How do you determine that your potential playmate are actually disease free?

BD2 · 02-10-2004, 08:00 PM

This may be a stupid question (OK, I know my mother said the only stupid question is the one NOT asked) but we are new to this lifestyle and concerned about D&D and cleanliness. How do you determine this? Some info is obvious, but some not. Want to jump in...but a little nervous.

Mrs. BD2

Vjklander · 02-10-2004, 09:57 PM

Ask, use protection. Some will go so far as to ask to see test results. We prefer to go out to a vanilla dinner first, just to check them out. Then ask yourself, Would I trust this person with the keys to my Corvette and house for the weekend. If you can't trust them that far, you can't trust them with your health eh.
J

BD2 · 02-10-2004, 10:22 PM

Thanks for the advice. Sounds like we're on the right path and instinct goes a long way too.

BTW - what's a vanilla dinner and where can we get more explanation of acronyms (some are easy, but others are just a little more obscure

BD2

lookin_forfun65 · 02-10-2004, 10:53 PM

Vanilla = plain, regular - something tame, with no expectations, just a friendly sort of get to know you dinner.

Not sure where you can get all of the acronyms, etc. Just ask, someone will be happy to help you. We all had to ask at one point or another.

Welcome to the board!

RnLinohio · 02-10-2004, 10:56 PM

you can get alot of the terms in the dictionary on this web site. It is at the top of your screen.

Good Luck in your adventures.

Robin

BD2 · 02-11-2004, 10:36 AM

Duhhh! Thanks Robin! Didn't even see that! It really helps!

gsu22 · 02-11-2004, 11:17 AM

It can also be pretty obvious at times whether or not the people you meet can be easily trusted. I usually look to see if they're pushy at all in the initial phone convo. You can tell a lot about people by the way they present themselves when first meeting someone. If they're nervous then that will make ME nervous and I start doubting the whole trust issue.

BD2 · 02-11-2004, 11:23 AM

Instinct does work well for us usually, so we'll rely on some of this. Being new to this though you hear a lot of people talk about how they "thought"...

So far the folks we've talked with seem to be very honest and up front. That's been a great breath of fresh air! (Why can't everyone be like this all the time???)

BTW - love the quote!

Mrs. BD2

gsu22 · 02-11-2004, 03:56 PM

Thanks

....I love when the best friends are apart!

***JustAskJulie*** · 02-19-2004, 03:34 PM

There is no way to ever be totally sure that potential playmates are D/D free. Some people lie and often they may honestly not know. As others said it really does come down to trusting your instinct and asking questions. Never be scared to outright ask and if ever you get a feeling that things aren't right... go with your gut.

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02-10-2004, 08:00 PM	#1 (permalink)
BD2 Active Member Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 25 Location: Wisconsin Status: Couple	How do you determine that your potential playmate are actually disease free? This may be a stupid question (OK, I know my mother said the only stupid question is the one NOT asked) but we are new to this lifestyle and concerned about D&D and cleanliness. How do you determine this? Some info is obvious, but some not. Want to jump in...but a little nervous. Mrs. BD2

02-10-2004, 10:53 PM	#4 (permalink)
lookin_forfun65 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 124 Location: GA Status: Couple	Vanilla = plain, regular - something tame, with no expectations, just a friendly sort of get to know you dinner. Not sure where you can get all of the acronyms, etc. Just ask, someone will be happy to help you. We all had to ask at one point or another. Welcome to the board!
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02-11-2004, 11:17 AM	#7 (permalink)
gsu22 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 248 Location: Atlanta, Georgia Status: Single male	It can also be pretty obvious at times whether or not the people you meet can be easily trusted. I usually look to see if they're pushy at all in the initial phone convo. You can tell a lot about people by the way they present themselves when first meeting someone. If they're nervous then that will make ME nervous and I start doubting the whole trust issue.
	__________________ " A girl's legs are her best friends, but the best of friends must part". -R. Foxx

02-11-2004, 03:56 PM	#9 (permalink)
gsu22 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 248 Location: Atlanta, Georgia Status: Single male	Thanks ....I love when the best friends are apart!
	__________________ " A girl's legs are her best friends, but the best of friends must part". -R. Foxx

02-10-2004, 09:57 PM	#2 (permalink)
Vjklander Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 834 Location: VA Status: Couple, Straight M, BiFem Swing Lifestyle Name:Vjklander	Ask, use protection. Some will go so far as to ask to see test results. We prefer to go out to a vanilla dinner first, just to check them out. Then ask yourself, Would I trust this person with the keys to my Corvette and house for the weekend. If you can't trust them that far, you can't trust them with your health eh. J

02-10-2004, 10:22 PM	#3 (permalink)
BD2 Active Member Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 25 Location: Wisconsin Status: Couple	Thanks for the advice. Sounds like we're on the right path and instinct goes a long way too. BTW - what's a vanilla dinner and where can we get more explanation of acronyms (some are easy, but others are just a little more obscure BD2

02-10-2004, 10:56 PM	#5 (permalink)
RnLinohio Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 136 Location: Ohio Status: Couple	you can get alot of the terms in the dictionary on this web site. It is at the top of your screen. Good Luck in your adventures. Robin

02-11-2004, 10:36 AM	#6 (permalink)
BD2 Active Member Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 25 Location: Wisconsin Status: Couple	Duhhh! Thanks Robin! Didn't even see that! It really helps!

02-11-2004, 11:23 AM	#8 (permalink)
BD2 Active Member Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 25 Location: Wisconsin Status: Couple	Instinct does work well for us usually, so we'll rely on some of this. Being new to this though you hear a lot of people talk about how they "thought"... So far the folks we've talked with seem to be very honest and up front. That's been a great breath of fresh air! (Why can't everyone be like this all the time???) BTW - love the quote! Mrs. BD2

02-19-2004, 03:34 PM	#10 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	There is no way to ever be totally sure that potential playmates are D/D free. Some people lie and often they may honestly not know. As others said it really does come down to trusting your instinct and asking questions. Never be scared to outright ask and if ever you get a feeling that things aren't right... go with your gut.

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