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| Active Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Posts: 48 Location: Charlotte, NC Status: Single Male
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How do you assess std risk? (And for those of you who would say use common sense, how about going into exactly what that means for those of us that don't have any.) I've asked a number of people, and some of the answers I have gotten thus far have been: "You look at how they are dress, and act." "You take into consideration where did you find them at [bar, online, through a friend, etc.]" "You just know." "You ask them how many partners they have been with. If they've been more than what I can count on my hands, and feet, then that's too many." "If she smells down there, there's probably something wrong with it." |
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| Laura's Male Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 1,950 Location: Las Vegas, Nevada Status: Laura's Male
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It appears you have been receiving answers from many people that have no common sense. |
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| Julie's Helper Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 4,002 Location: Biloxi, Mississippi Status: Couple with benefits and retired Swing Lifestyle Name:graceful
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Lab work. Everything else = FAIL.
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 723 Location: North Caroliina Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:ncfuncouple98
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Those answers do not equate to assessing STD risk. They are trying to use a crystal ball to determine if the partners they choose will have an STD. Assessing STD risk to me is understanding how the various STDs are transmitted, the risk associated with each, the implications of catching it and how widespread they are. Then you choose whether you want to be sexually active or not. It's knowing the risk and consciously accepting the risk; not trying to use a crystal ball. |
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 1,130 Location: Aabama Bear Cave - Don't poke the bear Status: M. Male - MrsCoupleErotic's other half
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Start by asking some simple questions. Q 1. Are they a member of a high risk group? Intravenous drug user, homosexual, in non-monogamous relationship? Answer: YES!! No need to ask any further questions except , do you have STD blood work results? If the answer is no, but.....(insert whatever you like here), then you know the risk is higher. If the answer is yes, (and you can see them and they are negative) then you know the risk is lower. Regardless there are still risk. |
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 217 Location: Portland,OR
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One giant figure to get here: most heterosexual women that get HIV get it from a man for whom the primary risk factor was IV drug use(not promiscuity or homosexuality)--many of whom were casual IV drug users and didn't know they were infected when they passed HIV on. I'd put ANY use of cocaine, heroin or methamphetamine as a major risk factor. Basically we are talking 5-10% of the sexually active population being associated with over 50% of the new HIV infections. Oral tests for a variety of drugs are available for $1.85 or so in quantity. They aren't accurate except for a few days-but give instant results. Hair tests can detect use for much longer period-but can run $55-75 and require a sample be sent to a lab. Still, I think is perfectly reasonable for someone to make a condition of a relationship or encounter regularly taking such tests. |
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 217 Location: Portland,OR
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Beyond asking for STD tests, consider how old of tests you will accept-and what tests you require. Porn actors get tested for a bunch of stuff semi-annually-and HIV, Chlamydia and gonorrhea every month. My guess is that for most swingers, annual comprehensive STD tests and quarterly tests for HIV,gonorrhea and chlamydia(or if any symptoms presented themselves) would go a long ways to making things safer. Many insurance carries will cover an annual sTD screen. Typically they won't cover frequent testing-but you can get HIV/Gonorrhea and Chlamydia tests from home-bio-test.com for $85 the three.(but personally, I would accommodate any hot lady that wanted more recent results) The other big things you can do: learn how to do a visual inspection. There is no FDA approved test for men for HPV yet. Most folks that have HSV haven't been tested. If you see small sores or bumps in the genital area, that is a pretty good indication something is going on-and you probably need to play more carefully than you might otherwise. The thing about HSV and HPV is that HIV can piggyback from these diseases. |
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| Active Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Posts: 48 Location: Charlotte, NC Status: Single Male
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Those are some very interesting answers, though I do not think they reflect the level of thought that the average person on the street puts into this question, which would be more indicative of how the general population thinks. Most of the answers that I receive to this question would indicate a level of thinking that is almost purely subjective in nature, and prone to a greater margin of error in measuring risk than using the tool that I proposed in the Online STD Risk Assessments thread. You can't tell who has an std by the way they dress, and act. Nor can you rely on your gut instinct, as the person who said "You just know" suggested. And if it does smell down there, then yeah, something may be wrong, but that doesn't necessarily mean its an std. It could be poor hygiene. What these answers and others like them reflect is an inability to objectively measure risk, which is one of the reasons why I proposed the idea. |
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 217 Location: Portland,OR
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I saw a scientific paper a while back that said that black teenage women were rather poor at assessing the relative HIV risk of potential partners. That paper has been used at times to support the idea that use of condoms is the only possible precaution for preventing spread of AIDS. The thing is, just because some teenage woman with no specific training can't accurately assess risks in the throws of passion doesn't mean that risk can't be statistically assessed. It also begs the questions of just who are the "experts" that really are effectively reducing their risks relative to what one might expect(which is what my training in similar areas has taught me to look for when handling a problem like this). I personally suspect that for most people, these kinds of measures are only going to reduce risk 50-60% without using STD testing or substantial lifestyle changes-and that even getting that would take more training than most folks are willing go through. |
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| Better than Ice Cream Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 6,651 Location: va Status: Couple. He posts, She reads
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| Active Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Posts: 48 Location: Charlotte, NC Status: Single Male
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The reason I asked this question was to examine the alternative to my idea for an Online STD Risk Assessment, to see if it offers any improvements whatsoever over our current situation. In some ways, I think it does.
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| Julie's Helper Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 4,677 Location: Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania Status: a very married man Swing Lifestyle Name:SW_PA_Couple
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Before I begin a trip in my automobile, I always ask my windshield-mounted GPS navigation device to plot a course. The navigation device has some useful options. I can choose the fastest route, the shortest route, the route that takes me onto no freeways or the safest route. Funny thing, though. Whenever I choose the safest route, the on-screen map shows only a short blue line leading to the end of the driveway and back into the garage. A little mechanical voice says, "You've already arrived at your destination."
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 1,130 Location: Aabama Bear Cave - Don't poke the bear Status: M. Male - MrsCoupleErotic's other half
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| Active Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Posts: 48 Location: Charlotte, NC Status: Single Male
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The parallel being that while abstinence may offer the most absolute form of protection, it is not practical advice to give to a population that chooses to be sexually active; something better is needed if we are ever to live in a world where stds are in decline. | |
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