but just for fun, most of ads in our area are m4m and f escorts looking for business.

We, too, occasionally look at the "casual encounters" section purely for the entertainment value. However, a long-time friend of ours met someone through Craig's List last summer, and they recently got married! True love can be found on the internet after all.

[WesternSwing 504]

Mrs. WS posted her services for Tarot readings on Craigs List. The only responses she got were from pervs wondering what other "services" she offered and if those Tarot readings came with a "happy ending". She won't even post a dog for sale on there anymore much look for an intimate encounter.

[NumbskullsX2 24]

Do men ever use match.com that way also? I would think match would not allow it, since they represent themselves as a conventional dating site.

 

You know women who have done this. You mean married women wanting to hotwife, or single women? I would think implementing that approach on match would be problematic.

The girls I know are single. They sometimes get approached by married men on match.com, but they can usually tell in advance who they are by the fact that they don't post pictures in their profile. I can understand why somebody wouldn't have their pic in an AFF or SLS ad, but there's no reason for them not to put it on match unless their worried that their spouse (or SO) might see it.

 

Their ads don't actually say their looking for NS sex, I don't know if match will let them do that, and even it they did, they probaly wouldn't say it that way. They just say in so many words that they're not looking for marriage, or that they just want to meet some people to have fun with. "If you look through the profiles, you can tell who's looking for what" It's very low pressure for women compared to putting an ad on an adult site.

 

I think services like match.com are the new "singles bars" forpeople who don't like to drink or smoke, or who don't like to be restricted to "flirting" only on Friday nights at a bar.

[two4youinswva 3,067]

We enjoy looking at craigslist but just for fun, most of ads in our area are m4m and f escorts looking for business.

 

I checked the ads here, and they are the same.

- Except the M4M tend to be married M for M.

[havefuninsun 122]

but there's no reason for them not to put it on match unless their worried that their spouse (or SO) might see it.

 

Uh huh ... people at work might see it!

 

I did the match.com thing (in fact, that's how I met Mr. Fun!). I didn't post a picture for a long time because I didn't want work people to find me. I felt it was none-of-their b'ness. After a while, though, I got over it. And I got a HELL of a lot more responses with a pic (sound familiar? LOL).

 

Mr. Fun didn't have a pic, but I corresponded with him anyway (he's high enough up on the totem pole that he REALLY didn't want to be found online). We met for a blind date, and the rest is history ...

 

I attempted to post an ad on match.com a few years ago, a female looking for a female, and word it so that it was clear we were a pair. Match stripped a lot of the language, and I didn't get any hits from it, either. But it was worth the experiment.

[NumbskullsX2 24]

I did the match.com thing (in fact, that's how I met Mr. Fun!). I didn't post a picture for a long time because I didn't want work people to find me. I felt it was none-of-their b'ness. After a while, though, I got over it. And I got a HELL of a lot more responses with a pic (sound familiar? LOL).

 

Mr. Fun didn't have a pic, but I corresponded with him anyway (he's high enough up on the totem pole that he REALLY didn't want to be found online). We met for a blind date, and the rest is history ....

How totally COOL! I don't think being a single female has the same stigmata(is that the word?) that it did in my parents time. Nowdays, it's ok for a woman to not have a "regular man" in her life, it just means she has options and is using them. Besides, we all know who in the office is single and who isn't, so what's the difference between saying to your friends and co-workers "I'd like to meet a man" and putting an ad on line to do it?

 

There was something in the news a few weeks ago that said that over one third of all first "dates" from internet dating sites ended in bed, which is more than most swingers I know. So I guess it's working for somebody, :lol:

I attempted to post an ad on match.com a few years ago, a female looking for a female, and word it so that it was clear we were a pair. Match stripped a lot of the language, and I didn't get any hits from it, either. But it was worth the experiment.

Have you tried adding the words "open minded, nudist" or "swinging" to your search? I'm not saying you'll find anybody, but you'll get some interesting hits (at least, so says my husband, who's not supposed to know anything abut that stuff:lol:)

[dakzzz 15]

Craigslist is mostly fake ads. I've meet someone twice on there but I went through hundreds of fake ads and got a lot of spam in return.