HPV Advice.

I recently had a wart (didn't know what it was at first) about 8 weeks ago appear on the back of my neck. I didn't know what it was and kind of picked at it a little thinking it was just some sort of dead skin or a skin tag.

About 4-5 weeks after I noticed the first wart I had another different shaped wart on the base of my penis appear. Which I thought was an ingrown hair.

Last week I got nervous about both, thinking the one on the penis might be a wart, and the one on my neck could be cancerous or something so I went off to see the doctor. He knows my history as a swinger.

He tells me that both are warts, (which I have never had before.) But he cannot tell me if the wart is HPV or not. If it is HPV he states he couldn't even tell me when I am "over" it. And that he wouldn't be surprised if I never show any more symptoms. He advises me that the type of HPV that does cause warts rarely ever causes cancer in women, and that it is a different type that does that. He kills both warts, they fell off and have pretty much healed over. He does mention that the wart on my head my be the same type of virus that caused the one on my shaft since I was picking the one first and making it bleed.

So basically I leave the office and this experience confused on what I should do regarding the lifestyle.

I basically don't know for sure that I have anything. IF I do have something I won't ever know when I am over it for sure. And even if I could tell, there is no telling if I have a dozen other strains that show no symptoms at all.

So how do I approach this with partners? Do we give up swinging, and if so for how long? Do we inform them the situation the best we can and let them decide? We are at the point where we might start having a few regular couples that we are frequently with, but not to the point where we know them really well, and it will certainly be an awkward conversation.

It's quite frustrating because for all I know this could be absolutely nothing. But if I were on the other end, would I want to know? I asked myself a lot and I am not sure the answer. I might rather not?

Any advice is very appreciated. At the moment we have frozen activities...

[good times]

Sounds like they were just warts to me. I think your doctor was right and you got a wart on your neck and then through contact spread it to your groin. No way to know though, as he apparently told you, their is no test for HPV in males.

[Chicup]

Always the unregistered

Does it sound bad? No.

Still it can take several months for the infection to clear the system. Personally I'd hold off activities for at least 6 months to be sure you are not passing it along.

[prometheius]

I'm not surprised that it's always the unregistered. If I was in this situation I would not want to advertise that I had HPV, would you?

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by prometheius

I'm not surprised that it's always the unregistered. If I was in this situation I would not want to advertise that I had HPV, would you?

Why?

Being this is the internet and its anonymous, why wouldn't someone with a question about a STD be open about it?

The answer is because swingers are very hypocritical on this issue. You don't know who I am, you have no real names, so if I came out and said 'Chicup had HPV' the only "person" effected would be my user name, unless of course I linked my Swing Lifestyle profile. Well if that was the case why wouldn't I want people to know?

Oh yea because I want them to still have sex with me!

Sure its embarrassing, but deep down we don't want to blow our chances.

Many years ago we were on LL and this sort of behavior was pretty obvious when it came to their very active forums. No one would ever talk about things like STD's, even in passing, because of course the forum was linked to your profile.

Added the odds of someone disagreeing with you had to do with your sexual orientation and attractiveness.

Ugly couple - lots of hostility
Hot couple - Lots of support
male bisexual couple - lots of hostility

There is a reason why STD's in life are an issue and thats because people lie. I only buy the 'undetectable but contagious' crap so far.