Ugh. I hope we don't have anything

We almost never have sex without a condom usually. But last night, we picked up this latina girl who got hot and bothered. We almost started to discuss STDs early since it was becoming obvious we were going to have sex. She said she has none, and she gets tested regularly, last time being this month. Plus she has two kids, so it makes sense that why she wanted to have that discussion. So we wound up having unprotected sex. But regret it now... She also mentioned she uses IUD. I'm assuming she was telling the truth since she brought up both subjects and seemed to be knowledgeable. We just hope she wasn't lying. I wound up doing it only a little while with her, but mostly with my gf. I didn't ejaculate in her.

Here's her profile. Latina. 25. Two kids. Personality was sweet. However, we moved really fast into sex.

For STD testing, I have to wait 3 months since thats how long it takes for some to show up in the bloodstream. This had happened only one other time with the results coming back all negative, thank goodness.

I realize there's no way to really know unless we get tested. Given what I've said, I'm hoping to get some opinions (and piece of mind) from people here who potentially have unprotected sex all the time that it's somewhat unlikely STD was transmitted given this situation (she brought up the STD topic, latinas STD stats, etc).

[VegasLee]

We can all come on here and blow smoke up your skirt to make you feel better but there is NO WAY anyone on here can tell you if you caught anything or not by you making an anonymous post on a message board.

We have been in the Lifestyle for 30+ years and have never caught an STD. We also know people that have had one, 1 night stand and ended up catching something.

Common sense comes into play.

You want to feel better? Get tested. You just want to wait it out? Do that to. Nothing we can say here would be of any real benefit to you.

[Edison Carter]

Susan here-- 89 days to go for peace of mind over getting a 'piece'. Make a calendar.

If there's ten things coming up the road at you, nine of them will hit the ditch.

[SexyNSingle]

Just make it a golden rule to ALWAYS play safe, then you never have to worry.

[N8ture Girl]

I wound up doing it only a little while with her, but mostly with my gf. I didn't ejaculate in her.

Doesnt matter how long you did it, you had contact with her.

For STD testing, I have to wait 3 months since thats how long it takes for some to show up in the bloodstream

. Not sure about the three month thing, but your wife/GF might want to be tested too. There is not a test for HPV for men.

I realize there's no way to really know unless we get tested. Given what I've said, I'm hoping to get some opinions (and piece of mind) from people here who potentially have unprotected sex all the time that it's somewhat unlikely STD was transmitted given this situation (she brought up the STD topic, latinas STD stats, etc).

If you have unprotected sex you CAN get an std. Just because she says she doesnt have any I would want to see the results if she is so forthcoming with the info. Besides if she had a test done with in the last month, how many partners has she had since that were unprotected? Tests are only good for the day they were taken.
Sorry I cant give you peice of mind. I hope you are right and your resutls come back negative in a few months....

[Fundamental Law]

The original post and responses highlight the importance of managing risk. Swinging involves managing relationship risks as well as managing physical risks. The latter include STDs, pregnancy,...

Managing the relationship risks involve communicating with one's partner. Managing the physical risks involve preparing oneself.

Whatever rules you set for yourself, stick with them. You'll be happier. Condoms are inexpensive. We view their use as mandatory. No raincoat, no playtime.

[Chicup]

Well you could have HPV, though you can get that wearing a condom.
You could have HSV II, though you can get that wearing a condom.
You could have the clap, though you can get that wearing a condom.
You could have AIDS, though you are a male, and its pretty rare to go female to male.

Lighten up really. STD's are a RISK of swinging period, condom or no condom. Condoms lower that risk but every time you have sex with someone else you get that risk. As long as its not HSV II or AIDS, its 100% curable even if you do get it.

I think a lot of people get a false sense of security wearing a condom, like its a magic shield. I'm not a 'no condom' person, not in the least, but I'm also a realist. If you are going to have sex, you have risk.

Hell I'd be more worried about the pregnancy thing than an STD, but if you didn't come in her, despite hype to the contrary, there is VERY little chance of her getting pregnant from your precum and all that. If thats all it took we wouldn't go to the extreme we do as males making millions of sperm and seminal fluid. One clear little drip and we would be done.